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  • sassyfrass2014sassyfrass2014 member
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    carrie0924 said:

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    MagicInk said:
    @lolo883 I wish they would tell me which one of us was the groom. She wore pants...but I used a strap on on our wedding night so...I'm the groom? See why our parents had pay for our own shit, no one could figure out who was the bride and who was the groom.

    If anyone saw my, TK is not actually has inclusive as they say, rant on the gay wedding board (and also here), this is what the fuck I was talking about. I mean we agree this is all bullshit if you're same sex relationship, straight relationship, poly relationship, whatever the fuck. Plan to pay your own way be grateful if someone offers to help. But every fucking thing TK writes is all from the hetero perspective. But they're SOOO inclusive! So long as you don't actually know what the word inclusive means.
    I get what you're saying. 

    I worked in a small office with two women (not gay), who knew through business contacts a gay couple that were getting married (commitment ceremony technically b/c gay marriage wasn't legal in our state a few years ago).

    And they kept asking each other, "which is the groom?  Is it the one who wears pants?"  Finally I said, "they're BOTH brides because they're both WOMEN.  Neither is "the man" in the relationship, because they are both women."

    Why is this so hard to understand?

    BTW, wearing a strap on doesn't mean "you're the man," either; right?  It means you were the one who used / weilded the sex toy.  Please correct me if I'm wrong.


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    So I was also going to do gown this *very sarcastic* road and ask "What?? One of you isn't the "man" in the relationship? Isn't that how gay people do it? Because it's inconceivable that two men or two women in a homosexual relationship, who are already, by definition, not "conforming to gender norms as determined by society" wouldn't assign themselves gender normative titles and appropriate associated roles.

    But then I laughed so hard at the term "wielded the sex toy" that I couldn't formulate the well-spoken, intelligent and progressive thinking sarcastic comment. Because I was imagining wielding a 4 foot long dildo in battle.
    This convo has gone from good to golden and I love it

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  • lacqueredloverlacqueredlover member
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    I legit found a pic of a dildo gun.  Yes, I googled "sex toy war"
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  • theartistformerlyknownastheartistformerlyknownas member
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    lacqueredlover said:
    I legit found a pic of a dildo gun.  Yes, I googled "sex toy war"
    Post it!
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  • theartistformerlyknownastheartistformerlyknownas member
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    LMAO at "money shot guns"
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  • Gustafson28Gustafson28 member
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    My mind went immediately to lightsaber dildo.. Lots of results for that but I'm partial to this one 
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  • raissyraisraissyrais member
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    MagicInk said:
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    I would just like to know where the heck these traditions came from. They're not even logical and make my brain hurt. 
    From back when lady folk were property. The groom's family paid a big ol' dowery to marry us, so of course our families would foot the bill to get us hitched.

    Then women became actual people.
    Lol yes or the other way round, when women were such burdens that the father agreed to give handsome amounts of money to the groom and his family so that the dude would take his daughter off of his hands. This is what it is in this instance. It's archaic and shameful.
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    wrigleyville said:
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    Is that Saints Row I spy?
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  • JennyColadaJennyColada member
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    lolo883 said:
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    sassyfrass2014 said:
    From the comments: "Welp...I'm from the South and I can say that this list is pretty much accurate around here. My family isn't upper-class by any means, but it's just expected for parents to save up and pay for their daughter's wedding. Pretty sure my parents have been saving since I was born. However, EVERYTHING will have to come from that budget because my groom's family isn't paying for anything. So that breaks the norm a little."

    ummm... I'm from the South, too, and I've NEVER expected my parents to foot the bill. This is certainly not the norm here. 
    Fuck, if my parents were going to save up since I was born to pay for anything for me, I'd rather have college tuition, thanks. 
    LOL college?! What are you doing in college? Oh..you mean to get your MRS degree? Silly...you should have found a man in high school.
    I was home-schooled...
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    Then please explain why you don't have 19 kids and counting yet.
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  • theartistformerlyknownastheartistformerlyknownas member
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    Lol @JennyColada‌ ! My parents' reasons were more political than religious, so our education included a healthy dose of rebellion against groupthink... and economics. ;) We're not your stereotypical homeschoolers.
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  • sophhabobophasophhabobopha member
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    Somebody call my parents. Slackers.
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    Knot Anja said:
    Knot Riley sent this thread my way because she wanted to make sure I saw the feedback on our "Who Pays For What" piece. Honestly, I completely agree with everyone here. I can't imagine having asked my in-laws to pay for the flowers, let alone our entire honeymoon.  And my dad certainly didn't cut a check at the end of the night and hand it to the reception manager. We did! 
    Peachy13 pointed out the complicated part about this particular article -- that it's supposed to be a piece about the way couples used to traditionally split the bill. We shouldn't have promoted in our newsletter without more context. That won't happen again. Plus, the article itself clearly needs to be more explicit. So... The plan for Monday is to change the headline, re-write the intro and add in the the fun fact that 75% of couples contribute to or pay for their own weddings entirely. I hope it helps clear up any future misinterpretation of the article. 
    And please keep the feedback coming. We want to make sure our articles and advice are up-to-date, helpful, and always inclusive. Thanks! 
    Well glory hallelujah. Thanks for taking the feedback! 
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  • VulgarGirlVulgarGirl member
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    Why does Knot Anja's name just member while @KnotRiley's name says adminitrastor? Is @KnotAnja actually associated with the magazine?
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  • beetherybeethery member
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    KnotRiley said:
    @MagicInk Yes she is! She's the site director for TheKnot.com, I sent her this thread because I felt this was important feedback that she, and the other people who work on the site should definitely see
    This is fucking rad, for real.
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  • VulgarGirlVulgarGirl member
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    KnotRiley said:
    @MagicInk Yes she is! She's the site director for TheKnot.com, I sent her this thread because I felt this was important feedback that she, and the other people who work on the site should definitely see
    Awesome! 

    I just wanted to double check, seems like there was an impostor awhile back so I wanted to double check. :)
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  • peachy13peachy13 member
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    That's awesome. Good job @KnotRiley !
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  • sophhabobophasophhabobopha member
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    Cool beans KGs!
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