I'm not asking for sympathy just really need to vent. The fiance and I dont currently live together. We made the choice since we first got together that we would not live together until marriage. (I had done the shacking up thing before. I just wanted to go into this relationship doing everything different from what I did in the past) right now he lives with his parents and I've gone from living with my sister to living with my cousin and back to living with my sister.
To try to make a long story short with my living situation. I lived in an apartment my sister owned. Her ex stole the property from up under her (by paying the taxes) so I then had to move into my now ex boyfriends mothers house. He pretty much cheated on me and used me the entire relationship. He always had my car and left me stuck in the house. He had me 2500 in the hole bcuz he took my credit card to put gas in my car which he always drove and took more out and didnt tell me. when I finally had enough. My sister and mom came. We threw all my belongings in our cars and I came to live with my sister (after she insisted)
Not even two weeks after me moving in she flipped out on me about not helping with her bills and throwing my ex and me moving with his mom in my face. She knew I had nothing moving in. I sat on the phone in tears with her telling her how stupid I felt for letting him use me. So I was very confused as to why she was acting this way knowing everything I had just been thru. After 6 months I got tired of dealing with my sister bipolar ways and moved in with my cousin bcuz she didnt want to live alone after her mom passed away. Everything was great (my cousin and I have been really close since we were kids) kelvin and I got engaged in October. Our living situation was beneficial to planning the wedding bcuz we were saving so much money. So we set our date.
Not even two weeks after my engagement here comes my sister and her mean devilish ways talking crap about my engagement asking why we were planning the wedding for the following year and all types of crap. This is supposed to be a happy time and here she is trying to ruin it. Anyways my cousins sister had to move back into the house with her 2 kids bcuz she blew thru all the money she got after her mom passed. So my sister says " Move back in with me. I know you have the wedding so you dont have to give me much. It will help u out" I really didnt want to but against my right mind I moved back in.
Here I am 3 months later with no place to go. I know ppl are wondering how can u not have money for a place to stay when u have money for a wedding. The fact that we are in the process of paying off the wedding I have very little money right now(some can relate). So besides bills and groceries thats where my money has been going. My sister just came out of left field with all of this on monday telling me she needed me out by sept 1st. After we just put 600 down in deposits and after I paid her water and 200 dollar light bill. The thing that really throws me off is all this time my sister knew what our plan was as far as paying off the wedding and when we'd be moving into our place (Dec) as of a few weeks ago she had been pushing for me to stay until Jan. So yeah I'm really confused.
I've had issues with my sister this entire time. I made her one of my MOH and actually took the title away bcuz she was very undeserving of it. My best friend (my MOH) has been here a 120%. All my sister has done is complain about everything even though she hasn't done a thing. For my bridal shower she did nothing and when I said something to her about not helping she went off on me and tried to make things all about her and her bills and shes taking care of a child alone (thats when I told her I didnt need anything from her. Just buy ur dress show up ur bridesmaid and thats all I expect from you) even during my speech at my shower she interrupted me and tried to tell me what not to say in my speech.
I'm not perfect but I'd never be this way with any family member (she did the same thing to my mom) I'm hurt but I'll do what I have to do. But to know I'm 3 months from my wedding and to do this is wrong.... on top of that she tells me I can leave my dog bcuz her daughter loves playing with him.... so leave my dog and as for me she could care less? Just gotta continue praying I know God will make a way for Kelvin and I.
Thanks for letting me Vent.... Sorry so long and for all the punctuation errors. I'm doing speech to text lol