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Bubblegum5586
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Calling your fiance your husband instead...
It drives me crazy every time I see engaged people refer to their fiance as their husband/hubby/etc (and vice versa) I couldn't WAIT to finally be able to use the word husband... but I did wait... until we were married.
Please tell me I am not the only one that finds this annoying....
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Re: Calling your fiance your husband instead...
It's happened often where random people will refer to me as Mrs. FI's Lastname, or just assume that he's my husband. I never correct them because it doesn't matter; we'll be married soon enough and I'll never see these people again.
FI still calls me his girlfriend sometimes just out of habit. When he does, I'll usually say something along the lines of, "You have a girlfriend? When can I meet her?"
As far as me intentionally calling him my husband? No. That is a privilege that I very much look forward to, and it will come as soon as we're married.
I can't stand the word hubby either, and don't know why. FI doesn't like the word fiancee and refers to me as his girlfriend to other people, but calls me his intended/betrothed/bride when it's just the two of us. I like the old-fashiony
I really dislike hubby and wifey. We both have agreed to never use these!
OP, I totally agree with you. Not that I'm downplaying serious, unmarried relationships...heck, my DH and I were together over a decade before we got married...but to call someone your wife/husband before you are married is misleading. It's the whole "but we know we will be together forever, so who needs that pesky piece of paper". Well...if that "pesky piece of paper" is so unimportant than why haven't you all gone down to the courthouse already? Obviously something is holding you back, so don't pretend like you're married, when you're not. It's different. It just is.
BTW, I have no qualms with some of the examples above where engaged people were calling faceless corporations and using the term husband just to grease the wheels.
But two examples I have were it especially aggravated me was I had a former boss who always referred to his g/f...and his baby's mother...as his wife. It was months before I found out they weren't married at all. And I know why he did it. I'm sure that made her feel all special and wonderful...while he was still able to control and keep his finances totally separate from her. She was substantially younger, no job prospects, and he was completely dependent on him.
The other example wasn't blatantly disgusting like that one. But I had tenants move in and they always referred to each other as husband/wife so, of course I assumed that is what they were. About a month later, she was chit-chatting to me about how they would probably get married someday, but it just wasn't important to them. Of course, I didn't make an issue about it. But I just always feel "lied" to when people do this. I realize it's a "no harm, no foul" kind of lie. But I just find it disconcerting.
I also have trouble with husband and had a horrible time with fiance too. At one point shortly after we got engaged, in front of my thesis advisor I blundered and word vomited something about "my current fiance." From then on he regularly asked if I had changed fiance's recently.
I try to go by H's name whenever possible.