Community› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat
Chit Chat
New Discussion

Scary Situation - Serving Divorce Papers

loveislouderloveislouder member
1000 Comments 500 Love Its Third Anniversary First Answer
in Chit Chat
I work as a Legal Assistant, and I got an e-mail today that essentially said the following:

A fellow legal assistant went to serve documents on an opposing client. That's normal, we all do it as long as our client tells us the other person is not violent or volatile. She got the description of the person from her client, and went to serve him.  The guy comes storming out of his house, screaming at her to get off his property. So she says, are you John Doe?  YES NOW GET OFF MY PROPERTY. She went to give him the papers, and he started throwing punches, and someone from the house SHOT at her. SHOT AT HER.

She wasn't harmed, but they wanted to warn all us legal assistants to be very aware of our surroundings. We talked to our boss about it and he's decided that we will not be serving anymore and that a Sheriff will be doing it from now on.

So that was the drama in my life today.
Report Reply to Post
«1

Re: Scary Situation - Serving Divorce Papers

  • ShesSoColdShesSoCold mod
    Moderator 5000 Comments Fifth Anniversary 500 Love Its
    WOAH. That's all I got. WOAH.
    Image result for someecard betting someone half your shit youll love them forever
    Report Reply
  • hellohkbhellohkb mod
    Moderator Sixth Anniversary 2500 Comments 500 Love Its
    Holy crap! I'm glad she's okay but that is seriously scary.


    Daisypath Anniversary tickers Daisypath Anniversary tickers



    Report Reply
  • theartistformerlyknownastheartistformerlyknownas member
    10000 Comments 500 Love Its 5 Answers First Anniversary
    Holy shit!! That's fucked up. Especially just for divorce papers... I mean it's not like she was a bounty hunter trying to bring him in.
    image
    image
    Report Reply
  • afox007afox007 member
    1000 Comments 500 Love Its Second Anniversary First Answer
    Holy shit! That  is insane. I thought it was bad that FI's ex threw the divorce papers in my face when  I served her.
    image
    Report Reply
  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
    Moderator Knottie Warrior 10000 Comments 500 Love Its
    That is crazy.  Glad she is okay.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
    Report Reply
  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
    Knottie Warrior 10000 Comments 500 Love Its 5 Answers
    HOLY SHIT. 
    Report Reply
  • pinkcow13pinkcow13 member
    2500 Comments Fifth Anniversary 500 Love Its First Answer
    OMG. I hope these sick assholes were arrested. GEez....
                                 Anniversary
    imageimageimage


     

    Report Reply
  • morphemesmorphemes member
    100 Love Its 100 Comments Name Dropper
    Someone wanted to divorce him? But he sounds so charming... Seriously though, I'm glad she's ok. Part of my job also requires me to serve legal documents on individuals (generally subpoenas for court appearances and depositions), but I always wonder if I'm going to run into someone who REALLY doesn't want to be served...
    Report Reply
  • Jells2dot0Jells2dot0 mod
    Moderator Ninth Anniversary 5000 Comments 500 Love Its
    YIKES!!!!! That is insane. 

     







    Report Reply
  • raissyraisraissyrais member
    500 Love Its 1000 Comments Second Anniversary Name Dropper
    Wow that's gosh darn mad! I'm glad she's okay but I'd be so scared to do that again!
    Wedding Countdown Ticker
    Report Reply
  • sarawifenowsarawifenow member
    2500 Comments 500 Love Its First Anniversary First Answer
    I can't believe that someone shot at her! That is terrifying!
    Daisypath Anniversary tickers
    Report Reply
  • SBminiSBmini member
    500 Love Its 1000 Comments Second Anniversary Name Dropper
    My gosh! That is ridiculous! Way to go guy, now not only are you getting divorced, you're also going to jail.
    image
    Report Reply
  • jakeiafjakeiaf member
    Seventh Anniversary 25 Love Its 10 Comments Combo Breaker
    bostonbride2015 said:
    show previous quotes
    In her defense, if my ex had his new GF/FI serve me with the divorce papers, I'd feel like throwing them in her face too.
    Yeah I would probably feel the same... 



    Wedding Countdown Ticker
    Report Reply
  • ShesSoColdShesSoCold mod
    Moderator 5000 Comments Fifth Anniversary 500 Love Its
    bostonbride2015 said:
    show previous quotes
    In her defense, if my ex had his new GF/FI serve me with the divorce papers, I'd feel like throwing them in her face too.

    SITB - This. Exactly this. All the this. 
    Image result for someecard betting someone half your shit youll love them forever
    Report Reply
  • PrettyGirlLostPrettyGirlLost member
    5000 Comments Fifth Anniversary 500 Love Its First Answer
    afox007 said:
    Holy shit! That  is insane. I thought it was bad that FI's ex threw the divorce papers in my face when  I served her.
    Wait?  Are you a sheriff or a legal aide as well?

    "Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."


