My mom is hosting a bridal shower and asked me if she should invite the officiant. The officiant is my pastor, and has spent a lot of (non-wedding) time with my family over the last 6 months, specifically when my grandmother was in the hospital and hospice. She's been around a lot as a pastor as well as a friend. I don't want to invite her and have her feel obligated to show, nor do I want to snub her if it is the norm for her to receive an invitation. Thoughts?