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• PrettyGirlLost member

  

  September 2014

  mrsr101214 said:

  I don't care about the cost of it. She just came into our lives recently, and this has nothing to do with slighting her or proving a point. She wasn't going to get one when she was just his escort, but now that they're married, it just dawned on me that maybe I should explore the option. My fiancé isn't really keen on the idea-and we have people that we're closer to who aren't getting corsages-we feel that the corsages are for the mothers (Godmother in his case) and grandmother (aka people who play significant roles in our lives) do we feel it is awkward to give one to her.

  Why not?  You can give corsages to whomever you wish!
  
  I think it would be a sign of respect to give your FI's Father's WIFE a corsage.  Although it sounds like he has some unresolved issues relating to his father's marriage that he neds to work out/get over. . . .
  

  
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• PrettyGirlLost member

  

  September 2014

  mrsr101214 said:

  Because they are for people who are important to us. Moms & grandmas. She doesn't play a role in our lives. She married his dad (a month and a half ago). How can we give a corsage to a woman we basically just met, and then not give other people in our lives (who had played pivotal roles) corsages. In our opinion, corsages are for moms and grandmas (and Godmother in his case as his mom has passed). She is neither. So she's not getting one. Spoke to my wedding planner and was told just to give to my mom, his grandma, and his Godmother. Thanks for all the input though.

  Why CAN'T you give those other ppl corsages as well?
  

  
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• chibiyui member

  

  September 2014

  misshart00 said:

  Thinking about it, I don't even remember who got corsages at our wedding.

  Same. I'm pretty sure I had for our moms, grandmothers and my one aunt who was my babysitter for years, but I can't actually tell you if they wore them or not without looking at pics.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

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• perdonami member

  

  September 2014

  I purchased corsages for my aunt and my MIL.. I later on had regret for not purchasing a corsage for my other aunt who flew out of state for our wedding.. And why didn't I consider my SIL's?? Oh well, too late to fix now (though I doubt they really cared all that much).

  
  

  Bought a wreath of flowers for our FG as I knew she would love it and would pretend she was a princess. Apparently she wore it for two days after the wedding. 

  
  

  And also bought bouts for our 5 groomsmen and 2 for my FIL and my substance abusing father who told me last minute he didn't want to attend. Glad he decided to show up anyway as it would have hurt my brother's feelings.

  
  

  Only regrets I have are not buying flowers for more people and honestly, we were on a very tight budget. 

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• wrigleyville member

  

  September 2014

  It's a fucking flower. Is this really a hill you want to die on? 

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• PrettyGirlLost member

  

  September 2014

  I can't keep track of which thread is which right now ><
  

  
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• misshart00 member

  

  September 2014

  PrettyGirlLost said:

  I can't keep track of which thread is which right now ><
  

  Me neither. I got so confused when OP DD'd last night.

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• slothiegal member

  

  September 2014

  PrettyGirlLost said:

  I can't keep track of which thread is which right now ><
  

  
  

  SIB

  
  

  All I know is that the majority are giving me a headache.

  

  
  

  
  

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• ohannabelle member

  

  September 2014 edited September 2014

  Holy Mother on a pogo-stick, why are you even asking this?

  The correct answer, rule number two in the big book of common sense, is always choose the most gracious and kindest possible action.

  How hard is that?

  Apply this to your daily life, and things tend to go very nicely. Even if some people are unappreciative assholes, you always have the satisfaction of winning, and smelling like a rose. 

  
  

  The original question aside:

  
  

  I can't even conceive of not giving a corsage to Grandmas. They are champion corsage wearers, and Grandmas wear their corsages proudly, like war medals. I would never dare to deprive a Grandma of a corsage. That's serious shit in Grandmaland. 

  
  

  ETA- not the OP who wasn't corsaging Grandmas, it's someone else. My eyes glazed over about halfway through this nonsense.

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• VulgarGirl member

  

  September 2014

  We're suppossed to do corsages? I don't think we're doing corsages.

  
  

  Yeah, no we aren't doing them. Not for my mom, my step-mom, my other step-mom, my grandma...no one is getting. I didn't even know they were a thing until I came here. I figured corsages were just prom/homecoming type stuff.

  
  

  However if I were doing them, yeah, I'd do them for my FFIL's wife cause I'm gonna have to deal with her for a long ass time and I'd rather start that off on the best foot possible.

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• abbyj700 member

  

  September 2014

  Shit, I've NEVER met my FSMIL - and we'll be getting her a corsage. FI has only met her once and FFIL doesn't even LIVE with her. BUT - she is important to him (in their own way. This is his wife - and we resepct that a flower can make them both happy.

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