I have been engaged for just a month and plan on having the wedding next August. I was already excited to look at dresses with my mother, step mother, MIL, and step sister. Now, I'm just stressed out and dreading it! I showed my step mother and step sister a bridal catalog and they are already telling me what dresses will not work because of my belly (I hada baby 10 months ago, I'm under my pre pregnancy weight but havea pouch) in the rudest way thati cried on the way home. I also showed them a grooms cake that both fiancé and I love because it fits us. They responded with "really? For a wedding? No, you shouldn't do that. That's stupid. " the cake is ofa truck in the mud because we like of roading.
I am losing sleep the night before meeting up with them, even for justa visit, because of how anxious I am thinking about their new comments. They've commented on bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses, cakes, food, decorations, even who will our will not be in the wedding party.
How can I ask them to but out without causing a huge fight? I asked them not to continue asking about insurance and wedding stuff while I was pregnant because of the stress it caused me and I had no control over being proposed to or being offered insurance at work. No joke, they FREAKED OUT! They both cried to my dad, said I was an awful hurtful person who needed to learn to deal with stress ( the stress caused problems with the pregnancy!), screamed at me, said they were never going to talk to me again, said I couldn't handle being a mother, and other awful things.
What can I do now??