Golddigger because that's what the money dance does.
because that's what the money dance does? I'm not money hungry. I just think it to be a good idea because at all my families weddings they do this and no one seems to mind. everyone takes part in it. It's something fun to get people up and moving. and whats the difference between getting a dollar from one person or having them spend who knows how much on a gift registry, which im not doing.
You got feedback. All feedback in life ain't positive. If you're going to do this and it's a tacky tradition in your family, you should have just asked one of your relatives for songs they used.
Tacky shit gets judged everywhere. Get used to it.
Golddigger because that's what the money dance does.
because that's what the money dance does? I'm not money hungry. I just think it to be a good idea because at all my families weddings they do this and no one seems to mind. everyone takes part in it. It's something fun to get people up and moving. and whats the difference between getting a dollar from one person or having them spend who knows how much on a gift registry, which im not doing.
If you're not money hungry, then why do it? Just have some good tunes playing and people will dance.
Out of curiosity, if you don't have a registry, what are you doing? Has anyone asked you where you are registered? How do you reply?
Listen, if all your going to do is judge then don't comment. I came to this site for advice, not for MY wedding ideas to be shot down. All I asked for are song ideas and help with invitations.
As soon as you invite guests, it ceases to be YOUR wedding.
I'm not saying my wedding as in the guests don't matter. I'm saying it like im not getting anything but negative feedback from people who already had their wedding or will be or whatever the case might be.
The ideas you suggested (byob and money dance) are both etiquette blunders. And nobody gave you grief regarding the kids table or the joint bachelor/ette party. Stop playing the victim card.
Listen, if all your going to do is judge then don't comment. I came to this site for advice, not for MY wedding ideas to be shot down. All I asked for are song ideas and help with invitations.
As soon as you invite guests, it ceases to be YOUR wedding.
I'm not saying my wedding as in the guests don't matter. I'm saying it like im not getting anything but negative feedback from people who already had their wedding or will be or whatever the case might be.
Exactly who else did you seek advice from, when you posted on a public wedding forum? People who never plan on being married?
And I'll add my voice to the chorus. The dollar dance is tacky and it's very likely that it will make many of your guests uncomfortable.
"I'm not a rude bitch. I'm ten rude bitches in a large coat."
Listen, if all your going to do is judge then don't comment. I came to this site for advice, not for MY wedding ideas to be shot down. All I asked for are song ideas and help with invitations.
As soon as you invite guests, it ceases to be YOUR wedding.
I'm not saying my wedding as in the guests don't matter. I'm saying it like im not getting anything but negative feedback from people who already had their wedding or will be or whatever the case might be.
The ideas you suggested (byob and money dance) are both etiquette blunders. And nobody gave you grief regarding the kids table or the joint bachelor/ette party. Stop playing the victim card.
I'm playing the victim card? Nice, always love hearing things I didn't know about myself.
Listen, if all your going to do is judge then don't comment. I came to this site for advice, not for MY wedding ideas to be shot down. All I asked for are song ideas and help with invitations.
As soon as you invite guests, it ceases to be YOUR wedding.
I'm not saying my wedding as in the guests don't matter. I'm saying it like im not getting anything but negative feedback from people who already had their wedding or will be or whatever the case might be.
Exactly who else did you seek advice from, when you posted on a public wedding forum? People who never plan on being married?
And I'll add my voice to the chorus. The dollar dance is tacky and it's very likely that it will make many of your guests uncomfortable.
That's what I was saying. Eveyone here is or will be married, that's why I came to this site....
Golddigger because that's what the money dance does.
because that's what the money dance does? I'm not money hungry. I just think it to be a good idea because at all my families weddings they do this and no one seems to mind. everyone takes part in it. It's something fun to get people up and moving. and whats the difference between getting a dollar from one person or having them spend who knows how much on a gift registry, which im not doing.
If you're not money hungry, then why do it? Just have some good tunes playing and people will dance.
Out of curiosity, if you don't have a registry, what are you doing? Has anyone asked you where you are registered? How do you reply?
