Its probably more of a vent, but maybe someone has something to pull me out of this funk.
My sister is getting married soon. My then boyfriend pulled her aside and said he was going to propose. You think she'd be happy, right? Well after going out doing wedding errands for her wedding and grabbing a drink she TOLD me he was going to propose and had a ring. She wants this to be her year. She thinks him proposing to me means he doesn't like her.
I'm trying to get over her hurtful actions and move on. I'm mad she made a happy moment in my life dramatic. She's mad I'm not letting it go. It's just so typical of her. I'm having a hard time doing anything for her wedding. I spent a few thousand on her shower and bach party, fought tooth and nail to get everyone together and she has to pull this. On top of that she has to add subtle digs (Apparently my gorgeous ring looks fake to her!!). I'm having a hard time getting into MOH spirit. I don't even have a dress for her wedding and am verrrrrry unmotivated to get one.
If anyone has dealt with or has any words of wisdom I'd love to take any advice.
Re: Bummed
You cannot change her feelings towards it. If she can't see that she's taking away from your special moment, that's on her. She's really only going to be detracting from her own special time in getting married and enjoying all the events and activities that are going on for her.
I am confused. So you are engaged now?
This all sounds pretty petty to me. Just let it go. You both are going to marry the loves of your lives, nothing else matter. be happy for each other.
And it doesnt matter how much you spent on her shower/ bach party. No one forced you to do that, it was your choice it has no baring on this story.
Well, if he is hit by a truck while he is down on his knees, maybe.
Get over your dramatic expectations.
I'm not sure what this has to do with OP. She didn't say she had dramatic expectations of her proposal.
DH surprised me when he proposed after being reunited for four days after a seven year gap. I was just happy. I didn't care how he proposed.
I got that she was upset because sister claimed an entire year for her proposal/marriage and sister was mad her FI chose to propose during "her" year.