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Having major shopping withdrawal

It's funny.  As much as I didn't enjoy shopping for dresses - largely because the samples were huge, and assistants kept recommending that I tried on dresses that I knew wouldn't work on me and suggesting extra alterations - I'm in such a withdrawal phase.  I wonder if it's because I feel like my dress shopping experience was a bit of a let down, when the media had built it up in to being such a wonderful experience.  I had to go by myself, because I don't have any girl friends here who I'm close enough to to invite (if they're not invited to the wedding, I'm sure as hell not going to ask them to dress shop with me), and I really missed having Mum there (although she passed 13 years ago, I should be used to going through big events without her) or at least one or other of my stand in MOBs.  I think I've got shoes organized now, and ordered a bag, but I want to put off the rest of the accessory shopping until I get the dress back and see it again.  

It's probably also made worse because I can't do any of that vendor stuff, and have my family members sending me endless emails about cakes.  I have the venue and the photographer down.  Still hashing out details with the florist, but I'm going really minimal with the bouquets (has anyone seen the price of these in Sydney recently?) but it's such a minimal process.

We're waiting on the engagement photos because my face has suddenly decided it belongs to a thirteen year old and is acting accordingly.  I'm really hoping I'll be in a position to get them done in the next few weeks, so that we can use them on our STD cards, but we've been waiting on them at this point for about four months.  Skin seems to be slightly improving now.

Do I just need more wedding related stuff to keep me busy?  I feel like I'm still too far out to pare down the prelim guest list, and FI still has no idea who he's even inviting, let alone who's likely to turn up.  

Did anyone else go through major wedding shopping withdrawal?
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Re: Having major shopping withdrawal

  • Not at all.
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  • Nope. I didn't like dress shopping. It was a pretty miserable experience that left me feeling horrible about myself until the very end. I was relieved when it was over.

    Though I spent two months stalking a pair of shoes online to go under it...
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  • I have always loved trying on formal dresses. I used to try on prom dresses for fun. So I was half expecting shopping for my wedding dress to be like that kind of experience. I enjoyed the wedding dress shopping but was so relieved when it was over.

  • Once I found my dress, I dove head-first into shoe shopping. Must have tried on at least 20 pairs. Shoes are always my therapy.

    Have you found a rehearsal dinner dress yet? And jewelry?


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  • Crap. I didn't think of dresses for the RD. More to think about!
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  • My dress shopping experience was surprisingly easy. I went to one shop, tried on 5 dresses, ended up with the third dress I tried on. I was really glad when it was done, because I usually hate trying on dresses.

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  • Nope. I didn't like dress shopping. It was a pretty miserable experience that left me feeling horrible about myself until the very end. I was relieved when it was over. Though I spent two months stalking a pair of shoes online to go under it...
    That's because shoes always fit better and make you feel sexy.
    I wear 4" heels most of the time...why?  Because my body looks soooo much better at this weight with 4" of extra height!
  • I haven't had the opportunity yet. :) Between shoes, invitations, dress, jewelry, veil, cake stand, flowers, table covers, favors, favor bags, stuff for kids' bags, etc. I've had a constant stream of wedding shopping crack. :) I'm now onto honeymoon apparel. Bought 2 pairs of shoes and a bag yesterday and now I want a big floppy hat. Maybe a bikini if I can find a good end of summer sale.

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  • I hate shopping.   Like HATE shopping.   I should go buy a dress for the RD for a wedding I'm leaving for in 2 weeks.   Been putting it off for months.    

    DH is getting off early today.  I' might take him with  me and then hit a bar later.  The bar is next door.  Sadly the thought of hitting up HH with my husband after HH is the movitvating factor.






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  • Speaking of... maybe this for Spain? The bottom is sold out in my size but the top is only $20!

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  • Speaking of... maybe this for Spain? The bottom is sold out in my size but the top is only $20!

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    Ooh, that is super cute!  There are so many colors in the top that it would be easy to find a solid bottom, I think!




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  • Speaking of... maybe this for Spain? The bottom is sold out in my size but the top is only $20!