Nobody has asked about a registry, I havn't sent invites yet. i'm not asking my guests for gifts because me and my fiancée have everything we need.
Golddigger because that's what the money dance does.
because that's what the money dance does? I'm not money hungry. I just think it to be a good idea because at all my families weddings they do this and no one seems to mind. everyone takes part in it. It's something fun to get people up and moving. and whats the difference between getting a dollar from one person or having them spend who knows how much on a gift registry, which im not doing.
1. I put a couple of bucks in a cup for a homeless guy this morning at the farmer's market. I really can't say I felt all that inclined to dance and party afterwards. You know what does get me up and dancing? Good music. Booze helps, too. If you throw a good party and have a good playlist, you don't have to trick people and panhandle in order to get them moving and having a good time.
2. Your friends and family aren't going to tell you you're being rude and tacky. They don't want to hurt your feelings because they are your friends and family. They'll just think it and whisper to each other behind your back. A friend of mine had a cash bar. I had to leave the reception at one point to go find an ATM to get cash. If it wasn't for being a friend I want to keep in my life, I probably would have ditched the reception fairly quickly - I drove for two and half hours, purchased a gift, stood during the ceremony (because they didn't have chairs for everyone), and then had to pay for my own drinks besides. Have I told my friend how uncomfortable I was standing in place for an hour in heels and I thought it was inconsiderate to make her guests do so and then make us pay for our drinks besides (most people I know don't carry cash on them, let alone to a wedding)? Nope, because that would make her feel bad. Just because I chose to preserve her feelings and not say anything doesn't mean what she did wasn't rude and tacky. Why would you deliberately choose to be rude and tacky to your family and friends just because they won't outwardly grumble about it? These are the people you allegedly love most and should want to treat with courtesy and respect, not like a cash machine.
If you want to get everyone up and dancing, why not just have the dj announce that the bride and groom would like to dance with the guests? No money involved.
Listen, if all your going to do is judge then don't comment. I came to this site for advice, not for MY wedding ideas to be shot down. All I asked for are song ideas and help with invitations.
We are giving you advice, you are just being tone deaf.
If you don't want your ideas to be shot down then stop posting tacky and rude ideas.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
My family has been doing the Dollar Dance for years. (We are Polish.) It's usually 4-5 slow songs that take up a good 20-30 minutes of the reception and bore everyone to tears.
Nobody says anything to the bride and groom because they don't want to be rude, but trust me, things are said. So many of my relatives were relieved when I said I wasn't going to interrupt the fun partying and dancing with the Dollar Dance.
Since everyone gives cash or gifts anyway, there's no need to ask for more money. And yes, doing the Dollar Dance is asking for money.
The tradition started because that WAS the wedding gift - pinning money to the bride. Now that people bring cash/checks to weddings, the money dance is no longer "necessary". It's redundant and viewed as a fundraiser.
So while you may think nobody has a problem with it, it's obvious from this thread and things I've heard from my own friends and family that, yes, people DO have a problem with it.
The nice thing about the internet is that you're going to get objective opinions from a bunch of people who don't know you and don't feel a need to tell you a little white lie. I've learned a lot from this site, and it helped me host a spectacular wedding that people still comment on close to a year later. (Our anniversary is next month.)
By "spectacular", I don't mean expensive. Our guests were properly hosted, as in they did not have to pay for anything, but we didn't break the bank or go into debt either. We spent around $6000, including flights/hotel, and had 43 guests.
I suggest you take the advice of these fine ladies and skip the Dollar Dance. Since you are not creating a gift registry, guests will give you money. You don't have to tell them to. Everyone knows money is a great gift, and I'd wager about 95% of wedding guests give money when there's no registry. My cousins and I did not register for gifts for our weddings, and we received money from everyone but one couple (who makes beautiful quilts as wedding gifts, and we were all thrilled to receive one).
Golddigger because that's what the money dance does.
because that's what the money dance does? I'm not money hungry. I just think it to be a good idea because at all my families weddings they do this and no one seems to mind. everyone takes part in it. It's something fun to get people up and moving. and whats the difference between getting a dollar from one person or having them spend who knows how much on a gift registry, which im not doing.
