Rude Wedding Invitations

natswild · October 2014

A coworker invited me by text one week before her wedding, and my SO was not invited. I didn't go, and spent the weekend with him instead (he was working out of town)

weddingmuse · October 2014

"A Money Tree Will Be Available at the Reception"

Printed in beautiful thermography on the reception card enclosure.

rsbloom · October 2014

Not a wedding invite, but I got my wedding thank you (8 months after the wedding) in the same envelope as the baby announcement saying they would be coming back to the hometown for a baby shower soon....yeah we forgot to thank you but now we want a gift for our baby!

This couple booked their trip for our wedding "on the wrong weekend oops" even though they had the STD forever, and now that weekend they're having the baby shower! Sorry, not sorry, we'll be on our hineymoon!

bethsmiles · October 2014

I have a new one. SO's parents went to a wedding yesterday. The invitation stated a start time of 2:30 but then said that because the wedding was so far out of town and it would take people awhile to get there things wouldn't get started until 3:30. We were all confused by that. Who gives two start times in an invitation? I'm not sure it's it's rude but it's definitely confusing!

SO's parents cut the difference and aimed to arrive at 3. The ceremony didn't start until 4:15. And everyone had to stand for the ceremony.

The invite also had a dress code of "casual".

huskypuppy14 · October 2014

LarraO2530 said:

My FI was verbally invited over the phone to his best friend's wedding that was scheduled 30 days from the phone call..... was the "best man" and was told what and where to buy the "attire" of a plaid shirt and blue jeans for this outdoor wedding. FI's mom received a phone call and more info was given that it was "bring your own chair" ...and another set of friends was called and told "byob...and something to share" .... FI assumed I had been included in his phone call invite but asked anyway since all other VIPs were phoned individually and spouses/SO were verbally invited, yet I was not. Rehearsal dinner was for "wedding party only" and it was to set up the event for the following day. FI respectfully declined the role of best man, and we ended up not even going. We were filled in later by our friends...with pictures

Did they plan this wedding quickly? There is no reason why people can't verbally invte people over the phone for a wedding that is happening in a month. Maybe they didn't do mailed invitations.

Why did he have to buy the clothes in a specific store. Blue jeans and a plaid shirt are pretty common attire that you can buy anywhere. (I"m assuming this was the groomsman attire, so not horrible).

The bring your own chair, BYOB, and something to share is rude.

The most egregious thing is that you were not invited to your FI best friend's wedding! I could let everything else slide, but not that. Good job to you FI for declining this event. I hope he told his friend why.

huskypuppy14 · October 2014

rsbloom said:

Not a wedding invite, but I got my wedding thank you (8 months after the wedding) in the same envelope as the baby announcement saying they would be coming back to the hometown for a baby shower soon....yeah we forgot to thank you but now we want a gift for our baby!

This couple booked their trip for our wedding "on the wrong weekend oops" even though they had the STD forever, and now that weekend they're having the baby shower! Sorry, not sorry, we'll be on our hineymoon!

WinstonsGirl · October 2014

Every wedding up here has a 3-4 hour gap for photos, so every invite I've received says something along the lines of "ceremony at 1:30, cocktails at 5:30, dinner at 6:30". And everyone includes registry cards, except for 1 couple who didn't register. They just stated they were saving for their HM. Which they weren't actually planning either.

My BFF (whom I was MOH for) sent out e-vites, since she's quite environmental and didn't want to kill trees. Of course, it only came to me. I actually phoned to make sure DH was invited, cos I figured he was. She said of course he is, I just didn't have his e-mail address. She also changed the location a few weeks later but didn't tell everyone who was invited. I had to tell a few people the week before. She's not intentionally rude, she is just someone who honestly doesn't realize that it will come across as rude.

zitiqueen · October 2014

WinstonsGirl said:

Every wedding up here has a 3-4 hour gap for photos, so every invite I've received says something along the lines of "ceremony at 1:30, cocktails at 5:30, dinner at 6:30". And everyone includes registry cards, except for 1 couple who didn't register. They just stated they were saving for their HM. Which they weren't actually planning either.

My BFF (whom I was MOH for) sent out e-vites, since she's quite environmental and didn't want to kill trees. Of course, it only came to me. I actually phoned to make sure DH was invited, cos I figured he was. She said of course he is, I just didn't have his e-mail address. She also changed the location a few weeks later but didn't tell everyone who was invited. I had to tell a few people the week before. She's not intentionally rude, she is just someone who honestly doesn't realize that it will come across as rude.

She didn't think it would be rude to not tell her invited guests the location of the wedding had changed?

WinstonsGirl · October 2014

She told most of us. I think she just didn't realize she hadn't told everyone. She can get a little spacey like that. She figures it will get around by word of mouth, or closer to the date, which I suppose it did.

RebeccaB88 · October 2014

Invitation arrived less than 3 weeks before wedding (hello, B-list?) and had an RSVP date of 3 days later. To the wedding of the daughter of a very distant relative that we only see once a year. Sent to My Mom and Family - I'm 44 and have lived on my own since graduating college, and my sister and her family lives on the other side of the country. Insert card listed their Honeyfund and a very small Williams-Sonoma registry, where nothing was less than $75 and 80% of it was on backorder. There also isn't a WS within 100 miles of their small town. It looked like a burlap factory threw up all over the reception. At least, from the pictures I saw, everyone had a chair, but our decline was in the mail within 24 hours and we did not send a gift.

LarraO2530 · October 2014

@huskypuppy14 ... oh yes he did let him know why he was declining.... and you'd think jeans and plaid could be purchased anywhere, but you'd be wrong in this case. Everyone was taken to Men's Warehouse to purchase some $80 plaid shirt and ridiculously priced jeans. Not to mention that FI is a bigger guy, played football all through HS and has thick legs so he has a hard time finding pants that fit him comfortably... apparently that was not a good excuse for purchasing jeans that did not look like he painted them on. He tried to explain, before declining, that the chosen designer does not make a wide enough pant leg to fit him, let alone for him to be comfy. That was unacceptable. There are other underlying reasons why this whole predicament irks me...but we won't go there

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