FI and I are just in the beginning of the whole wedding planning and I already feel like saying f**k it. My dad is giving us a little bit of money to help (which is our wedding gift) and the rest will be me and FI paying. We are on a very low, tight budget and I just feel guilty spending this money. Both of us have small families and neither of us are super close to them. Same with our friends. We have about 15 close friends coming to the wedding (half of those are SO's), but we see these people like 3-4 times a year.
I'm not sure if these are my real feelings or if it's the stress or a combo of the two. Any feel this way when first starting off?
Re: Any one ever feel like saying F**k it to this whole wedding thing?
But you really don't even need a wedding to be married. You could just JOP it, reserve a room in a fave restaurant for the friends that come in, scrap the wedding industry trappings entirely.
What does your FI think?
However, I'm the type of person that has always loved, loved, loved weddings (and is probably considered a victim of the industry). Plus, my FI wants to do a lot of traditional things and if it makes him happy, then I'm happy too (as long as it fits in our budget).
The biggest thing here is that you have to do you (and your FI too) - your wedding day, however simple or elaborate, is a total reflection of you as a couple. It may sound corny/cliche, but follow your heart on this one (at least within budget, of course) and you can't go wrong.
Good luck!
I hated almost everything about wedding planning. When I thought about the prices it made me even more nuts.
Looking back, I'm glad we did it because my parents loved it so much & I lost both of them shortly after we were married.
You have to do what feels right to you. Forget about what everybody else says / wants. What is going to make you the happiest?
If it were up to me, we would elope in the mountains and spend a weekend in a honeymoon suite, drinking champagne and having sex. I really don't think I'd look back on our wedding and regret that. But people say that if you don't have a wedding you'll regret it. I don't think that is true for everyone. It might not be right for you.