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Re: where to post

• manateehugger member

  

  June 2014

  Let me tell you, people will be PISSED if you lie to them about something as important as your marriage. I know from personal experience.

  It's hurtful and selfish to do so. People have the right to know what they are celebrating.

  

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• pinkcow13 member

  

  June 2014

  No one was rude. I read the whole thing. I think there was very helpful advice on here. 

                               

  

  
  

   

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• CMGragain member

  

  June 2014 edited June 2014

  Sorry, OP.  It is not in your power to close a discussion.  Doing this will attract a lot of negative attention to your post, and some of it is likely to be really snarky, which none of us have been.  I think you should change it back before this happens.
  We are really trying to help you.
  
  PS.  Deleting your posts won't make any difference, either.  You were quoted, and it is there for anyone to read.
  

  

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• ashley8918 member

  

  June 2014

  KatieinBkln said:

  shrekspeare said:

  deemarie72813 said:

  we are not married yet - still engaged ... and we are both over the age of 26. I was just trying to get a few opinions that's all - some of you on here are very rude and some are helpful. it is my choice of what we are going to do. like i said i wanted to get a few thoughts, i'm going to make sure this is my last post on this website 

  Literally no one is being rude. Good lord.

  I was actually thinking to myself how...restrained...everyone seemed to be. Not even a "NOPE!" gif to be seen...

  Please allow me to rectify that.

  
  

  
  

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• deemarie072813 member

  

  June 2014

  ok thank you to all that responded much appreciated 

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• CMGragain member

  

  June 2014

  As I posted earlier, have a lovely courthouse ceremony, with or without a wedding dress, and send out wedding announcements as soon as you are married.  Then have a kick-ass celebration party later, when you will be Mr. and Mrs. John Already Married!
  

  

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• lkristenj member

  

  June 2014

  deemarie072813 said:

  ok thank you to all that responded much appreciated 

  I really hope you do appreciate it and take it to heart. No one here was trying to make you feel bad, rather trying to help you see the truth of what that potential choice really means and save you from hurting those you care about.

  Sometimes we have a problem and think we find the perfect solution, but don't consider how it will affect other people. Your friends and family should be happy for your marriage, not feel slighted because they weren't included in it and upset that you lied to them.
  

  

  

  "They say there's no such place... as Paradise. Even if you search to the ends of the Earth, there's nothing there. No matter how far you walk, it's always the same road. It just goes on and on. But, in spite of that... Why am I so driven to find it? A voice calls to me... It says, 'Search for Paradise.' " - Kiba, Wolf's Rain

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• theartistformerlyknownas member

  

  June 2014

  Congratulations on the baby and the engagement, and I really hope you can find the best, most honest approach to your marriage.

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• luckya23 member

  

  June 2014 edited June 2014

  Have you checked on private insurance rates for your fiance?

  My work insurance isn't great, but I think it would actually be more than my SO pays for his private insurance to add him to mine.  They don't usually just give it free for a spouse, you have to upgrade to the "family" plan.  My mom also recently lost her own insurance, and it's about $500/mo for my dad to add her.  I think she's just waiting for medicare at this point.

  ETA: Duh, you will need the family plan anyway for the baby!  I don't know if they charge per person, I don't think so.

  

  

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