Would you be mad if I addressed your invite this way?

Re: Would you be mad if I addressed your invite this way?

• VulgarGirl member

  

  July 2014

  chibiyui said:

  I addressed my invites similarly, mr. SO's and so and mrs. So and so. Some were still addressed as Mr and mrs. Same damn name because that was what I was given/preferred by them. I know how I addressed the majority was "wrong" but you know" change doesn't happen by following the rules. So. There is nothing wrong with mr. Jack ass in this case mentioning, hey my wife and I prefer to be addressed Mr and Mrs jack asses. There is everything wrong with mr. Jack ass saying you addressed it wrong, I prefer to be addressed Mr and Mrs jackasses.

  Hm, actually this just made me think of soemthing. It might be his preference, but it is her's? Does she wants to be Mrs. Jack Ass? Maybe she wants to be Mrs. Jane Ass. Does only his say count?

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• climbingsingle member

  

  July 2014

  From what I know about this guy, I'm almost expecting him to bring it up at the wedding too. He's a fucking dickhead and he can kiss my very pale ass. 

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• southernbelle0915 mod

  

  July 2014

  ClimbingBrideNY said:

  From what I know about this guy, I'm almost expecting him to bring it up at the wedding too. He's a fucking dickhead and he can kiss my very pale ass. 

  Seat him at a table in the very back full of overly positive people. Overly positive people tend to annoy negative and cynical people with their happiness. Maybe he'll leave early....

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• CrazyCatLady3 member

  

  July 2014

  SBmini said:

  AlexaF2014 said:

  Yeah, I'm doing invitations wrong too. "Mr. & Mrs. John and Jane Smith" It's a mouthful (envelopeful?), but I like including the woman first name. Also, I enjoy my handwriting, so the more reason to write the better!

  
  

  As to the "your last name is a man's name" thing; no, my name is my name. My last name may be the same as my father's, but it is also the same as my sister's. It is the name I was born with, and in its entirety is uniquely mine. If I keep my last name, I choose to keep MY name, not my great-great-great-great-great-great (ad infinitum) grandfather's. That being said, yeah i'm taking FI's last name, but then it becomes my name. Doesn't matter if it's the same last name as a man, woman, hermaphrodite, whatever. We choose our identity and it become us.

  That's how I addressed mine, because I read online that it was the right way to address invitations.

  
  

  
  

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  I addressed mine this way as well.  I also looked online how to do it the modern way instead of "Mr. & Mrs. John Smith" and that was suggested (Mr. & Mrs. John and Jane Smith).

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• grumbledore member

  

  July 2014

  @ClimbingBrideNY this guy sounds like a grade A moron. IMO either way is acceptable, and we are using a mix of both depending primarily on the age of the married couple. So, older relatives are getting "Mr. & Mrs. HisFirst HisLast" unless they have different last names, and younger married couples are getting "Mr. HisFirst HisLast & Mrs. WhateverSheGoesBy." I think people read way too much into this.

  
  

  

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• hellosweetie1015 member

  

  July 2014

  I literally look at the name on an envelope long enough to confirm that it is to me. And, frankly, if it's something pretty and not-a-bill, I will happily open something addressed to Shithead.

  

  
  

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• goldchocobo.defunct635829490514903826 member

  

  July 2014

  My last name is only 5 letters but can be difficult for some people to spell.  If my name was slightly off in spelling, I immediately forgive the addresser, unless it's my brother or something and then he has no freakin' excuse.

  
  

  But I find this a very odd thing to get offended over.  OP, you and your FI had your heart in the right place and tried to extend an invitation to FI's friend and that is what he chose to focus on?  I don't think I'd be offended over it.  I have other things to do than be offended over being addressed Mrs.Ned (or Eddard) Stark instead of Mr & Mrs Eddard and Catelyn Stark or whatever.  I think either way is fine and he should focus on the bigger picture....

  

  
  

  
  

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• WinstonsGirl member

  

  July 2014

  goldchocobo said:

  My last name is only 5 letters but can be difficult for some people to spell.  If my name was slightly off in spelling, I immediately forgive the addresser, unless it's my brother or something and then he has no freakin' excuse.

