Which do you prefer Miss, Mrs. or Ms.

raissyrais · October 2014

I'm changing my name to FI's last name cause I HATE my current one with a passion and I would like the Mrs. in front of it because it makes me melt lol even though I do agree that it's quite sexist that a woman's title stays current to her marital status.

Ndelible · October 2014

I prefer Ms. and I feel it does not indicate if one is married or not. And, I think Miss really is for those under 18.

But, if someone wants to use the first name, say, like a child, I like Miss (insert first name). I think it's cute.

hellosweetie1015 · October 2014

Eh. I'd rather just be Cait. Frankly. I was Miss/Ms. Cait in the afterschool, and it took me about six weeks to get used to that. If it hadn't been an authority position for a significant number of kids, I would have still gone by Cait.

FI did once say Mrs. HisLast to me shortly after being engaged. It made me all squiggly inside.

bwy · October 2014

I voted I love turtles, because I have 5, but I can't wait to be Mrs.

themuffinman16 · October 2014

huskypuppy14 said:

I guess I don't care too much, but I find it annoying and sexist that woman are referred to by their marital status. I guess it's too hard to ever change it because not everyone likes the same one.

THIS! I totally agree. I hate how people have to know a woman is married before they address her? Why do women need to announce like their marital status? To me, thats what titles do. We need ONE title, like the men have their Mr. Or.... why do we even need titles? Silliness that has extended from the past that just needs to die.

KatieinBkln · October 2014

I prefer to be called "Commander."

theartistformerlyknownas · October 2014

I'd like to be called the original full form of all of those - Mistress. Cuz that's badass.

The National Parks Service addresses mail to me as Brigadier General.

lurkergirl · October 2014

CMGragain said:

In the south, it doesn't matter, because people pronounce all three titles the same - "Miz". The only way you can tell the difference is when it is written down.

I was going to say something along these lines. In working with little kids, it doesn't matter because they all say "Miss" no matter what the title is. And, yes, with adults it's always "Miz."

Miss Firstname is super common for kids too; it's how we usually referred to our adult neighbors or good friends' parents. The kids I tutor call me "Miss Lurkerfirstname"

Alikat9614 · October 2014

I was Ms. before and Mrs. now. No one really calls me Mrs at work, it's all first names. But since the wedding people will refer to as Mrs. HisLastName to be cute, and I like!

sunset30 · October 2014

I'm definitely a fan of Mrs. now that I'm married. I work with all adults so no one really uses titles professionally. For social correspondence, when customer service people address me (such as hotels, etc.), I think Ms. is impersonal and prefer Mrs. I don't really view Mrs. as sexist, it just implies a woman who is married and that is what I am.

huskypuppy14 · October 2014

sunset30 said:

I'm definitely a fan of Mrs. now that I'm married. I work with all adults so no one really uses titles professionally. For social correspondence, when customer service people address me (such as hotels, etc.), I think Ms. is impersonal and prefer Mrs. I don't really view Mrs. as sexist, it just implies a woman who is married and that is what I am.

Here is an interesting article looking at language and how it can be sexist towards women.

What's interesting is this sentence: By some accounts, the use of Mrs. to only refer to married women did not begin until the 19th century. If people prefer Mrs. maybe there can be this transition where Mrs. becomes the standard for adult woman, married or not.

I think a lot of times people don't realize that our language is sexist.

flyingfoxes · October 2014

I can't wait to be Mrs.

raissyrais · October 2014

huskypuppy14 said:

sunset30 said:

I'm definitely a fan of Mrs. now that I'm married. I work with all adults so no one really uses titles professionally. For social correspondence, when customer service people address me (such as hotels, etc.), I think Ms. is impersonal and prefer Mrs. I don't really view Mrs. as sexist, it just implies a woman who is married and that is what I am.

Here is an interesting article looking at language and how it can be sexist towards women.

What's interesting is this sentence: By some accounts, the use of Mrs. to only refer to married women did not begin until the 19th century. If people prefer Mrs. maybe there can be this transition where Mrs. becomes the standard for adult woman, married or not.

I think a lot of times people don't realize that our language is sexist.

In Quebec it's like that. When I first moved there I didn't understand why they never used Mademoiselle (Miss) but used Madame for everything (which is Mrs/Madam/Ms). They are quite pro women there and every woman is just that. Married or not you stay Madame for everyone. It felt weird because to me. Madame MyLastName was my mother! Also, getting married is not a good enough reason to change your name to your husband's name in Quebec. They don't even do that there, so hyphenating is the most common thing to do (if you ever get married in Quebec since the norm is just living together/companions/partners which you can then describe as a de-facto spouse.

ETA: I'm glad that I'm in UK now and that'll be so much easier to just take my FH's name

ilovecake84 · October 2014

raissyrais said:

huskypuppy14 said:

sunset30 said:

I'm definitely a fan of Mrs. now that I'm married. I work with all adults so no one really uses titles professionally. For social correspondence, when customer service people address me (such as hotels, etc.), I think Ms. is impersonal and prefer Mrs. I don't really view Mrs. as sexist, it just implies a woman who is married and that is what I am.

Here is an interesting article looking at language and how it can be sexist towards women.

What's interesting is this sentence: By some accounts, the use of Mrs. to only refer to married women did not begin until the 19th century. If people prefer Mrs. maybe there can be this transition where Mrs. becomes the standard for adult woman, married or not.

I think a lot of times people don't realize that our language is sexist.

In Quebec it's like that. When I first moved there I didn't understand why they never used Mademoiselle (Miss) but used Madame for everything (which is Mrs/Madam/Ms). They are quite pro women there and every woman is just that. Married or not you stay Madame for everyone. It felt weird because to me. Madame MyLastName was my mother! Also, getting married is not a good enough reason to change your name to your husband's name in Quebec. They don't even do that there, so hyphenating is the most common thing to do (if you ever get married in Quebec since the norm is just living together/companions/partners which you can then describe as a de-facto spouse.

ETA: I'm glad that I'm in UK now and that'll be so much easier to just take my FH's name

This is interesting because in elementary school (Ontario), we called our unmarried French teachers Mademoiselle.

amelisha · October 2014

ilovecake84 said:

huskypuppy14 said:

sunset30 said:

I'm definitely a fan of Mrs. now that I'm married. I work with all adults so no one really uses titles professionally. For social correspondence, when customer service people address me (such as hotels, etc.), I think Ms. is impersonal and prefer Mrs. I don't really view Mrs. as sexist, it just implies a woman who is married and that is what I am.

Here is an interesting article looking at language and how it can be sexist towards women.

What's interesting is this sentence: By some accounts, the use of Mrs. to only refer to married women did not begin until the 19th century. If people prefer Mrs. maybe there can be this transition where Mrs. becomes the standard for adult woman, married or not.

I think a lot of times people don't realize that our language is sexist.

In Quebec it's like that. When I first moved there I didn't understand why they never used Mademoiselle (Miss) but used Madame for everything (which is Mrs/Madam/Ms). They are quite pro women there and every woman is just that. Married or not you stay Madame for everyone. It felt weird because to me. Madame MyLastName was my mother! Also, getting married is not a good enough reason to change your name to your husband's name in Quebec. They don't even do that there, so hyphenating is the most common thing to do (if you ever get married in Quebec since the norm is just living together/companions/partners which you can then describe as a de-facto spouse.

ETA: I'm glad that I'm in UK now and that'll be so much easier to just take my FH's name
This is interesting because in elementary school (Ontario), we called our unmarried French teachers Mademoiselle.

In my Alberta French classes, "Mademoiselle" was only for the kids. All the teachers were "Madame", married or not. I noticed the same trend when I studied in Quebec too and I loved the simplicity of it too.

When I lived in Spain I noticed the obvious. Everyone checked for a ring and then gave me a very firm "Señorita", despite having a baby with me. It was quite judgemental every time, actually. I was just a nanny but when people didn't know, they were often almost rude with the pointing out my unmarried ness.

Sugargirl1019 · October 2014

Man, I want to be Madame DHLast.

raissyrais · October 2014

amelisha said:

ilovecake84 said:

huskypuppy14 said:

sunset30 said:

I'm definitely a fan of Mrs. now that I'm married. I work with all adults so no one really uses titles professionally. For social correspondence, when customer service people address me (such as hotels, etc.), I think Ms. is impersonal and prefer Mrs. I don't really view Mrs. as sexist, it just implies a woman who is married and that is what I am.

Here is an interesting article looking at language and how it can be sexist towards women.

What's interesting is this sentence: By some accounts, the use of Mrs. to only refer to married women did not begin until the 19th century. If people prefer Mrs. maybe there can be this transition where Mrs. becomes the standard for adult woman, married or not.

I think a lot of times people don't realize that our language is sexist.

In Quebec it's like that. When I first moved there I didn't understand why they never used Mademoiselle (Miss) but used Madame for everything (which is Mrs/Madam/Ms). They are quite pro women there and every woman is just that. Married or not you stay Madame for everyone. It felt weird because to me. Madame MyLastName was my mother! Also, getting married is not a good enough reason to change your name to your husband's name in Quebec. They don't even do that there, so hyphenating is the most common thing to do (if you ever get married in Quebec since the norm is just living together/companions/partners which you can then describe as a de-facto spouse.

ETA: I'm glad that I'm in UK now and that'll be so much easier to just take my FH's name
This is interesting because in elementary school (Ontario), we called our unmarried French teachers Mademoiselle.

In my Alberta French classes, "Mademoiselle" was only for the kids. All the teachers were "Madame", married or not. I noticed the same trend when I studied in Quebec too and I loved the simplicity of it too.

When I lived in Spain I noticed the obvious. Everyone checked for a ring and then gave me a very firm "Señorita", despite having a baby with me. It was quite judgemental every time, actually. I was just a nanny but when people didn't know, they were often almost rude with the pointing out my unmarried ness.

They do check rings like that here too! Hmm those old, traditional European ways.

huskypuppy14 · October 2014

raissyrais said:

amelisha said:

ilovecake84 said:

huskypuppy14 said:

sunset30 said:

I'm definitely a fan of Mrs. now that I'm married. I work with all adults so no one really uses titles professionally. For social correspondence, when customer service people address me (such as hotels, etc.), I think Ms. is impersonal and prefer Mrs. I don't really view Mrs. as sexist, it just implies a woman who is married and that is what I am.

Here is an interesting article looking at language and how it can be sexist towards women.

What's interesting is this sentence: By some accounts, the use of Mrs. to only refer to married women did not begin until the 19th century. If people prefer Mrs. maybe there can be this transition where Mrs. becomes the standard for adult woman, married or not.

I think a lot of times people don't realize that our language is sexist.

In Quebec it's like that. When I first moved there I didn't understand why they never used Mademoiselle (Miss) but used Madame for everything (which is Mrs/Madam/Ms). They are quite pro women there and every woman is just that. Married or not you stay Madame for everyone. It felt weird because to me. Madame MyLastName was my mother! Also, getting married is not a good enough reason to change your name to your husband's name in Quebec. They don't even do that there, so hyphenating is the most common thing to do (if you ever get married in Quebec since the norm is just living together/companions/partners which you can then describe as a de-facto spouse.

ETA: I'm glad that I'm in UK now and that'll be so much easier to just take my FH's name
This is interesting because in elementary school (Ontario), we called our unmarried French teachers Mademoiselle.

In my Alberta French classes, "Mademoiselle" was only for the kids. All the teachers were "Madame", married or not. I noticed the same trend when I studied in Quebec too and I loved the simplicity of it too.

When I lived in Spain I noticed the obvious. Everyone checked for a ring and then gave me a very firm "Señorita", despite having a baby with me. It was quite judgemental every time, actually. I was just a nanny but when people didn't know, they were often almost rude with the pointing out my unmarried ness.

They do check rings like that here too! Hmm those old, traditional European ways.

What if you don't wear a ring?

amelisha · October 2014

huskypuppy14 said:

raissyrais said:

amelisha said:

ilovecake84 said:

huskypuppy14 said:

sunset30 said:

I'm definitely a fan of Mrs. now that I'm married. I work with all adults so no one really uses titles professionally. For social correspondence, when customer service people address me (such as hotels, etc.), I think Ms. is impersonal and prefer Mrs. I don't really view Mrs. as sexist, it just implies a woman who is married and that is what I am.

Here is an interesting article looking at language and how it can be sexist towards women.

What's interesting is this sentence: By some accounts, the use of Mrs. to only refer to married women did not begin until the 19th century. If people prefer Mrs. maybe there can be this transition where Mrs. becomes the standard for adult woman, married or not.

I think a lot of times people don't realize that our language is sexist.

In Quebec it's like that. When I first moved there I didn't understand why they never used Mademoiselle (Miss) but used Madame for everything (which is Mrs/Madam/Ms). They are quite pro women there and every woman is just that. Married or not you stay Madame for everyone. It felt weird because to me. Madame MyLastName was my mother! Also, getting married is not a good enough reason to change your name to your husband's name in Quebec. They don't even do that there, so hyphenating is the most common thing to do (if you ever get married in Quebec since the norm is just living together/companions/partners which you can then describe as a de-facto spouse.

ETA: I'm glad that I'm in UK now and that'll be so much easier to just take my FH's name
This is interesting because in elementary school (Ontario), we called our unmarried French teachers Mademoiselle.

In my Alberta French classes, "Mademoiselle" was only for the kids. All the teachers were "Madame", married or not. I noticed the same trend when I studied in Quebec too and I loved the simplicity of it too.

When I lived in Spain I noticed the obvious. Everyone checked for a ring and then gave me a very firm "Señorita", despite having a baby with me. It was quite judgemental every time, actually. I was just a nanny but when people didn't know, they were often almost rude with the pointing out my unmarried ness.

They do check rings like that here too! Hmm those old, traditional European ways.

What if you don't wear a ring?

They assume you're unmarried and treat you accordingly unless you tell them otherwise. And refuse to give up bus seats when you've got a baby in your arms and whisper "puta" to their friends, in my experience, lol.

goldchocobo.defunct635829490514903826 · October 2014

We had this convo today with FIs family. I told them I would be Mrs. [FI's LAST NAME] and joked that it was easier to spell than my current name.

I got a chorus of "Oh wow, that's great!" which confused me a bit as it felt like I said the 'right' thing, which would imply there was a right or wrong answer. It could have been approval that I joined the 'club' or something, I'm not sure.

KytchynWitche · October 2014

It's just kinda arbitrary to me because I never use a title anyway, but I do think it would be awesome if there was just one title for women, like there is for men.

I think if I was a Dr. or a Prof. or something, I'd get upset if people called me anything else, because those are titles that you work for.

But I honestly can't think of the last time anyone addressed me by anything other than my first name.

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