Hello!
My fiancé and I are getting married in October (hooray!). We got engaged at the beginning of April, booked our venue in May, and sent out Save the Dates in June. At the beginning of August, I sent out my invitations.
The next day, I found out my cousin (on my father's side) is getting married in September. 3 weeks before my wedding. She sent out Save the Dates the same week I sent out my invitations (4 weeks in advance of her own wedding), and has not yet sent out her invitations.
My issue is that our fathers' side of the family is extremely small. Our family members, who are located across the U.S. are now not only invited to my wedding, but also to her wedding. My concern is that our shared family members, who will have to travel regardless - my wedding is in the Northeast (where I live), and hers is in the Mid-Atlantic (where she lives) - are now in the awkward position of having to choose which wedding to attend.
Am I wrong to feel hurt/irritated/stabby here?