Our wedding was a week ago, and we've been on our honeymoon since. The wedding was beautiful and everything we ever wanted. Of course, there were small things that went wrong, but nothing that significantly tarnished the day. I am very happy with the way it turned out.
That being said, two "dramas" happened. I am quite prepared to bury them under the rug and never worry about them again, but for the sake of entertainment, let's play "Should this upset me?" Warning - LONG.
1) Our wedding was on my brother's birthday. We asked him if that was okay before we even picked the date, but our venue had it open, it was a Saturday, and things fell into place. He was completely fine with it. We planned to maybe have the DJ do a little announcement later in the evening during the dancing.
However, before a single toast, before the cake was cut, almost immediately after we were announced into dinner, a "friend of the family" (an older gentleman who thinks highly of my brother) stood up, called the attention of the whole room, toasted my brother, and made all of us sing Happy Birthday.
I am generally not an AW, but this stung. My dad hadn't even given the welcome toast at that point, and here everyone's attention was pulled to my brother's birthday. I am not upset with my brother, surely, but should I be upset with the guy who toasted it?
2) One of DH's oldest friends, a girl, "Lisa" was dating a guy, "Bart." Well, DH and Bart became close as a result of this relationship, and Bart was asked to be a groomsman. Bart works at a job that requires him to deploy 4 months at a time, and he got back home 2 weeks before the wedding. 3 weeks before our wedding, Lisa broke up with Bart, which was very much unexpected by Bart. He was horribly hurt, but put on a happy face for us. Both were still invited to the wedding, of course, and neither was given a +1, as they were together when invites went out, and single to our knowledge at the time of the wedding. Well, Lisa came to the ceremony. She then asked Bart if they could "talk" during cocktail, hashed it out with him (she had not seen him since he got home, by her choice), then left. Before dinner.
So, not only did she cost us money for attending (which we would have paid, for her to attend, but her plate was wasted), but she dragged a groomsman into a fight about their relationship AT OUR WEDDING. Should I be upset? This was a friend, but I feel that behavior was uncalled for. Just FYI, she had specifically told us (unprompted) that despite breaking up with him, she would not cause drama at our wedding. It honestly was not a concern of ours, though I guess it should have been.
So, verdict? I am fine with hearing that I should not be upset, but WWYD?