If this is the only thing that is going to get your guests up and moving, I strongly suggest you find another DJ. A good DJ doesn't need to entice guests on to the dance floor with a money dance. They will be on the dance floor all night.
And if you have everything you need and insist on doing this "dance", why not just call it a well wishes dance? Why does money have to be involved?
Golddigger because that's what the money dance does.
because that's what the money dance does? I'm not money hungry. I just think it to be a good idea because at all my families weddings they do this and no one seems to mind. everyone takes part in it. It's something fun to get people up and moving. and whats the difference between getting a dollar from one person or having them spend who knows how much on a gift registry, which im not doing.
If you're not money hungry, then why do it? Just have some good tunes playing and people will dance.
Out of curiosity, if you don't have a registry, what are you doing? Has anyone asked you where you are registered? How do you reply?
Nobody has asked about a registry, I havn't sent invites yet. i'm not asking my guests for gifts because me and my fiancée have everything we need.
Listen, if all your going to do is judge then don't comment. I came to this site for advice, not for MY wedding ideas to be shot down. All I asked for are song ideas and help with invitations.
As soon as you invite guests, it ceases to be YOUR wedding.
I'm not saying my wedding as in the guests don't matter. I'm saying it like im not getting anything but negative feedback from people who already had their wedding or will be or whatever the case might be.
The ideas you suggested (byob and money dance) are both etiquette blunders. And nobody gave you grief regarding the kids table or the joint bachelor/ette party. Stop playing the victim card.
I'm playing the victim card? Nice, always love hearing things I didn't know about myself.
You're the one who said that you're only getting negative feedback. You got plenty of positive responses on your other threads.
If others in your family have done this, then I must assume you are Polish/Eastern Europe because that is their tradition. You should use polka music. If this is NOT the case, then you shouldn't be doing the dollar dance at all.
I'm anti-money dance, but those aren't the only cultures that do a money dance. It's also common in Hispanic circles, among others.
Listen, if all your going to do is judge then don't comment. I came to this site for advice, not for MY wedding ideas to be shot down. All I asked for are song ideas and help with invitations.
As soon as you invite guests, it ceases to be YOUR wedding.
I'm not saying my wedding as in the guests don't matter. I'm saying it like im not getting anything but negative feedback from people who already had their wedding or will be or whatever the case might be.
If everybody is telling you your plans are a bad idea, then maybe they're a bad idea.
Listen, if all your going to do is judge then don't comment. I came to this site for advice, not for MY wedding ideas to be shot down. All I asked for are song ideas and help with invitations.
We are giving you advice, you are just being tone deaf.
If you don't want your ideas to be shot down then stop posting tacky and rude ideas.
Tacky and rude ideas? okay, my whole family must be tacky and rude then. a lot of my family did what im doing for my wedding.
Listen, if all your going to do is judge then don't comment. I came to this site for advice, not for MY wedding ideas to be shot down. All I asked for are song ideas and help with invitations.
As soon as you invite guests, it ceases to be YOUR wedding.
I'm not saying my wedding as in the guests don't matter. I'm saying it like im not getting anything but negative feedback from people who already had their wedding or will be or whatever the case might be.
If everybody is telling you your plans are a bad idea, then maybe they're a b
Golddigger because that's what the money dance does.
because that's what the money dance does? I'm not money hungry. I just think it to be a good idea because at all my families weddings they do this and no one seems to mind. everyone takes part in it. It's something fun to get people up and moving. and whats the difference between getting a dollar from one person or having them spend who knows how much on a gift registry, which im not doing.
If you're not money hungry, then why do it? Just have some good tunes playing and people will dance.
Out of curiosity, if you don't have a registry, what are you doing? Has anyone asked you where you are registered? How do you reply?
Nobody has asked about a registry, I havn't sent invites yet. i'm not asking my guests for gifts because me and my fiancée have everything we need.
Listen, if all your going to do is judge then don't comment. I came to this site for advice, not for MY wedding ideas to be shot down. All I asked for are song ideas and help with invitations.
As soon as you invite guests, it ceases to be YOUR wedding.
