Dear Knot 911,
My fiancé and I are
recently engaged and we finally selected a reception venue. We are a year out
from the date and wanted to get our venue booked and out of the way before I
started school this semester. The venue we found is perfect for our needs - it
is fun, nontraditional, and is one of the only venues in the area that fits
inside our small budget.
We began to tell our
families about the venue two weeks ago, and today, my fiancé’s dad called him
asking why we chose that particular venue, because well, you see, that is my fiancé’s
older (unmarried, single) sister's dream venue. Apparently, she called 'dibs'.
We've already booked
the venue, but we haven't put down our deposit just yet.
His family wants to
avoid an issue by asking us to discreetly back off the venue and find something
else in order to avoid angering the sister. I am already upset - what can I
possibly do? I really want this venue because it fits our budget and have
already begun planning, but how can I put my foot down without ruining my
relationship with my new family?