FI and I got into a huge fight yesterday while driving to his mother's to drop stuff off. Probably our worst fight to date. When we pull up to her place, I'm trying to clean myself up and stop the tears, trying to play it down. She immediately yells at FI (I couldn't follow her ridiculously fast Spanish), makes me get out of the car, and basically drags me into her apartment.
She was so sweet! She sat me down on the couch and let me cry for a while. She tells me how FI could never do better than me but that he's a complete idiot sometimes and doesn't know how good he's got it. We also had a great conversation about the family and her sons which helped me close a few gaps that FI never wanted to talk about. She then proceeds to start cooking for me before taking me home. She even packed my lunch for work today- enchiladas with her homemade mole.
It was really nice to have a mom giving me - to use
@ohannabelle's
words- soothing mom noises. I try not to call my own mom after fights
because I feel like it's unfair to FI.
But FI and I did agree that we probably shouldn't involve any parent in future
squabbles!
I was home by 4:30 and she even called to check in on me.
FMIL and FI were estranged for a long time so she stays out of our business for the most part and is just grateful to be involved in our lives. In fact, I know she wouldn't have done anything if I wasn't bawling in the car when we pulled up. I don't normally think parents should get involved in this way but it was the most welcome gesture ever. FI was also a bit relieved because it gave us a little bit of time apart to let things settle down. I should also add that I was careful not to overshare with FMIL or break FI's trust.
FI's still a complete shithead but we're fine.
What's FMIL/MIL great with?