I'm not saying my wedding as in the guests don't matter. I'm saying it like im not getting anything but negative feedback from people who already had their wedding or will be or whatever the case might be.
The ideas you suggested (byob and money dance) are both etiquette blunders. And nobody gave you grief regarding the kids table or the joint bachelor/ette party. Stop playing the victim card.
I'm playing the victim card? Nice, always love hearing things I didn't know about myself.
You're the one who said that you're only getting negative feedback. You got plenty of positive responses on your other threads.
so that means im playing the victim card? okay. and I REALLY don't care what people think about my grammar
Golddigger because that's what the money dance does.
because that's what the money dance does? I'm not money hungry. I just think it to be a good idea because at all my families weddings they do this and no one seems to mind. everyone takes part in it. It's something fun to get people up and moving. and whats the difference between getting a dollar from one person or having them spend who knows how much on a gift registry, which im not doing.
If this is the only thing that is going to get your guests up and moving, I strongly suggest you find another DJ. A good DJ doesn't need to entice guests on to the dance floor with a money dance. They will be on the dance floor all night.
And if you have everything you need and insist on doing this "dance", why not just call it a well wishes dance? Why does money have to be involved?
Listen, if all your going to do is judge then don't comment. I came to this site for advice, not for MY wedding ideas to be shot down. All I asked for are song ideas and help with invitations.
As soon as you invite guests, it ceases to be YOUR wedding.
I'm not saying my wedding as in the guests don't matter. I'm saying it like im not getting anything but negative feedback from people who already had their wedding or will be or whatever the case might be.
If everybody is telling you your plans are a bad idea, then maybe they're a b
Golddigger because that's what the money dance does.
because that's what the money dance does? I'm not money hungry. I just think it to be a good idea because at all my families weddings they do this and no one seems to mind. everyone takes part in it. It's something fun to get people up and moving. and whats the difference between getting a dollar from one person or having them spend who knows how much on a gift registry, which im not doing.
If you're not money hungry, then why do it? Just have some good tunes playing and people will dance.
Out of curiosity, if you don't have a registry, what are you doing? Has anyone asked you where you are registered? How do you reply?
Nobody has asked about a registry, I havn't sent invites yet. i'm not asking my guests for gifts because me and my fiancée have everything we need.
Listen, if all your going to do is judge then don't comment. I came to this site for advice, not for MY wedding ideas to be shot down. All I asked for are song ideas and help with invitations.
As soon as you invite guests, it ceases to be YOUR wedding.
I'm not saying my wedding as in the guests don't matter. I'm saying it like im not getting anything but negative feedback from people who already had their wedding or will be or whatever the case might be.
The ideas you suggested (byob and money dance) are both etiquette blunders. And nobody gave you grief regarding the kids table or the joint bachelor/ette party. Stop playing the victim card.
I'm playing the victim card? Nice, always love hearing things I didn't know about myself.
You're the one who said that you're only getting negative feedback. You got plenty of positive responses on your other threads.
so that means im playing the victim card? okay. and I REALLY don't care what people think about my grammar
You seemingly don't care about what people think about you at all.
Look. The consensus of the board is that dollar dances are rude and tacky. They slow the party down, they take forever and are uncomfortable for many people. It's an easy tradition to skip, or modify to not include money. People are giving you ideas for how to modify it. If you want to do it, go ahead and do it, but don't expect advice on how to do it, cause like Addie said, if someone asks for advice on how to proceed with a bad idea, we're going to tell them not to do said bad idea, not tell them how best to do it.
Since im obviously a troll, i'll take my RUDENESS elsewhere. I've used google for a lot of wedding help and not one thing stating a money dance being rude. I sure as fuck won't be back on this site.
Listen, if all your going to do is judge then don't comment. I came to this site for advice, not for MY wedding ideas to be shot down. All I asked for are song ideas and help with invitations.
As soon as you invite guests, it ceases to be YOUR wedding.
I'm not saying my wedding as in the guests don't matter. I'm saying it like im not getting anything but negative feedback from people who already had their wedding or will be or whatever the case might be.