    Ooh, that is super cute!  There are so many colors in the top that it would be easy to find a solid bottom, I think!
    I have a solid teal bottom already that I think would work... 

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  • Sounds cute!  I love teal and purple together!




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  • Lolo, so cute! Is that a VS bathing suit?

  • I haven't had the opportunity yet. :) Between shoes, invitations, dress, jewelry, veil, cake stand, flowers, table covers, favors, favor bags, stuff for kids' bags, etc. I've had a constant stream of wedding shopping crack. :) I'm now onto honeymoon apparel. Bought 2 pairs of shoes and a bag yesterday and now I want a big floppy hat. Maybe a bikini if I can find a good end of summer sale.
    Check out the clearance section at Target or Macy's. FMIL is having all sorts of skin sensitivity issues post-chemo and loves the sun. I got her a big floppy hat at Macy's for less than $10 and one at Target for around $15. Last week maybe?
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  • omfg that bikini is so fucking CUTE.


    I've been buying decor stuff. I got some hexagon paper mache boxes that I'm going to spraypaint gold and put the centerpieces on. It's been nice looking for- and FINDING- good deals and snatching things up before we really even get into our official 'buy wedding shit' timeline.
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  • beethery said:
    omfg that bikini is so fucking CUTE.


    I've been buying decor stuff. I got some hexagon paper mache boxes that I'm going to spraypaint gold and put the centerpieces on. It's been nice looking for- and FINDING- good deals and snatching things up before we really even get into our official 'buy wedding shit' timeline.
    @beethery- where did you find those? That sounds like what I have in mind for a card box, though probably a bit bigger.
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  • beethery said:
    omfg that bikini is so fucking CUTE.


    I've been buying decor stuff. I got some hexagon paper mache boxes that I'm going to spraypaint gold and put the centerpieces on. It's been nice looking for- and FINDING- good deals and snatching things up before we really even get into our official 'buy wedding shit' timeline.
    @beethery- where did you find those? That sounds like what I have in mind for a card box, though probably a bit bigger.
    Well I found some on Amazon, but they're running a little low on stock of the ones I need, so I googled around and found boxes on painting-crafts.com (click). Got a pretty dang good deal. Darice on Amazon has a ton that are prime eligible.
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  • I just realized that I will need new bathind suits for our honeymoon...ughhh

  • emmaaa said:
    I just realized that I will need new bathind suits for our honeymoon...ughhh
    My sentiments exactly anytime I have to go suit shopping.
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  • beachyone15  I'm not having a RD.  We're having a cocktail party for the wedding party the following week, and unfortunately I'm not sure that it's possible to justify buying a dress for that.  I have at least three vintage cocktail dresses that no one has seen yet (I bought them on a trip last October, then remembered that we never go anywhere fun here, but FI says he'll take me out so that I can wear at least one of them soon).  But I will need shoes for which ever one of them I wear, so I should make a decision on this.

    I haven't done jewelry yet.  I'm planning on being very boring and wearing things I already own.  Perhaps raiding my mum's collection, which I was supposed to inherit half of 7 years ago, but surprisingly haven't seen any of, as my sister, who owns the other half, is "care taking" until Dad can mediate.  (Sorry, tiny family rant).  I'd love something for my hair and have been stalking a lot of Etsy stuff and want to check out the antiques market here.  Maybe I'll drag FI down there this weekend.  I'm going back and forth on the veil, but leaning more towards no at the moment.  I'll try one on when the dress comes in and see what I think, but it seems like an unnecessary nuisance.  Or possible partial mosquito net.  Not sure.  

    @lolo883 I think it sounds like I just need some more wedding stuff to do.  Maybe I'll sit down with FI over the weekend and go over our guest list, which is a mess, with about twenty people too many on it.  He swears none of them will come, and isn't even sure whether he's inviting them or not, so it's actually quite infuriating.  I figure we send the STDs, and if they say they can't make it at that point, that sorts things out for us.  

    Love that bikini top.  Super fun, and I think will look really nice with the teal bottoms.

