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Well, that stings a little

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I've been at my current job now for about 3.5 years. I didn't expect anything from my coworkers when I got married. I thought it was wonderful when I got a gift card from them. Well, another girl who has been here just a little bit longer than I have is getting married in three weeks. They threw her a bridal shower. With catered food, flowers and decorations. I wasn't invited. I'm sitting outside of the conference room they are occupying right now for her shower eating my sad little salad feeling pretty burned.
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    smalfrie19smalfrie19 member
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    wow...wtf jerks.. would be sad too!!! 
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    birdybride2014birdybride2014 member
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    You have every reason to feel sad! Oh my goodness! I'm so sorry, what a horrible way to get ready for your weekend :(
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    SBminiSBmini member
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    Fuck this place- seriously. I'll never be cliquey enough to fit in with these girls. 
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    levioosalevioosa member
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    *throws you a virtual bridal shower*

    That really sucks.  They could have at least done an after work deal if they were going to be so jerky about it. Are you inviting them to your wedding/did you invite them if you're married?  Did she invite them to her wedding?  It's still jerky but I can see them throwing her a shower if she invited them to her wedding but you didn't invite them to yours.

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    KatieinBklnKatieinBkln member
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    What a bunch of assholes.

    I'm sorry. I'd be upset, too.
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    SBminiSBmini member
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    I got married out of state, so I only invited two of my coworkers (one came). I have no clue if she's inviting any of them. I'm not invited, but I didn't expect to be invited because we don't hang out at all after work. The thing is... I don't think she hangs out with any of these girls outside of work either. 
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    SBmini said:
    I've been at my current job now for about 3.5 years. I didn't expect anything from my coworkers when I got married. I thought it was wonderful when I got a gift card from them. Well, another girl who has been here just a little bit longer than I have is getting married in three weeks. They threw her a bridal shower. With catered food, flowers and decorations. I wasn't invited. I'm sitting outside of the conference room they are occupying right now for her shower eating my sad little salad feeling pretty burned.
    UGH. People suck.  They didn't have to put it in your face like that.  
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    Time2strtliving said:
    *throws you a virtual bridal shower*

    That really sucks.  They could have at least done an after work deal if they were going to be so jerky about it. Are you inviting them to your wedding/did you invite them if you're married?  Did she invite them to her wedding?  It's still jerky but I can see them throwing her a shower if she invited them to her wedding but you didn't invite them to yours.

    Edit: Because words are hard.  
    This could make a difference.  Still shitty, in my opinion, and SOMEONE should have said "Gah, this is going to make @SBmini feel really shitty, maybe we should do this after work or on her day off"
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    wandajune6wandajune6 member
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    They sound awful! I think you're better off not being that cliquey. Enjoy your salad and be happy that you're married!
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    SBminiSBmini member
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    I don't think they even thought of me at all or thought it would be in my face. I wouldn't be surprised if they saw me outside they cringed a little because I was forgotten. I think it was more, "Hey, we should do something for this girl!" "Let's throw her a shower!" Which is fantastic, good for her, glad she's getting love and attention- she deserves it. 

    But I deserved it too :pout: 
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    holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 member
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    I'd be annoyed, too. Hugs.




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    pinkcow13pinkcow13 member
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    That's really shitty, I'm sorry. Wow, what jerks.
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    Oh that sucks. I'm sorry. I worked in an office where I was the only female engineer - there were lots of other women but they were all admin-types. I often got left out of things and I know it hurts. I'd totally throw a huge shower for you!
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    lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    I'm sorry. I've work with people like that before.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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    goldchocobo.defunct635829490514903826goldchocobo.defunct635829490514903826 member
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    I'm so sorry you have to witness and experience that.  I'd feel the same people.  Fuck 'em.  They sound like bitches.


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    buttercup1958buttercup1958
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    I would feel so awkward.  I'm sorry!
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    steph861steph861 member
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    That sucks balls. People can be so inconsiderate.
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    MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    Your coworkers have no class. Forget about them and have a great weekend.
                       
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    MairePoppy said:
    Your coworkers have no class. Forget about them and have a great weekend.

    Exactly! I'm sorry.
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    bride2b71614bride2b71614 member
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    Okay, Its one thing to throw someone a shower and not invite people, but its completely inappropriate to do so in an office space where other people aren't invited...like who does that?! They really didn't have to rub it in your face. Its mean spirited and its messed up. 

    If I were in your shoes (and if I hated my job), I would have dressed up like Maleficent and went into the shower, yelled I curse your first born, and run out. But all silly things aside, you don't need that kind of negativity in your life. I know its hard, but don't let them get to you, they are cliquey for a reason (they are all tacky bitches). Just hold your head high and be cordial. 
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    jenna8984jenna8984 member
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    I thought it was bad/sad that I have no friends at work. I think bitches at work would be even worse. Sorry!! 

                                                                     

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    huskypuppy14huskypuppy14 member
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    Couldn't they have gone to a restaurant during lunch, or after work.  Not in a conference room during work. Not cool.
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    jenajjthrjenajjthr member
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    How rude! Seriously, how hard would it have been to invite you in? It's a work shower FFS! You are entitled to some punch and cake. If any end up in the communal fridge take that yummy goodness.
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    blabla89blabla89 member
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    That is REALLY shitty. The same kind of stuff happens my office and it's totally political - if you don't chip in for a shower/gift, you don't get invited and don't get to sign the card so that everyone knows you didn't give.

    I'm sorry they did that.
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    missdelilahmissdelilah member
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    That's so disappointing!  Please don't take it to heart.  You deserve much better treatment than this.
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    WinstonsGirlWinstonsGirl member
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    That's so shitty.  It's a lot like that where I work.  We got a card and a GC to a local shop.  Now, they're asking where you want the GC too, but I can handle that.  The difference is between staff (teachers) and admin's favourites (specifically my lovely AP).  If she super likes someone, she'll throw them a full on shower - snacks, cake, collects cash from staff for a huge amount of gifts.  We already pay into a staff gift fund which pays for wedding/baby type gifts, so this is over and above.  I don't need a wedding shower, but if you're doing it for 1 person, you need to do it for everyone.  

    Also, at our end of year meeting this June, all teacher who were leaving were given cards and a little gift, even those teachers who were subs on a temporary contract.  I found out later that several of our Education Assistants are leaving too.  No mention was made of any of them leaving.  No thanks for your year, no card, no gift nothing.  Our admin is great at treating different job groups in my school differently.  It's totally like a caste system and it's absolutely ridiculous.  If you're not a teacher or higher, you don't matter 

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    missdelilahmissdelilah member
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    You can pull the classy move, like my dad did at his previous job.  Long story short, the CEO accidentally sent an irrationally critical email about my Dad to the entire company (I know this because I read said email, and it was all very easily quantifiable objections, which were actually incorrect based on simple data analysis, that were voiced in a very offensive manner).  So Dad clicked the "reply all" button and told the CEO to fuck off.  

    Basically, you just need to get one of these nasty brats or terrible managers to send you a rude email, but accidentally post it to everyone, so you can reply to everyone.

    Dad says it's one of the best things he ever did.  I hope you have a similarly cathartic moment when you leave this job.
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