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Would this have annoyed you?

climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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edited June 2014 in Chit Chat
A good friend of mine has offered many times to help with anything wedding related. She's very crafty and even offered to help make favors, decor, etc. I didn't take her up on that. However, she was an English major and is a self-admitted grammar Nazi so I asked her to proof-read my invite and RSVP card. I emailed it to her on 5/30. She said she was busy that day and then asked when I needed it by. I told her some time in the next few days because I had to place the order. 

I finally heard back from her yesterday, 6/12. She asked a title question regarding my FI. And then that was it. Nothing back telling me if it all looked OK. 

It's now been two weeks since I sent it to her. I'm going to email her today, thank her and tell her that since I needed to order, I had someone else look over it. 

Would you be annoyed if I did that? 

Would you be annoyed if you were me? 

I'm really not upset. A little irked. But I'm bored today and wanted to see what you guys though. Is this day ever going to END?
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  • ElcaBElcaB member
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    I would not be annoyed if you had someone else look at it because clearly, if I was so intent on being your proofer, I would have done it within a few days like you requested. Besides, you should always have multiple proofers (coming from someone who designs advertisements & writes other published works), so in theory, you should have planned for her and at least one other person to check it over. 

    I would be a tad annoyed if I were you, but not annoyed enough to say anything. In retrospect, you maybe should have given her a specific date. I don't think it's a big deal, really. 

    Also, I'm with you. Can it PLEASE be the weekend?
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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    ElcaB said:
    I would not be annoyed if you had someone else look at it because clearly, if I was so intent on being your proofer, I would have done it within a few days like you requested. Besides, you should always have multiple proofers (coming from someone who designs advertisements & writes other published works), so in theory, you should have planned for her and at least one other person to check it over. 

    I would be a tad annoyed if I were you, but not annoyed enough to say anything. In retrospect, you maybe should have given her a specific date. I don't think it's a big deal, really. 

    Also, I'm with you. Can it PLEASE be the weekend?
    Can I tell you how crazy I am? I had my mom, FI, dad, FMIL and MOH all read it over. I was so stressed that I'd accidentally put the wrong date or time. 
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  • KaurisKauris member
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    I'd be annoyed if I was you, I would feel guilty and then get defensive if I was her. And yes, why is it only lunch time!?!?! Day needs to end.
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  • slothiegalslothiegal member
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    Eh, I'd be a little bit irked, but nothing to hold onto.  And I don't think she'll feel bothered; I'm sure she had every good intention of getting it done, but life had a stupid habit of getting in the way of plans.

    And no, this day will not ever end.  I feel like I'm back in high school, where I would try to keep myself from looking at the clock for as long as possible.  I would think, OK, at least half an hour must've passed by now!

    And it would turn out to be like, two minutes.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Yes.
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  • birdybride2014birdybride2014 member
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    I'm SO bored too. I've been sitting in my office today doing absolutely NOTHING work related. But I don't really have much wedding planning research to be doing anymore....so I need a new hobby lol.

    I don't think I would have been annoyed- if I were good friends with this person I would have following-up with her more regularly, and suggesting that if she does not have time to complete the proofreading then I would have someone else do it instead. But that's just how I would have handled it.
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  • NYCMercedesNYCMercedes member
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    I'd be annoyed, but then again, I'm super judgey and it's easy to annoy me.
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  • KatieinBklnKatieinBkln member
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    I would be annoyed with her if I were you. Proofreading a wedding invite takes 10 seconds if you already know the rules, and maybe 10 minutes if you have to look them up. I say this as a copy editor.

    If SHE is annoyed that you sought other "services," then she's out of line. Weeks to check over something quite small without checking in is unacceptable, even if you are just pals and you didn't "hire" her.
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  • jdluvr06jdluvr06 member
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    I would be annoyed too.
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  • MuppetOverlordMuppetOverlord member
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    I'd be annoyed but I'd just move on and post it to us and let us examine it for you. Just remove the location.

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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    KatieinBkln said:
    I would be annoyed with her if I were you. Proofreading a wedding invite takes 10 seconds if you already know the rules, and maybe 10 minutes if you have to look them up. I say this as a copy editor.

    If SHE is annoyed that you sought other "services," then she's out of line. Weeks to check over something quite small without checking in is unacceptable, even if you are just pals and you didn't "hire" her.
    Yeah, that's really what irks me. We've been friends for 10+ years. She's married and she sent out wedding invitations, so she knows what's entailed. If it was too much for her to do, she could have said something. But two weeks to read over a relatively short invite is kind of crazy. 
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