NWR: Is this ironic?

ShellD13 · October 2014

I know the circumstances are very different but it reminds me of this article from a few years ago....

http://news.yahoo.com/285-indian-girls-shed-unwanted-names-122551876.html

Can you imagine what these girls went through up to this point???

JennyColada · October 2014

Well what if the child was the sperm of someone a with a genetic disorder? Would you all still be saying that the parents should just accept the kid for who she is and be done with it? I mean, I know that's far off because being black isn't exactly (at all) a "disorder", but I think the theory behind it is the same: the parents figured what they were capable of handling as parents and they got something that they couldn't handle. Being a parent is scary enough without adding an extra struggle on to it. It's not all about the kid's struggle, but the parents'. This is a huge reason why I'm not ready to be a parent yet: because I'M not ready to watch my child struggle through life. I'M not strong enough to support a child through the myriad of things that can go wrong.

And someone said "be the change", do you know how fucking scary that is? Who has the strength to do that? Not me! I want to fit in with the crowd thank you very much!

Did the company screw up? Probably. There should have been some sort of stop gap or fail safe. Do the parents have to "make it work"? Yea, and that can't be easy. But I wish that they would have taken more of a negligence angle for the suit rather than "boo hoo life is so hard for biracial kids", because that really does make them sound ignorant, which is quite distasteful.

esstee33 · October 2014

JennyColada said:

Well what if the child was the sperm of someone a with a genetic disorder? Would you all still be saying that the parents should just accept the kid for who she is and be done with it? I mean, I know that's far off because being black isn't exactly (at all) a "disorder", but I think the theory behind it is the same: the parents figured what they were capable of handling as parents and they got something that they couldn't handle. Being a parent is scary enough without adding an extra struggle on to it. It's not all about the kid's struggle, but the parents'. This is a huge reason why I'm not ready to be a parent yet: because I'M not ready to watch my child struggle through life. I'M not strong enough to support a child through the myriad of things that can go wrong. And someone said "be the change", do you know how fucking scary that is? Who has the strength to do that? Not me! I want to fit in with the crowd thank you very much! Did the company screw up? Probably. There should have been some sort of stop gap or fail safe. Do the parents have to "make it work"? Yea, and that can't be easy. But I wish that they would have taken more of a negligence angle for the suit rather than "boo hoo life is so hard for biracial kids", because that really does make them sound ignorant, which is quite distasteful.

1st bolded: I'm incredibly confused by what you're actually saying here. Because, yes, if the sperm mix-up resulted in a genetic disorder, OF COURSE the parents should just accept the kid for who she is. They would still have the same legal rights as they do in this situation. Whether the kid turned out to be biracial or genetically disordered, it's deplorable that they're making her out to be "wrong."

2nd: I am actually nearly speechless. That was me that said "be the change," because I'd rather be scared and speak up for what's right and wrong than be a sheep who just goes along with all the assholes and bigots who do wrong because that's "just the way things are." Being a good person isn't always easy. Grow a pair, seriously.

esstee33 · October 2014

Also, WTF? My sister had a baby at 17 that turned out to have cerebral palsy. None of us were ready for the incredible amount of work that goes into caring for him, and it's been 11 years now.

Anyone who gets pregnant should understand that there's never a guarantee that you're only going to get the child you feel like you're ready to parent. If you're unwilling or unable to accept whatever child you have, even if that child comes with disabilities, don't reproduce. Please.

IrishPirate60 · October 2014

Yikes. That's just damn ugly all the way around.

Kahlyla · October 2014

ashley8918 said:

I understand being pissed that you didn't get what you paid for, so to speak. Just like any other transaction/purchase, this is not acceptable. But, regarding the "it's too hard to raise a biracial child in a white community": Oh, fuck you, asshole. This is going to be so damaging to that little girl when she grows up and find out about what her moms did. And she will find out.

I'm guessing that to have any chance at winning this lawsuit they have to try to show "damages" of some sort. So they're probably just throwing every argument they can out there (as to how much of a hardship this is going to be) and hoping something sticks. Which is, I totally agree, not at all the right thing or worth the damage it will do to the child when she discovers it all.

If it had been me I'd like to think I would raise the issue such that the clinic would take a good hard look at shoring up its policies, and then move the fuck on. Certainly not demand money for "giving me the wrong child."

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