This is partially just a vent, but also looking for advice on how to preemptively diffuse some probable family drama.
FI and I are getting married in October. We decided to wait and not go on our honeymoon immediately after the wedding because of schedule conflicts, and we were also trying to figure out where we wanted to do/go. Finally last month we decided on a Mediterranean cruise for May 2015 - cruise and pre/post-cruise hotels are all booked/paid for.
A week later we hear from FI's father that FI's cousin "A" (who got engaged months ago) and her FI finally picked their wedding date - which will be smack in the middle of our trip. FMIL is upset because she thinks once A's mom finds out, she and their 3rd sister will make FMIL's life a living hell by bitching about it nonstop (FI's extended family can easily thrive on stupid drama), and told us to think about changing the dates of the cruise. FI asked another of his cousins about it and that cousin told us that he thinks it "will cause issues" if we miss the wedding and that we should cancel and reschedule the honeymoon.
I believe that we can't plan our lives to please other people, especially when A and her FI didn't check dates with family members other than her immediate family (which, I know isn't necessary and more of a courtesy to begin with, but I also think that if it was really that important for FI and I to be there, she would've checked with us to make sure we could do that date.) FI and A have never got along so it's not like they're close to begin with, but I will be flabbergasted if either of his aunts came straight out and request that we change our honeymoon to accommodate his cousin.
The specific cruise we booked was because May was still considered "mid/shoulder season"; postponing even 1 month would raise the cruise prices by $300/person, and both the airline and hotel prices will also go up because June is the start of high season. Also, I just don't feel like having to justify FI and my choices. (We did buy trip insurance that will give us until 90 days before the cruise to cancel at 100% refundable, but for issues such as job or medical, not a 24 y/o cousin and her mom throwing a diva-style tantrum, so I feel this little fact is besides the point.)
Which of the following would likely be the best course of action?
1) Say nothing, and if it comes up, bean dip them.
2) Say that we are not changing the dates of our trip no matter what.
3) Consider changing the trip to appease everyone.
4) Other (write below)
