I really want to call someone out on FB.

beethery · December 2014

I am all about a well-styled long nail but... that is some BonQuiQui-ass tomfoolery.

No, no, fuck no. She fuckin' would have that mid-90's bullshit going on. The image my mind is making for the rest of her is like this:

but swapped out a little bit for a Versace-knockoff windsuit like my grandma had when I was about 10.

PrettyGirlLost · December 2014

ClimbingBrideNY said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

buttercup1958 said:

That sucks I'm sorry! I know that urge too and its annoying to fight it ha. I did read about her in your post and she is a piece of work. Just remember she is looking like an idiot and showing she has no tact.

OP's BIL is looking like a huge asshat for letting his GF publicly rant and rave like a fucking child about his own mother.

You guys are all right, he's the one who should tell her to get a fucking grip.

OP, I'd probably just delete and block her ass. You don't need to get stressed out and tempted by her posts. Not like she will get a notification that you deleted/blocker her, either. It will probably take her a while to notice since she is preoccupied by her BF's mother, right?

She's crazy enough that she'd probably notice right away. It's like she stalks me and H.

Last week, H talked to BIL. My H is also pretty angry at what's been going on. H told him that he needs to get this woman out of his life. She's toxic. Apparently BIL told his girlfriend what my husband said, and she was calling him and leaving him messages. H didn't answer and didn't respond to her. He's so much better at controlling his emotions than I am. I would have answered and told her off.

Meh, so what? If you don't want to see her posts, I'd unfriend her. You know how she'll react- she'll call, etc- and then you can just ignore that too .

Damn your BIL for repeating what your H said to him>< Ugh!!!!

PrettyGirlLost · December 2014

ClimbingBrideNY said:

I've never even met her in person before. They all live in Florida, and she wasn't invited to the wedding (at BIL's request). But we're going to Florida in Feb. I wonder if I'll finally get to meet her.
Also, can I snark on her for a second? these are what her nails look like.

Not my taste at all. Too long, imo.

emmaaa · December 2014

I'm sorry but if you're going to have extremely long nails and elaborate nail art, it should be done well. That looks like a Kindergartener painted them.

climbingsingle · December 2014

emmaaa said:

I'm sorry but if you're going to have extremely long nails and elaborate nail art, it should be done well. That looks like a Kindergartener painted them.

There are so many more. And they all look terrible. She does them for like every holiday.

Also, how clean can those nails possibly be? I see them and just think of germs.

emmaaa · December 2014

ClimbingBrideNY said:

emmaaa said:

I'm sorry but if you're going to have extremely long nails and elaborate nail art, it should be done well. That looks like a Kindergartener painted them.

There are so many more. And they all look terrible. She does them for like every holiday.

Also, how clean can those nails possibly be? I see them and just think of germs.

I mean everyone knows all the gross stuff under your nails but when they are that long it can't be possible for them to stay clean at all.

climbingsingle · December 2014

emmaaa said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

emmaaa said:

I'm sorry but if you're going to have extremely long nails and elaborate nail art, it should be done well. That looks like a Kindergartener painted them.

There are so many more. And they all look terrible. She does them for like every holiday.

Also, how clean can those nails possibly be? I see them and just think of germs.

I mean everyone knows all the gross stuff under your nails but when they are that long it can't be possible for them to stay clean at all.

That's exactly what I think. There's no way they're clean.

PrettyGirlLost · December 2014

You can make an effort to clean under your nails with a nail brush, but you have to consciously do it. . . frequently. There's a reason you can't have long, acrylic nails in hospitals or food service.

Climbing, do you have any idea why the GF hates your MIL so much? What in the hell happened?

BSC is a valid answer ;-)

emmaaa · December 2014

PrettyGirlLost said:

You can make an effort to clean under your nails with a nail brush, but you have to consciously do it. . . frequently. There's a reason you can't have long, acrylic nails in hospitals or food service.

Climbing, do you have any idea why the GF hates your MIL so much? What in the hell happened?

BSC is a valid answer ;-)

The bolded is my guess.

climbingsingle · December 2014

PrettyGirlLost said:

You can make an effort to clean under your nails with a nail brush, but you have to consciously do it. . . frequently. There's a reason you can't have long, acrylic nails in hospitals or food service.

Climbing, do you have any idea why the GF hates your MIL so much? What in the hell happened?

