Ok so here is the scoop. "sorry for the long rant" My future mother in law can be very hard to deal to the point my own fiance and his family admit to it behind her back. In fact the first few times I met her I was terrified this woman is very intimidating. When I first met her all I could think of was Miss. Trunchbald from the movie Matilda. Anyways, she has had several of her children got married already and sees one of her youngest sons as the "leftovers I guess". She is planning this big family trip next May to Disney World including a lot of extended family this means like 30 people on the trip all for her and her husbands anniversary. She didn't ask anyone she just decided she is doing this! A lot of family members have said they can't afford to go "including us" because of finances. But she refuses to believe it! She is a control freak and likes everything to go her way, if doesn't she will make you miserable. For example when my fiances older brother couldn't invite distant cousins he never met to his wedding due to cost, she went and made her own invitations to send to them behind the bride and grooms back! Thats how the lady operates.
Anyways to get to the point of our wedding, she was upset when my fiance and I wanted to plan our wedding in a year instead of giving her two years "which no one in his family has waited that long" she threw a fit because it wasn't enough time for her to save money when she has a big one week disney trip and she doesn't like two big events so close together so it doesn't fit into her schedule. We even went as far to make sure our date was later "late" summer to give her, her "much needed event break from disney" and the only thing we are asking her for is what she can afford! My family and myself and my fiance are taking over the bualk of it! She offered to pay for the rehearsal dinner so we are keeping it small and cheap "we even offered to cook ourselves" instead of a caterer or restaurant. But that still isn't good enough for her! She wants wants wants, but doesn't see the cost when others are trying to help . I could go on all day but it is getting to the point my fiance is hurt and I am have all I can do not to hold back tears when she brings up the fact we should have waited two years so it fit into her schedule, oh and we are middle 20's both college degrees and careers etc. It's not like we just met or something we have known each other for 5 years and been together as a couple for over 2 years so there is not issue there. Please how do we handle this and not feel so hurt? I need to clarify we never asked her for money she wanted to do some of things she did for the other kids and told us what they were, so we are trying to work with her but it is a loosing battle nothing is good enough.