How many people have they over-invited? Is it something where they could just squeeze in a few more tables/chairs, or are we talking over-firecode here?
It's not the space, the space can hold up to...150 I think, and they only have 105 on their invite list, it's the cost. Because between three grown ass adults none of them know how to work a damn budget.
Oh gosh, that is TERRIBLE. And then for MOB to be such a drama queen. Jeesh. What is wrong with people?
Jenna's story reminds me of something that happened to my sister at FBIL's wedding. They invited her like two weeks beforehand just verbally, like an afterthought, because they had a lot of declines. Fi's cousin "Roberta" had blocked two rooms but only wound up needing one, so we arranged for my sister K to stay in that unused room. K paid the front desk directly for the room and settled in.
Later that day, FMIL calls me to ask if K wouldn't mind sharing the room with this random cousin Christina and her little girl. Christina has been estranged from the family until recently and she was also B-listed, is attending at the last minute, and can't afford a hotel room. I tell FMIL no, my sister has paid for this room, she has never met Christina or her daughter, and K will probably come back to the room really late and the little girl won't get any sleep. FMIL says okay, then she goes around me and asks Fi to ask K. NO, he says. Fine. FMIL drops it.
Even later that night at the after party, Roberta asks me if yet a different cousin can stay in K's room. Because this cousin, Rachel, didn't plan for her own room, either. I tell Roberta no. A few minutes later, Rachel comes up asks me how how many beds K's room has. I ask her why it matters. "Because I will have to sleep on the couch in Roberta's room, but I know K is next door because Roberta originally blocked that room, and she has two beds in there to herself."
Finally K told Rachel she was happy to share, and half the room was $X. Rachel got all quiet and then declined the offer, because she said she couldn't afford it.
WHAT. The everloving fuck. So you are trying to pressure my sister, who you've met maybe once, into sharing her hotel room but you weren't even planning to pay for any of it? and FMIL too. It was like circling vultures.
What the fuck!? No, just so much no. You're going to a wedding plan your fucking shit.
Oh gosh, that is TERRIBLE. And then for MOB to be such a drama queen. Jeesh. What is wrong with people?
Jenna's story reminds me of something that happened to my sister at FBIL's wedding. They invited her like two weeks beforehand just verbally, like an afterthought, because they had a lot of declines. Fi's cousin "Roberta" had blocked two rooms but only wound up needing one, so we arranged for my sister K to stay in that unused room. K paid the front desk directly for the room and settled in.
Later that day, FMIL calls me to ask if K wouldn't mind sharing the room with this random cousin Christina and her little girl. Christina has been estranged from the family until recently and she was also B-listed, is attending at the last minute, and can't afford a hotel room. I tell FMIL no, my sister has paid for this room, she has never met Christina or her daughter, and K will probably come back to the room really late and the little girl won't get any sleep. FMIL says okay, then she goes around me and asks Fi to ask K. NO, he says. Fine. FMIL drops it.
Even later that night at the after party, Roberta asks me if yet a different cousin can stay in K's room. Because this cousin, Rachel, didn't plan for her own room, either. I tell Roberta no. A few minutes later, Rachel comes up asks me how how many beds K's room has. I ask her why it matters. "Because I will have to sleep on the couch in Roberta's room, but I know K is next door because Roberta originally blocked that room, and she has two beds in there to herself."
Finally K told Rachel she was happy to share, and half the room was $X. Rachel got all quiet and then declined the offer, because she said she couldn't afford it.
WHAT. The everloving fuck. So you are trying to pressure my sister, who you've met maybe once, into sharing her hotel room but you weren't even planning to pay for any of it? and FMIL too. It was like circling vultures.
Kudos to you and yours for sticking to your guns! I don't know if I would have been able to do it, honestly (stupid obsequious midwestern upbringing dragging me down). It's hard to believe people can be that brazen.
I just can't with this woman. Long story short, she messaged me back and "totally understands" and FI can come.
Long story long:
She messages me back and says:
I understand how in love you are. I was just trying to figure out how to make my daughter's special day perfect, obviously this isn't the right path and FI is welcome. I guess part of me is just sad, I'll be watching my daughter get married, you're getting married, two of her bridesmaids are already married, and there I'll be sitting all alone. I really wish I had a man to love me like the two of you have. I just wanted you to understand that I've been feeling jealous over your relationships.
And it went on like that for awhile I kind of just skimmed it because it wall very "woe as me I'm currently single" blah, blah blah, bitch you're 50 learn to process your emotions like a grown up. She pulls this whole song and dance anytime she and her daughter get in a fight that it's just because she's jealous of her daughter's relationship. Don't put that shit on your kid or your kid's friend. Feel it if that's what you feel, but then go out for margaritas with your girlfriends and talk about it there. Don't fucking lash out at me. Also, she's been married twice. Her abusive first husband (and Bride's dad) passed away when we were in grade school, and her and her second husband split up after a year of marriage...like almost 5 years ago. And really I don't think she wants a relationship, she just wants to be married and have someone take care of her.
My response was "I'll see you at the shower this weekend, and FI is looking forward to the wedding", I left out because he knows it's gonna be a shit storm of crazy.
TOUGH TITTY, CRAZY LADY.
My fucking god, should y'all scooch her fainting couch a little closer? Just in case?
I just thought of this - I just attended my best friend's wedding. My other best friends on the planet there are all married and with kiddos and so was virtually everyone else. And I'm the crazy going through a divorce hot mess. Guess what. I thought about myself very little, had a ton of fun with my friends and their husbands, danced my butt off, focused on how freaking happy my BFF was and what I could do to make the experience the best for her, and cried happy tears for my bestie. I didn't try to tell everyone to come to the wedding solo because I'm lonely.
Mom can feel sorry for herself all she wants for being lonely. Being lonely sucks. But she's beyond crossing the line when she starts doing shit like this because of it. (obvi)
Re: You just got the ring (vent)
I'm the fuck out.