I'm the MOH hosting a shower at my house. One of the (out-of-town) BMs offered her help in leiu of getting a gift for our friend (the bride). Honestly, I don't expect her to actully help much before the event (since she is out of town), and have been warned (by the bride) that she is not fiscally responsible, so I don't expect much help there either.
I do plan on having her help some, but not like I woudl expect a co-host. Is it okay for this BM to help a liitle witheh shower and not bring a gift? If not, how do I tell her I appreciate her help, but it is not an acceptable substitute for a gift? Other people are also helping with the shower and will also be bringing a gift.