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theartistformerlyknownas
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Raging right now.
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Re: Raging right now.
What did you say?
My mom has since deleted the post. So I PMed her. "Nice censorship. You know that was fucking unnecessary. Name me ANY OTHER EX that would have helped you as much as Dad did. So sorry he didn't sweep up the basement he left ELEVEN YEARS AGO after never getting a chance to collect the things that were his."
I'm the fuck out.
I'm the fuck out.
Your mom LIKED your aunt's post, lolo? wtf.
You need to focus on the emotional ties you have remaining with family members. Anger and blame will not help anybody. When you have calmed down, the next time you see your mother, you might express, "Mom, I read what you put on Facebook about Dad, and it made me feel terrible, Please don't air your dirty laundry on Facebook. It makes me feel very unhappy when you do this."
There. You have told your mother how you feel in a rational, calm manner. Will it change her behavior? Probably not, but at least you haven't made an ass of yourself taking sides. As for "Fucking Bitch Aunt", she is completely out of line. I would cut off contact with her.
I do sympathize. My Dad died young. He had a few World War II souvenirs that I wanted. When I looked in the basement, I found that Mom had thrown them all in the trash, and they were gone. I still feel bad about that. When Mom died, I found the love letters written to her by several old boyfriends, but she had told me that she had thrown Dad's letter away. I have little to remember him by, except that every time I look at my grown son, I see Dad's eyes.
Was it OK for your Mom to post this on Facebook? No.
Was it OK for your aunt to chime in? No.
Is it OK for you to tie yourself up in knots over your parents divorce? No, no, no. It was their fuck up, not yours.
You know that my family was totally dysfunctional, and I lived through Mom's divorces and affairs, walking on eggs. I learned the hard way that taking sides and getting involved in their fighting and childishness was useless, and it only hurt me.
Go ahead and vent all you want. Then, when you are really talking to people, you can do it without letting your emotions run away with you. It doesn't help anyone. Believe me, I have been there.
You are in my prayers. I don't want to you to be hurt anymore than you have already been hurt. (I'm going to have trouble sleeping tonight worrying about you.)
She is standing up against douchebaggery, not tying herself up over her parents divorce.
Don't forget to add glitter and explosives.
Don't forget to add glitter and explosives.
Of course not.