If everybody is telling you your plans are a bad idea, then maybe they're a b
Since im obviously a troll, i'll take my RUDENESS elsewhere. I've used google for a lot of wedding help and not one thing stating a money dance being rude. I sure as fuck won't be back on this site.
Don't let the door hit ya where the good Lord split ya!
Why do other sites have to explicitly say the money/dollar dance is rude? You're expecting people to give you money. There is no way in which that can be anything but rude and money-grubbing. We only bother to say so because apparently some people can't make that little logical connection.
Golddigger because that's what the money dance does.
because that's what the money dance does? I'm not money hungry. I just think it to be a good idea because at all my families weddings they do this and no one seems to mind. everyone takes part in it. It's something fun to get people up and moving. and whats the difference between getting a dollar from one person or having them spend who knows how much on a gift registry, which im not doing.
If this is the only thing that is going to get your guests up and moving, I strongly suggest you find another DJ. A good DJ doesn't need to entice guests on to the dance floor with a money dance. They will be on the dance floor all night.
And if you have everything you need and insist on doing this "dance", why not just call it a well wishes dance? Why does money have to be involved?
My DJ is actually great at what he does.
Great! Then you shouldn't have to worry about "getting people up and moving". Skip the money dance.
Since im obviously a troll, i'll take my RUDENESS elsewhere. I've used google for a lot of wedding help and not one thing stating a money dance being rude. I sure as fuck won't be back on this site.
Glad you found other places that will validate shitty ideas. Have fun with that. See ya!
Re: Money dance songs?
I'm the fuck out.
If you're not money hungry, then why do it? Just have some good tunes playing and people will dance.
The ideas you suggested (byob and money dance) are both etiquette blunders. And nobody gave you grief regarding the kids table or the joint bachelor/ette party. Stop playing the victim card.
Nobody has asked about a registry, I havn't sent invites yet. i'm not asking my guests for gifts because me and my fiancée have everything we need.
1. I put a couple of bucks in a cup for a homeless guy this morning at the farmer's market. I really can't say I felt all that inclined to dance and party afterwards. You know what does get me up and dancing? Good music. Booze helps, too. If you throw a good party and have a good playlist, you don't have to trick people and panhandle in order to get them moving and having a good time.
2. Your friends and family aren't going to tell you you're being rude and tacky. They don't want to hurt your feelings because they are your friends and family. They'll just think it and whisper to each other behind your back. A friend of mine had a cash bar. I had to leave the reception at one point to go find an ATM to get cash. If it wasn't for being a friend I want to keep in my life, I probably would have ditched the reception fairly quickly - I drove for two and half hours, purchased a gift, stood during the ceremony (because they didn't have chairs for everyone), and then had to pay for my own drinks besides. Have I told my friend how uncomfortable I was standing in place for an hour in heels and I thought it was inconsiderate to make her guests do so and then make us pay for our drinks besides (most people I know don't carry cash on them, let alone to a wedding)? Nope, because that would make her feel bad. Just because I chose to preserve her feelings and not say anything doesn't mean what she did wasn't rude and tacky. Why would you deliberately choose to be rude and tacky to your family and friends just because they won't outwardly grumble about it? These are the people you allegedly love most and should want to treat with courtesy and respect, not like a cash machine.
If you don't want your ideas to be shot down then stop posting tacky and rude ideas.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
But JIC, band is: flying lizards, song is "money" - it fits your situation perfectly.
You're the one who said that you're only getting negative feedback. You got plenty of positive responses on your other threads.
so that means im playing the victim card? okay. and I REALLY don't care what people think about my grammar
My DJ is actually great at what he does.Look. The consensus of the board is that dollar dances are rude and tacky. They slow the party down, they take forever and are uncomfortable for many people. It's an easy tradition to skip, or modify to not include money. People are giving you ideas for how to modify it. If you want to do it, go ahead and do it, but don't expect advice on how to do it, cause like Addie said, if someone asks for advice on how to proceed with a bad idea, we're going to tell them not to do said bad idea, not tell them how best to do it.
....It was the third hit for "are money dances rude?"