BSC is a valid answer ;-)

LOL. I think it goes back a few years, before I came onto the scene. Girlfriend was pressuring BIL to marry her. She bought herself an engagement ring. Bought a wedding dress (actually called MIL from the wedding shop and was all, "Come here! I found the dress!" and MIL was all, "Huh? WTF you talkin' 'bout?"). BIL never asked her to marry him. She tried forcing him to set a date. MIL told BIL not to marry her (because, CRAZY!) and I believe BIL told his girlfriend this. We all see a common theme here, right?! There's a reason my husband and his brother are not so close anymore.

So I think it just spiraled down from there.

AddieCake · December 2014

Your BIL requested his girlfriend not be invited to your wedding?

climbingsingle · December 2014

AddieCake said:

Your BIL requested his girlfriend not be invited to your wedding?

Yup.

beethery · December 2014

ClimbingBrideNY said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

You can make an effort to clean under your nails with a nail brush, but you have to consciously do it. . . frequently. There's a reason you can't have long, acrylic nails in hospitals or food service.

Climbing, do you have any idea why the GF hates your MIL so much? What in the hell happened?

BSC is a valid answer ;-)

LOL. I think it goes back a few years, before I came onto the scene. Girlfriend was pressuring BIL to marry her. She bought herself an engagement ring. Bought a wedding dress (actually called MIL from the wedding shop and was all, "Come here! I found the dress!" and MIL was all, "Huh? WTF you talkin' 'bout?"). BIL never asked her to marry him. She tried forcing him to set a date. MIL told BIL not to marry her (because, CRAZY!) and I believe BIL told his girlfriend this. We all see a common theme here, right?! There's a reason my husband and his brother are not so close anymore.

So I think it just spiraled down from there.

Bitch is crazy.

PrettyGirlLost · December 2014

ClimbingBrideNY said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

You can make an effort to clean under your nails with a nail brush, but you have to consciously do it. . . frequently. There's a reason you can't have long, acrylic nails in hospitals or food service.

Climbing, do you have any idea why the GF hates your MIL so much? What in the hell happened?

BSC is a valid answer ;-)

LOL. I think it goes back a few years, before I came onto the scene. Girlfriend was pressuring BIL to marry her. She bought herself an engagement ring. Bought a wedding dress (actually called MIL from the wedding shop and was all, "Come here! I found the dress!" and MIL was all, "Huh? WTF you talkin' 'bout?"). BIL never asked her to marry him. She tried forcing him to set a date. MIL told BIL not to marry her (because, CRAZY!) and I believe BIL told his girlfriend this. We all see a common theme here, right?! There's a reason my husband and his brother are not so close anymore.

So I think it just spiraled down from there.

Yep, BSC was the answer!

Also, BIL needs to learn how to keep his fucking mouth shut!!!!

AddieCake said:

Your BIL requested his girlfriend not be invited to your wedding?

I loved that gem too!

AddieCake · December 2014

ClimbingBrideNY said:

AddieCake said:

Your BIL requested his girlfriend not be invited to your wedding?

Yup.

JFC. They are just a ridiculous pair, it seems.

climbingsingle · December 2014

AddieCake said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

AddieCake said:

Your BIL requested his girlfriend not be invited to your wedding?

Yup.

JFC. They are just a ridiculous pair, it seems.

Yes, exactly. The whole thing is freaking crazy.

climbingsingle · December 2014

Also, I'm very thankful they all live in Florida.

novella1186 · December 2014

So she tried to FORCE him into marrying her, he ended up not asking, and years later they're still dating after she acted that crazy? ... I just need a minute.

SBmini · December 2014

OMG those nails! The mom of a kid in my class in elementary school had nails like that. She couldn't do anything because her nails were so long. We had some school thanksgiving thing and she could barely cut pie. I think it is sort of the modern equivalence of foot binding. Oh look- she has long nails, she must live a pampered life where others wait on her.

I do have a story for you. When SIL and FBIL were getting a divorce he turned super nasty on social media. He posted all sorts of horrible things and lies and turned a bunch of people against my SIL. She never engaged and ended up deleting her Facebook because it got so bad. Fast forward to today- and he's lost most of his friends. They realized that he was being crazy and she did nothing wrong and they were sympathetic towards SIL. And all he did was complain about SIL and people got sick of it. So they removed him from Facebook, stopped taking his calls, etc. Now he's isolated, with no friends and a super crazy and trampy new wife probably still blaming SIL for everything that went wrong in his life.

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carrie0924 · December 2014

ClimbingBrideNY said:

Right?! I'm going to have to delete the pictures. They give me the icks.

The nails give me *something* and it's WAY worse than the icks. I'm straight up having dry heaves thinking about the amount of e coli under her very obviously home-done nails (nothing wrong with home-done nails, if you're actually good at it).

Aray82 · December 2014

ClimbingBrideNY said:

Oh, and these!

When I was little our pediatrician's receptionist had nails like these, usually painted sparkly green. And because of her long spiky green nails, dyed orange hair, and very pale foundation with 80s makeup, everyone referred to her as The Joker. It made going to get shots even more of a terrifying experience.

I'd be livid too if someone was posting crap online about my awesome MIL! But I wouldn't touch it on facebook. Maybe if there's a way to intervene with her, privately, in real life and not add fuel to the fire...but that may not be possible.

manillabar · December 2014

So, in summary, this 40 something year old grandmother with christmas nails and the emotional intelligence of a 13 year old tried to force your BIL to marry her, he refused and threw your MIL under the bus in the process, didn't want her invited to your wedding, but is still dating her in spite of the hateful things she says to/about his mom.

This is my face right now

I would say BIL needs a come-to-Jesus talk but it sounds like those don't work with him and he just tells her everything anyway, so I agree the best thing to do is shower your MIL with love. I wouldn't reply to BSC on facebook just because I feel like with people like that, it will never end... you'll just end up in a marathon, soul-sucking message thread with her. I do think, however, anything crazy she says in person should be responded to accordingly.

Sorry you and your MIL have to deal with this crazy woman!

novella1186 · December 2014

manillabar said:

So, in summary, this 40 something year old grandmother with christmas nails and the emotional intelligence of a 13 year old tried to force your BIL to marry her, he refused and threw your MIL under the bus in the process, didn't want her invited to your wedding, but is still dating her in spite of the hateful things she says to/about his mom.

This is my face right now

I would say BIL needs a come-to-Jesus talk but it sounds like those don't work with him and he just tells her everything anyway, so I agree the best thing to do is shower your MIL with love. I wouldn't reply to BSC on facebook just because I feel like with people like that, it will never end... you'll just end up in a marathon, soul-sucking message thread with her. I do think, however, anything crazy she says in person should be responded to accordingly.

Sorry you and your MIL have to deal with this crazy woman!

SIB
100% agree with all of this. Especially the soul-sucking part. Seems spot-on to me.

steph861 · December 2014

ClimbingBrideNY said:

carrie0924 said:

I wouldn't confront her directly because that will create more drama. BUT I would be very tempted to passive aggressively start posting things about how much I love my MIL & how kind & thoughtful she is.....The problem with this method is that she will think MIL is treating the two of you differently & will probably give her more reason to dislike MIL. She's crazy. She's digging her own grave. Especially if your BIL sees that you have a good relationship with MIL.

I did sort of do that yesterday. MIL is coming to visit this weekend, and I posted a really cute picture on her page of our dog laying on her bed. I said, "Stella is guarding your bed for you. We're so excited!" I really didn't do it JUST to poke at crazy girlfriend. But she liked it within 30 seconds of me posting it.

Girlfriend has been dating BIL on and off for over 6 years I think. She and my MIL have always had a tumultous relationship. She actually said to my MIL last week, "I can't wait until Climbing hates you like I do."

The hell?

futuremrsr2015 · December 2014

KatWAG said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

Oh, and these!

those nails do not surprise me in the slightest.

Those nails look horrible. Also am I the only one wondering how the hell this woman wipes her ass? They can't be functional.

climbingsingle · December 2014

futuremrsr2015 said:

KatWAG said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

Oh, and these!

those nails do not surprise me in the slightest.

Those nails look horrible. Also am I the only one wondering how the hell this woman wipes her ass? They can't be functional.

Sadly, I wonder the same thing.

carrie0924 · December 2014

ClimbingBrideNY said:

futuremrsr2015 said:

KatWAG said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

Oh, and these!

those nails do not surprise me in the slightest.

Those nails look horrible. Also am I the only one wondering how the hell this woman wipes her ass? They can't be functional.

Sadly, I wonder the same thing.

Dear Lord,

Please be with me this day as I prepare to encounter other humans. Guide my interactions so I don't insult others and act so bitch-tastic that internet strangers are reduced to wondering how I wipe my own ass. That would be embarrassing.

Humbly Yours with Short Nails,
C

kmbay84 · December 2014

Wow, that is all so insane! I am sorry you and your family have to go through this. Your poor MIL! I also think that you should reach out to her or your BIL or both privately and avoid the whole facebook thing. I know it's tempting, but it will, like other posters have said, only add fuel to the fire. I personally don't like posting anything about my relationships, unless they are positive, on facebook for everyone to see. I just can't do it. I can understand wanting to protect and stand up for your MIL though, but if there was any way to do that outside of facebook, then I would.

That is my two cents, not sure if it helps, hope it does!

Regards,

~K

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