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agenevieve22016agenevieve22016 member
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I'm already having enough issues keeping my list down I'm cutting out family members. Do I have to have my single BM or GM have a plus 1??No one is getting a plus 1 unless it's a significant relationship. All the friends in the wedding party will already have people or family they know at the wedding.
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  • agenevieve22016agenevieve22016 member
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    I've gone to weddings I wasn't invited a date. But significant as in not just dating being in a serious relationship
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  • novella1186novella1186 member
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    If someone is in a relationship, that is not a +1. They are invited together as a social unit. You do not get to determine whether or not their relationship is significant. That's going to lead to some hurt feelings, and people might get mad at you. 

    If people are single, like not dating anyone, not in a relationship at all, then no you do not need to give them a +1. But as scribe said, it's a nice gesture for your WP. 
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  • agenevieve22016agenevieve22016 member
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    If you have been dating for a month then to me it's not significant . But really just if these people are single is what I'm asking do I have to plus one them.
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  • agenevieve22016agenevieve22016 member
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    I guess I just was unsure because I have one BM and a GM who date people and aren't involved with one speficfally
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  • agenevieve22016agenevieve22016 member
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    Yea good point thank everyone
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    agenevieve22016 said:
    If you have been dating for a month then to me it's not significant . But really just if these people are single is what I'm asking do I have to plus one them.

    My DDs and SILs first official 'date was to a wedding. DDs college friend called her last minute to encourage her to bring a friend to his wedding, since she would be driving dark country roads at night. She invited a new member of her social group, he said yes, and the rest is history.

    If your friends consider themselves to be in relationships, then you should be guided by that.

                       
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    I always think it is a nice gesture to give single WP members a date option.
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  • NowIamMrsKleinNowIamMrsKlein member
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    My FI and I said 'I love yous'  just before the 2 month mark. We knew by the 2nd date that it was something special and serious. I think both of us would have been offended if we were not invited as a social unit to an event because the host didn't believe our relationship was serious. 

    You cannot be the judge of what is a 'significant relationship.' If the person is in a relationship then they get to come together.

    If they are truly single then they do not need to be extended a +1.
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  • augsum15augsum15 member
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    It's your wedding, you can choose who you want to invite. No one should tell you otherwise unless they plan on chipping in to your budget. Put the names of the guests invited on the RSVP's and don't include a spot for "plus 1". Their name and a yes or no check box. 
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  • mikenbergermikenberger member
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    augsum15 said:

    It's your wedding, you can choose who you want to invite. No one should tell you otherwise unless they plan on chipping in to your budget. Put the names of the guests invited on the RSVP's and don't include a spot for "plus 1". Their name and a yes or no check box. 

    How about no?

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  • Knottie22970454Knottie22970454 member
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    Honey this is your day... I am not including +1 on my invites either unless your married.. If you cant file taxes with them they are not your plus one.

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  • mikenbergermikenberger member
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    Knottie22970454 said:

    Honey this is your day... I am not including +1 on my invites either unless your married.. If you cant file taxes with them they are not your plus one.

    It is your day, yes. But it is not carte blanche to be a total dick and completely disregard someone's relationship because they don't file taxes jointly. Wtf is that? You do realize that people who are not married can file jointly still? That's a step into being common law. But still, not married in the typical meaning of the name.

    And *you're FFS. If you're going to be rude, at least be grammatically correct.

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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    Knottie22970454 said:

    Honey this is your day... I am not including +1 on my invites either unless your married.. If you cant file taxes with them they are not your plus one.

    This is hilarious. If you attended your own wedding, you wouldn't be allowed to bring your FI.
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  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    add me to the list of people who got serious right away.  We were living together about a week after meeting.  Engaged a few months later.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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  • lc07lc07 member
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    You realize you wouldn't be invited to your own wedding, right?

    Agreed. This makes me all sorts of ragey. Mostly for my friends in same-sex relationships that cannot marry and file taxes together. If I didn't have to worry about the banhammer I would have some seriously choice words for you, Knumbers.
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    You realize you wouldn't be invited to your own wedding, right?




    Agreed. This makes me all sorts of ragey. Mostly for my friends in same-sex relationships that cannot marry and file taxes together. If I didn't have to worry about the banhammer I would have some seriously choice words for you, Knumbers.

    How about this: Welcome, knottie#####. I don't like you.

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    How about this: Welcome, knottie#####. I don't like you.

    Not strong enough.
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  • redoryxredoryx member
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    misshart00 said:
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    You realize you wouldn't be invited to your own wedding, right?
    *mic drop*
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  • KatWAGKatWAG member
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    Knottie22970454 said:

    Honey this is your day... I am not including +1 on my invites either unless your  you're married.. If you cant file taxes with them they are not your plus one.

    You realize that you yourself dont qualify to bring a date (ie your fi/H) then right? doesnt that seem a little wrong to you?

    edit: damn it misshart beat me to it.

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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Knottie22970454 said:

    Honey this is your day... I am not including +1 on my invites either unless your married.. If you cant file taxes with them they are not your plus one.


    WTF?
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  • plainjane0415plainjane0415 member
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    After a month of dating (now FI) I was invited to his sister's wedding. So there's that.
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  • sames52915sames52915 member
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    We have a similar situation. We had decided no +1s because we already have a much higher guest list than we want, plus I don't want people that I have to meet the day of my wedding and be in pictures that I will never see again. There is only 1 bridesmaid and 1 groomsman who are single, and we have talked about letting them be the only ones invited with guests, but I honestly don't think they would even bring anyone unless between now & then they start relationships. I know both of them are the type of people who would rather have a great time with friends than worry about someone who doesn't know anyone and having to entertain them all night.
    The only people who are being invited with "guests" are people that we know have been dating for a significant amount of time/engaged/married etc. As PPs have said, we are considering them as couples, not as someone invited w/ a guest. I agree that you cant judge a relationship based off the amount of time, however we are on a strict budget and also don't want 300 people at our wedding. We are getting married 5/29/15 so what we agreed on is any couples that have been together since this yr are obviously invited together. If any of our guests start relationships after we send out invitations and request to bring their SO we will deal with it at the time, and do our best to accomodate them
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    sames52915 said:
    We have a similar situation. We had decided no +1s because we already have a much higher guest list than we want, plus I don't want people that I have to meet the day of my wedding and be in pictures that I will never see again. There is only 1 bridesmaid and 1 groomsman who are single, and we have talked about letting them be the only ones invited with guests, but I honestly don't think they would even bring anyone unless between now & then they start relationships. I know both of them are the type of people who would rather have a great time with friends than worry about someone who doesn't know anyone and having to entertain them all night.
    The only people who are being invited with "guests" are people that we know have been dating for a significant amount of time/engaged/married etc. As PPs have said, we are considering them as couples, not as someone invited w/ a guest. I agree that you cant judge a relationship based off the amount of time, however we are on a strict budget and also don't want 300 people at our wedding. We are getting married 5/29/15 so what we agreed on is any couples that have been together since this yr are obviously invited together. If any of our guests start relationships after we send out invitations and request to bring their SO we will deal with it at the time, and do our best to accomodate them

    Please don't do this. If one of your guests has a SO no matter how long they have been dating, you need to invite them.  You don't get to judge the seriousness of someone's relationship.  How would you feel if you were still dating your FI and he got invited to a wedding and you didn't?
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