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What would you side eye on a Registry

BESIDES Money and Honeymoon stuff:)  I am just looking for what makes you raise your eyebrows. I was speaking to a girl  I work with about things people do and dont register for. She said she gets mad when people register for games, movies, etc. I on the other hand like to make up cute baskets for showers usually with that type of stuff so LOVE them. One thing I saw I did not like once was a former friend of mine was getting married for the first time but had a child from a previous relationship... She put stuff on the registry for the child... Not just a few things but like 20 things.. It just found that odd. Anywho what else is kind of a etiquette no no.
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Re: What would you side eye on a Registry

  • I do side eye movies on a registry. I once had a coworker register for a bathroom scale, which I thought was interesting.
  • I would side eye clothes, children's stuff and entire groupings of furniture/crazy ass mattresses.

    I would not side eye board games, outdoor activities equipment, a single piece of large furniture, accent furniture, non price protected mattresses (because then I assume you're putting it on there for the completion discount, which doesn't work on things like tempur pedic)
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  • My cousin put Star Wars and batman twin sheets and 88 place settings on their registry. I side eyed.
  • Pretty much anything that isn't for the couple.  So the kids' stuff or clothing would be really odd to me.  I think movies and games are definitely items for the couple, so I am okay with that. 

    I don't think the bathroom scale is all that weird either.  If it's a couple who's into fitness and wants some kind of fancy scale, then I say go for it!




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  • We had a scale on ours. Apparently, whoops.
  • Honestly, I side eye a lot. I think so many people are so wasteful. If you have a colander that works, why do you need a $40 one. Just don't get it, but that's me. I think too many people upgrade for no reason. A friend of mine had a whole cabinet full of wine glasses perfectly fine, but she still registered for $300 of glassware.... I just don't understand. 

    Things I've seen I've I side eye: bath robes, Polaroid camera, board games, anything $500+ (I know this is regional, but no one buys anything that big, even in a group), children's items, multiples of the same item. 
  • I have saw scales on a bunch of registries, never thought it was odd at all... I also don't mind games, movies and such.

    I always side eye the ones that add stuff for their kids, its not Christmas or their birthday, its the adults wedding. 

     

  • No children's stuff. No honeyfund.
  • Anything that is for a child, crazy expensive items ($500+) or large furniture items like a sofa or a bed. A friend of mine once registered for a large carabiner clip thing that was supposed to help you carry multiple plastic grocery bags at once. I think it was a big $2. I kind of side-eyed that because I really didn't see the point in registering for something like that.

  • I side-eye anything that's not for the couple.  Board games, a couch- yes.  Kids' stuff- no.

    Having had both a bridal and baby shower, as a recipient, I'm not much a fan of baskets of stuff that's not on the registry.  They look beautiful, and I was thankful for any gift, but living in a 1-bedroom apt, extra stuff is a burden.  Good gift-giving etiquette is to stick with the registry.
  • Eh I've heard brides say some of the things they loved getting the most were things not on their registry. This will be my 2nd wedding and for the 1st I can say too I got things I never even know I wanted until someone got them for me :)
  • Cheap stuff. I want to buy you something that will last for 30 years and feel really special, not a six pack of Corelle and a fuzzy toilet seat cover and Ikea glasses.
  • Cheap stuff. I want to buy you something that will last for 30 years and feel really special, not a six pack of Corelle and a fuzzy toilet seat cover and Ikea glasses.

    I respectfully disagree with the Corelle, as that shit can last FOREVER. But yeah, I'm not buying someone cheap ass cookware that's going to fall apart in a year.
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  • Cheap stuff. I want to buy you something that will last for 30 years and feel really special, not a six pack of Corelle and a fuzzy toilet seat cover and Ikea glasses.
    Just want to say that even super expensive glassware can break, because you know, it is glass and if you drop it, it most likely breaks.