    Report Reply
  • manateehuggermanateehugger member
    2500 Comments 500 Love Its Third Anniversary 5 Answers
    I'm hoping the sheriff picks up an arrest warrant along the way if he stops by to serve divorce papers.
    image
    Report Reply
  • PrettyGirlLostPrettyGirlLost member
    5000 Comments Fifth Anniversary 500 Love Its First Answer
    TKzilla said:
    show previous quotes
    image
    You mean you…
    image
    I just…
    image
    Seriously just…
    image
    image
    Yeah, I'm going to assume that she isn't a sheriff or legal aide, in which case I don't think it was appropriate that she serve divorce papers to her BF's wife.

    If I had been the wife, I would have slammed the door in her face and told her she can tell my cowardly, pansy-assed husband to come back with the papers himself.

    "Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."


    Report Reply
  • thisismynickname2thisismynickname2 member
    5000 Comments Sixth Anniversary 500 Love Its First Answer
    PrettyGirlLost said:
    show previous quotes
    Yeah, I'm going to assume that she isn't a sheriff or legal aide, in which case I don't think it was appropriate that she serve divorce papers to her BF's wife.

    If I had been the wife, I would have slammed the door in her face and told her she can tell my cowardly, pansy-assed husband to come back with the papers himself.

    Stuck in BOX
    @Afox007  I think, based on other posts I've seen if I'm remembering correctly, you either are an attorney or definitely work in the legal field.  Can of worms though... we're all dying of curiosity why you got to serve your own fiance's ex the divorce papers.  
    ________________________________


    Report Reply
  • ashley8918ashley8918 member
    2500 Comments 500 Love Its First Anniversary First Answer
    thisismynickname said:
    show previous quotes
    Yeah, I really need to know what's going on here.
    Report Reply
  • Fran1985 Fran1985 member
    Seventh Anniversary 500 Love Its 500 Comments Name Dropper
    thisismynickname said:
    show previous quotes
    If I remember correctly she is not an attorney, she is a waitress, but she did fill out all of her FI divorce paper work for him because he was taking his time/ didnt want to get divorced 

    image
    Report Reply
  • mschristie123mschristie123 member
    Fifth Anniversary 250 Love Its 100 Comments First Answer
    edited August 2014
    Lol and I thought my job was scary. Violent mentally ill kiddos and got shit on a guy with a gun.

    ETA: words
    imageimage">
    Report Reply
  • hellosweetie1015hellosweetie1015 member
    2500 Comments 500 Love Its First Anniversary First Answer
    edited August 2014
    ashley8918 said:
    show previous quotes
    Yeah, I really need to know what's going on here.
    Yeah I'm sort of curious here too. I'm a legal aide, and all of the divorce papers we do (and there are a lot) are served, generally, by the sheriff. I know not all places do that though. 

    Hope you come back, @afox007. I want to hear that story.
    Daisypath Wedding tickers
    image
    Report Reply
  • QueerFemmeQueerFemme member
    5000 Comments Fifth Anniversary 500 Love Its 5 Answers
    edited August 2014

    In many jurisdictions, anyone over the age of 18 can serve papers on someone else.  You CAN hire the sheriff or constable to serve them for you, but you don't have to be an officer of the law or court to serve someone.  You just have to be an adult, and not a party to the petition.  You serve them, and then sign an affidavit that says you served them. 

    ETA:   But, I think it's totally tacky that a guy would have his current girlfriend serve his ex-wife.  That is just really poor judgment skills.

    image

    Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:

    http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/

    http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html

    http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/

    Report Reply
  • loveislouderloveislouder member
    1000 Comments 500 Love Its Third Anniversary First Answer
    I've never had anyone shoot at me, obviously or I wouldn't do what I do. But some clients get nasty. I've had one throw a stapler at my head.
    Report Reply
  • afox007afox007 member
    1000 Comments 500 Love Its Second Anniversary First Answer
    In CA, or at least our county, anyone except the person named in the case can serve the papers. Since FI's ex is homeless it would have been ridiculous trying to get a sheriff or legal assistant to track her down to serve the papers. I kept the papers in my purse for weeks, since I knew that at some point she would resurface trying to ask for some sort of help. When she did I gave her the papers and she threw them back.

    As for why I filled out the papers; FI had been separated for over two years and every time he tried filling them out something was wrong with them. He asked me to do them since I tend to be better at things like that. He probably should have hired a lawyer instead of having me do it for him, but since I had recently lost my job money was already super tight. 

    Luckily everything worked out the divorce has been finalized for months, he got full custody of FSS, and she is pretty much out of the picture. 
    image
    Report Reply
  • loveislouderloveislouder member
    1000 Comments 500 Love Its Third Anniversary First Answer
    edited August 2014
    @afox007 That makes sense... it would have cost you a fortune to try to track her down.

    ETA: Plus you know exactly who you're looking for.
    Report Reply
  • afox007afox007 member
    1000 Comments 500 Love Its Second Anniversary First Answer
    loveislouder said:
    @afox007 That makes sense... it would have cost you a fortune to try to track her down.

    ETA: Plus you know exactly who you're looking for.
    Exactly. Even I had a hard time; I pretty much had to wait around for her to need something from me and pop up. 

    image
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards