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Lurker Says Thank You!

WeeshWeesh member
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edited July 2014 in Wedding Etiquette Forum
Just wanted to drop a note to say thank you--lurking over the past year and a half was SO helpful for my wedding.  We're married! :) We planned what we could afford and everyone had a great time.  My husband and I planned most of the wedding together, but my mom was so proud when her friends texted and called her to tell her what a great time they had and how gracious we were.  My aunt and SIL said they got our thank you notes before they even got home from their trips and said it was the fastest thank you note they've ever received.  I pre-addressed them before the wedding and got them out within a few days.

People were really happy that we blocked rooms (many hotels ended up selling out for the weekend and it didn't cost us anything to do it), had enough chairs at cocktail hour, reception, and ceremony, and that we really seemed to take their comfort into consideration.  We were able to invite everyone with a date, and even though a lot of people didn't bring one, they were happy that we did that for them.  So, I have to say thank you!  I didn't/don't post very often, but I read a lot of different threads and it was so helpful to read about different situations and how people feel when they go to a wedding.  I have four weddings next year for family and very close friends, and I'll be sending them here when they have questions.  Thanks again!

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Re: Lurker Says Thank You!

  • Congratulations.  


    I'm so glad we were able to help you out.  Sure our delivery might be a little off-putting sometimes.  But our advice is sound.  






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • KaurisKauris member
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    Congratulations!! Glad you had a wonderful wedding!
  • Congratulations! I've learned a lot here also. I think many would save themselves a lot of trouble if they lurked here awhile before posting.
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  • Weesh, pre-addressing thank you envelopes is such a great idea! I want to steal that one. Did you end up wasting some envelopes, though, if not everyone gave a gift?
  • WeeshWeesh member
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    Thanks! @lyndausvi I had a couple of times where I was a little taken aback, but I'd rather know the truth about how people feel instead of offending them in some way.  I honestly don't think that people do it intentionally, but they get caught up in expectations or the whole "my special day" thing.  I also realize what a huge impact other weddings have on someone's knowledge about weddings and how that impacts their expectations.  My bridesmaids were shocked that I let them pick out dresses and shoes, and didn't want their hair all to be the same.  They all looked so gorgeous and they looked like themselves.  I have a childhood friend who told her bridesmaids they couldn't get pregnant for her wedding because that's what other brides told her.  Whaaaaaat?

    @kns1988 I'm finding that the biggest thing that people feel strongly about is thank you cards and getting them in a timely fashion. I would have liked to send a photo, but I know I won't have photos for 2-3 months.  I bought a package of nice thank you cards from Michael's with a coupon, and I only have 4-5 that weren't used yet.  I've kept them there in case they send something in the mail.  I was able to get 30-40 cards done in a few hours with the pre-addressed envelopes.
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  • Congratulations!
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