My finance's family has been very vocal about the fact that they think weddings are a big waste of money. His parent's are well off (probably because they don't every spend money...). My fiance's sister got married at her house when she was 5 mos. pregnant, which is very nice, but it was just too informal for me. Having trays of food from Costco is not what I want to do. I understand that is perfectly fine for some people. I only want around 75 guests--nothing over the top. Anytime I bring it up they are negative and make me feel awful. I feel like they won't even help pay for the rehearsal dinner. My parents are helping with 75% of the wedding expenses, and I am paying the rest. I have money saved up from working very hard, and I feel like what is the point of working so hard if I can't spend money on the things that are important to me. There negativity is really getting me down. I was almost in tears and dinner at their house. If they aren't paying why are they so opinionated? I don't know how to deal with this...I mean I want them to have a good time and be supportive but their attitudes make me not even want to do anything. I can't even concentrate on my work or sleep because of this. I want them to be happy for us. I could really use some advice. Thanks
Re: Fiance's Parents think Wedding is a Waste of Money. Feeling really bad...help!
It is extremely rude for your FIL to ask how much anything for the wedding costs. That is between your and your parents since you are footing the bill. I agree with many of the previous posts - if they bring it up, you can just say "I'm so happy you're interested in the wedding planning, but my parents and I would prefer to keep the cost specifics between us." Regarding the rehearsal dinner, you could talk to your fiancé about it and see what he thinks, since traditionally the groom’s parents pay for that part. He should have a pretty good idea of whether or not they would be open to it. He should also be stepping in to defend you! Perhaps he could explain to his parents that even though they don’t agree with the type of wedding you’ve chosen, they need to respect that it’s a decision made between the two of you.
Ideally-your fiancee would be the one to say this to them since its HIS rude parents. I don't care if it's his 10th marriage.