    @mschristie123 and @emmaaa I don't know what style of swim suit you go for, but I'm such a prude when it comes to choosing swim wear.  ModCloth and Unique Vintage both sell some things that provide a good amount of coverage but are still sexy, so long as you like the retro look.  I have a couple by Esther Williams that I love.  The sizing is really bizarre.  Think wedding sizing and you'll probably be fine.  But they've lasted really well.  I haven't had to buy a new set in two or three years.  

    @Beethery I'd love to make my own centerpieces, but the venue provides them, so it seems like a time and money drain.  Plus, there's the getting them to Sydney bit.  I'm making thank you gifts for my BMs, Dad, and two MOBs.  Super sure I'm probably not going to get them all finished in time - I've been working on Dad's since the beginning of July.  Well, that teaches me to never again make a complicated king size quilt top as a gift.  Obviously this is a special circumstance though. 

    But thanks ladies.  It was really interesting reading all of your experiences.
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  • I can't pull of retro bathing suits, especially if they are high waisted. I like the VS bottoms that are rouched on the side but tops are always an issue.

  • Every time I put on a bikini I feel like a tied roast...KWIM?
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  • I desperately want a high waisted bikini. I might actually feel comfortable in a bikini for the first time in my life! Even when I was 12 and skinny I felt too self-conscious to ever wear one.
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    @Inkdancer I've always been self conscious in bikinis. That's why I love the Esther Williams ones - although there are a ton of other retro style bikinis out there, I just happen to love dots.

    @LDay2014 I think a lot of us feel that way, regardless of shape and size. Remember that all the photos in the catalogues and online stores are photoshopped. I'm sure all those VS models get the occasional bit of pudge.

    @emmaaa I've never actually tried the VS bikinis. I figure that the only person who needs to know what I look like nearly naked is FI. But that's great if they work for you. I feel as though we had way more options in Australia, but I'm sure if I were to go swimsuit shopping somewhere with a nicer climate, I might find stores like the ones we have at home, that carry multiple brands.

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  • emmaaa said:
    I can't pull of retro bathing suits, especially if they are high waisted. I like the VS bottoms that are rouched on the side but tops are always an issue.
    Yeah I cannot pull off high-waisted anything. Just makes my butt look large and flat. I mean, it is large, but I think mostly in a good way. :-p Flat butts are bad. And it wouldn't actually cover my tummy anyway (is that what they're meant to do?) because I have such a long waist. 

    So long, in fact, that I couldn't wear a one-piece bathing suit if I tried. Haven't been able to since I was 10. They look like this on me:
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  • I usually have issues with one pieces too @lolo883.  I don't get why models are so tall, yet clothes are made for people who are average height or shorter.  I've found some that work for me recently.  I always wish I were a little more curvy when I put on a bathing suit, but no matter.  I love how one of the ladies in a bridal salon I visited told me not to worry, because her boobs are still in the same spot they were when she my age, and given the size of mine, they would be too.
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  • I usually have issues with one pieces too @lolo883.  I don't get why models are so tall, yet clothes are made for people who are average height or shorter.  I've found some that work for me recently.  I always wish I were a little more curvy when I put on a bathing suit, but no matter.  I love how one of the ladies in a bridal salon I visited told me not to worry, because her boobs are still in the same spot they were when she my age, and given the size of mine, they would be too.
    I think the difference is models are all legs but I'm all torso. I seriously have the same inseam as a friend who's 5'4"... and I'm 5'9". On the other hand, when we're sitting down I appear the same height as my 6'2" dad.

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  • I usually have issues with one pieces too @lolo883.  I don't get why models are so tall, yet clothes are made for people who are average height or shorter.  I've found some that work for me recently.  I always wish I were a little more curvy when I put on a bathing suit, but no matter.  I love how one of the ladies in a bridal salon I visited told me not to worry, because her boobs are still in the same spot they were when she my age, and given the size of mine, they would be too.
    I think the difference is models are all legs but I'm all torso. I seriously have the same inseam as a friend who's 5'4"... and I'm 5'9". On the other hand, when we're sitting down I appear the same height as my 6'2" dad.
    Possibly.  I have a longer than average torso, but also longer than average legs, so perhaps that's why I found some that weren't wrestling suit looking when I tried them on.
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