I am so frustrated and pissed. I cannot even find the words. I went to my draft thing tonight (not the one at the bar. only online tonight) and the guys there are a bunch of FIs friends. They kept calling players "faggots" and "gay" which was really pissing me off. I would think that at this day and age people would know that gay isn't an insult, but rather just an orientation! (ETA: changed from ? to !, typo)
Am I crazy to think this is super insulting?
I was talking to FI and while we rarely fight, we got into a huge one about this. One that is seriously making me question who he is and wonder if he is trying to be tough and stick up for his buddies or if he truly doesn't have any compassion for people.
He compared using gay as an insult to using "idiot" or "jerk" as an insult, stating just like there are gays in the world, there are idiots, ass holes, and jerks in the world. I seriously wonder if he really feels that way or if he was just super drunk? (I don't know, we are long distance and he went to the bar, so very possible). Not that it is an excuse to act like a total and utter ass hole (IMO). I said that those words already had negative connotations and were considered insults, but are clearly not kind words to use. I said I thought that using gay as an insult was closer to using retard as an insult, which is clearly not kosher either. I told him that he had to see how they were different and that it wasn't ok.
Am I just crazy here? I know I don't speak for anyone and I'm straight, so I guess I don't know how the gay/lesbian/bisexual/etc people in the world feel about it, and maybe I'm waaay off base. But I would think that if we used straight, black, Hispanic, etc. as an insult people would be unhappy.