So I am having slight money tensions with one of my bridesmaids and I was just wondering if maybe what I was expecting was way off base, so I thought I'd get some input here. First of all, obviously I know my bridesmaids' finances much better than y'all do, but bear with me. I guess I was just coming here wondering if there is any sort of "norm" for how much bridesmaids stuff should cost, total.
The dress I picked was $300. The shoes are $50. The jewelry (necklace and earrings) is $34. I obviously did not straight-up ask my bridesmaids how much money they have in the bank accounts so I can't say for certain whether or not this was realistic to ask of them (I am not asking them to pay for anything beyond those three things, so that is the sum-total of their financial "responsibility" towards this wedding). As far as I know, we are all relatively in the same situation financially at this point in our lives, so I based my choices on what I thought would be fair for me to pay for someone else's wedding. Also please note, I never presented anything as "OMG I'm in love with this y'all have to get it". We everything I picked, I asked them to message or call me if they had any concerns with the price. Needless to say, no one did, and yet here with are and I'm now finding out one of my maids was not happy with how much the dress cost and is being very difficult about purchasing the accessories.
So just curious- have I way overstepped some unspoken rule about how much these things should cost? Lay it on me- what's done is done (the dresses are ordered so no going back on this one) and I feel a little miffed that my bridesmaid is now being snarky when she had plenty of opportunities to be a mature adult and straight-up tell me what I was asking was not doable for her, so I'm just wondering if I'm justified in feeling that way.