  • Well, this coworker is on the heavy side and was never one to show interest in getting healthier, so the scale just seemed to be ... ironic.  I probably wouldn't have noticed if it was anyone else.
  • chibiyui said:
    I respectfully disagree with the Corelle, as that shit can last FOREVER. But yeah, I'm not buying someone cheap ass cookware that's going to fall apart in a year.
    We LOVE our Corelle. We're actually the third people to own our set, and it's still complete (none are broken or chipped at all). It's a really basic set so we have been able to just buy generic serving pieces to go with it for entertaining. I have 8-piece settings from Lenox that have never come out of the packaging in the 8ish years I've owned it, but the Corelle comes out every time we have food (guests or no guests).
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  • There aren't that many things I'd side-eye on a registry. I don't care if the registry has a "theme" or isn't mainstream; that is, that it has non-standard things on it like books, movies, games, tools, etc. If people want to register for those things rather than things like china, crystal, silver, linens, and so on, that doesn't bother me. I would side-eye gifts for anyone else like kids or for pets, charitable donations, really big appliances, furniture, or other such purchases, or anything really intimate, including funding their honeymoons. Those are things the couple needs to spend their own money on, not use their wedding to solicit from their guests. In addition, I'd side-eye cash-only requests (this is basically what honeyfunds are with a cut to the sponsors) and no-gifts requests on registries because those are just ungracious.
  • chibiyui said:
    I respectfully disagree with the Corelle, as that shit can last FOREVER. But yeah, I'm not buying someone cheap ass cookware that's going to fall apart in a year.
     
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    Yup, I'm still using my mom's hand me down corelle (she just wanted a new pattern) from 30+ years ago... I LOVE how light it is compared to most plates, and would only consider getting a new pattern for a "set."  I also have some other random dishes and a full set of Fiestaware and everything else is SO HEAVY!
     
    And of course I love my Pyrex and Corningware, which I had to buy new bc mom still uses hers!

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  • I'll go with what a PP called "wasteful". Expensive pots and pans, sure. An expensive paper-towel holder? Not so much. Once I joked to H about someone's registry, "Where's the golden toilet seat?" There wasn't much we wanted to upgrade so our guests probably saw our registry of wine supplies and thought we were alcoholics.
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    I love my Corelle! I use it for everything. We got two different patterns (because I think someone misread the registry) but they coordinate really well.
  • I don't understand the side-eye at the board games and/or movies and would love some explanation of that from those who question it. When I have been on a budget and seen items like this on a registry I generally would prefer buying those options over things like buying a $25 towel or plate. My fiance and I like to play games like scrabble together and I was definitely thinking of including some games we don't have on our registry. If that is in some way tacky I would love to know the reasoning.
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  • We LOVE our Corelle. We're actually the third people to own our set, and it's still complete (none are broken or chipped at all). It's a really basic set so we have been able to just buy generic serving pieces to go with it for entertaining. I have 8-piece settings from Lenox that have never come out of the packaging in the 8ish years I've owned it, but the Corelle comes out every time we have food (guests or no guests).
    My mom and dad have owned Corelle for over 40 years and it's still going strong.
  • I love getting my friends board games or other fun things like that! I'd much prefer they think of me when they play Cards Against Humanity instead of when they're boiling water.

    I didn't really side eye this, but my friend's husband registered for a Playstation 3 when they got married. Turns out my friend had no idea he did this--no one got it for them, so she only knew when we told her how funny we thought it was. I'm guessing it was for the completion discount.

    Also, another sign that I'm not yet an adult: I have no idea what Corelle is.
  • I love getting my friends board games or other fun things like that! I'd much prefer they think of me when they play Cards Against Humanity instead of when they're boiling water.

    I didn't really side eye this, but my friend's husband registered for a Playstation 3 when they got married. Turns out my friend had no idea he did this--no one got it for them, so she only knew when we told her how funny we thought it was. I'm guessing it was for the completion discount.

    Also, another sign that I'm not yet an adult: I have no idea what Corelle is.

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    Corelle is a brand of dishes by Corning.
  • Corelle is a type of dishware :)

    I've seen many a groom slide things on the registry lol. AND I've seen a lot of them get those things you know they are the ones that registered for it.

  • I haven't seen anything side-eye worthy of a registry before, but I heard one of the Duggars registered for breakfast cereal.  I would side eye that.
  • For the most recent wedding we attended, the couple had registered for a nose and ear hair trimmer. 
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