My bridesmaid has been my friend for over 10 years. Let's call her Jess. Well 4 years ago Jess got engaged and always said she didn't want to get married because she wasn't sure if he was the one (He has some issues & isnt such a great person) And she also said that a wedding was too expensive and she wasn't ready to get married. So in June I got engaged and 2 months ago started wedding planning. When I let my friends (bridesmaids) know how excited i was to start looking at halls. Jess started asking a million questions and tried to steer me away from certain halls because "she wanted those halls" if she ever wanted to have a wedding. I laughed it off just thinking she was kidding. Well two weeks into my planning, and booking a hall, Jess announces that she is wedding planning now and looking for halls? I said ok. I was happy for her but i kind of felt like she was only doing it because i was. To make a long story short, everything that i did planning wise she would ask and then copy. (save the dates, etc) Well one day shopping in a dress shop for a friends party with Jess and my sister, there was a wedding dress section in it. They convinced me to try on a dress that had feathers on it (Because they knew i've always wanted a dress with feathers on it forever) I tried it on and LOVED IT! The girls said it looked awesome and that i should get it, but since it was the first dress, i said I wanted to look around more. Well, after many discussions telling the girls i wanted the feather dress because it was so different and I wanted to be remembered and unique. They agreed. Well a few days later what does jess text me? "Hey, you're going to hate me but I'm getting a wedding dress with feathers." I couldn't believe it, after telling me that she hated feathers before and knowing my want to be different with a feather dress why would she go and do that? I told her how i felt about it in a nice way and that it would upset me. And she didn't respond for 3 days. She still hasn't said that she wont do it. She's just not talking about her dress now. I think she already ordered it and doesnt want to tell me. Then everyone ive been asking advice from says to not care and "your wedding is before hers. Your dress will look nicer, its not a big deal, etc." Am I over reacting? She knows how i felt about it, she hated feathers, and now she is getting one? I feel like she is trying to steal my spotlight and is jealous so she is trying to ruin the excitement of my wedding day. I hate thinking this of a friend and i'm the furthest thing from a bridezilla. Does anyone think I have a right to be upset?