  
  

  
  

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  My last name too, so I'd probably just laugh it off.  I felt horrible after realizing a spelt a good friends last name wrong on her invite.  I changed it for the place card, but still felt bad.  It's a super hard last name and quite long, so I grabbed it from Facebook, but it still got typed in wrong anyway.  She didn't mention it though

  
  

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• beachyone15 member

  

  July 2014

  Misspellings happen and I can usually forgive the person if they don't know me well.
  
  ...except for my FFIL who sent me an email a week ago with my name misspelled. Seriously?!
  

  
  
  
  
  
  
  

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• Chipmunk415 member

  

  July 2014

  Climbing, a little levity for you since im sure you could use a snicker..
  
  1) I misaddressed My Own Parents invite. It still got to them, but I put the address as 1719 abc lane instead of 1716 abc lane. Mom was pissed, not at me but at the postal service for taking an ballpoint pen to the envelope and scratching out my pretty calligraphy before putting the correct number.
  
  2) my response cards made it look like children were an entree option. I did not figure this out until 10 invite address and stuffings later and half way through my generous glass of wine. My very closest and dearest friends, who are acquainted with evil chipmunk, thought I did the catds that way on purpose.
  
  Smile and have some wine!!

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• climbingsingle member

  

  July 2014

  Thank you @Chipmunk415 !

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• ashleyep member

  

  July 2014

  ClimbingBrideNY said:

  I guess I shouldn't have following this then, right? 

  
  

  To a Married Couple 

  On the outer envelope: Mr. John and Mrs. Samantha Holt Or Mr. and Mrs. John Holt 

  
  

  http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/wedding-invitations/articles/addressing-wedding-invitations.aspx

  
  

  D'oh. 

  It's really not that big of a deal. I would much rather be addressed the way you did it than Ms. Ashley [HisLastName] and Mr. FI HisLastName. I'm married, I don't want to be Ms.
  
  I went with the traditional wording for older couples and did something similar (Mr. and Mrs. His and Her Name) for younger married couples. Whatever, how many people our age are going to be offended by that? Some RSVPed as Mr. and Mrs. John Doe so I did their escort cards that way.
  

  

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• tigersgirlgv member

  

  July 2014

  ClimbingBrideNY said:

  People. It doesn't stop. If I didn't need my hair on my wedding day, I'd start pulling it out. 

  
  

  FI races sailboats. He insisted we invite his sailing buddies. This has been a HUGE point of contention. One guy is 85 years old. I've met him once and have never met his wife. I sent them an invite and addressed it like this:

  
  

  Mr. Robert & Mrs. Jill Brown 

  
  

  It's a perfectly acceptable way to address an invite to a married couple. However, Robert did not like that. In fact, it bothered him so much, that when he saw my FI last night for sailing, he brought it up. He wanted his invite addressed to Mr. and Mrs. Robert Brown. 

  
  

  So, when FI got home last night, he asked me how I addressed the envelope. I asked why. He said, "Oh, Bob said when he received the invite, he wasn't sure who it was being sent to. He said you did it wrong."

  Huh? 

  Being the sarcastic jerk I am, I said, "Oh, I sent it to Mr. and Mrs. Shithead. Was I not supposed to address it like that?"

  
  

  Seriously guys. You receive a wedding invite and your first thought it to be annoyed by how it's addressed? And then you need to bring it up to the groom? What the actual fuck? 

  
  

  
  

  The bolded is my favorite part of the whole thing. He didn't know who it was being sent to? Give me a break. Yes, maybe it was not the etiquette approved way to address the invite, but he certainly knew who you were inviting!

  
  

  I went to a friend's wedding recently and my last name was spelled wrong on the place card (ends in a double letter and they missed the second one). It was a bit strange as my invitation was correct and I'm sure I spelled it correctly on my RSVP. I might have pointed it out to the friend I was sitting next to, however, I never mentioned it to the couple and certainly never posted it on Facebook. How rude!
  

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• climbingsingle member

  

  July 2014

  I just realized that I had FI's step-sister's street name wrong. I thought it was Rockland Rd - I'm almost positive that's what FI's mom gave me. But when we went there for a BBQ on Friday, I saw that it's actually Rickland Rd! And guess what? She didn't say a word!! 

  
  

  I also spelled someone's name wrong. FI's friend's wife is named Maria. I put down Marie, which probably happened because my mom's name is Marie. Anyway, Maria didn't say a word to me this weekend about her name being wrong. 

  
  

  See, those are nice people. 

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