I found this on Buzzfeed today :
http://www.buzzfeed.com/juliegerstein/wedding-ring-tattoo-ideasI like the sentiment behind it, but all the comments are very negative because "What if you break up? Then you have a reminder of that all your life." Am I in the minority here where even if we didn't make it, we've had an amazing life together thus far and I wouldn't mind being reminded of all the good times, even if there were some bad times too?
I have a tattoo on my ankle that my ex got for me. It's simple, and obviously isn't his name or anything, but when I look at it I don't think of him... I think of my life at that time and how much I love the tattoo itself.
What are your thoughts on that?
ETA: I wouldn't get a tattoo on my finger. I don't think I could do that... plus that looks like it'll hurt more than most other places.
Re: Wedding Tattoos
I would not have a problem getting my fiance's name tattooed on me; I'm not planning on a divorce. Doesn't mean it won't happen, but why let a "what if" guide every decision I make?
Some people say don't, because what if he dies and you re-marry and it bothers the new person. If new person can't accept that I've deeply and truly loved someone else, then I don't know if they would actually be the right person for me.
ETA: Ironically, my fiance asked me on Saturday if I would be wierded out if he got a ring tattoo on his left ring finger, or my name there. He wants to work in a hospital pharmacy and if you do compounding there, many times you can't wear jewelry, so he said he'd always want to have a ring on, even if he couldn't wear his wedding ring.
I think my concerns would be more like, if you planned on dating again and you always had a ring inked on your finger that could be hard...
I'm also getting a tattoo removed right now and its the most painful fucking thing. I've been to 6 sessions, close to $1000, and it's lightly faded from black to dark greyish.
So I don't think I would do it.
SIL and her ex-wife talked about the idea and ultimately decided not to. They ended up getting divorced and I know that SIL is happy that they didn't go through with it. It was an ugly breakup and she's very happy not to have the reminder in her face every day.
H and I have discussed it and will never get matching tattoos or tattoos symbolic of our relationship. He's paid for the tattoos on my right arm as anniversary presents, but god forbid we're ever not together I won't think of him when I look at them. I've seen too many good relationships take a turn for the worse and end badly. I wouldn't want a constant reminder of my past like that on my body. Plus having to explain it to people, because EVERYONE asks what tattoos mean, would be equally as hard.
I'm the fuck out.
I have a lot of tattoos so I'm pretty open to them. Many people who don't have them say they just couldn't possibly think of something they love THAT much to have it on them. They act like it must be this Earth-shattering meaningful thing. I agree it should be important to you but I guess I (and other tattooed people) have a lower bar for what's important to me. I just got my frigen cat's face on me. Sure it's just a cat and other people probably think it's ridiculous but to me it is important. It doesn't have to be like THE most important thing in the world in order to go on my body.
That being said, I would probably get something spouse related someday (not ring finger). I have my nephew's initials on me and I certainly want my future kid's names on me. DH actually mentioned the other day that he wants to work on his sleeve and get icons from places that we've been (like Chitzen Itza, Great Wall, Vegas, etc). And I said "You only went on those trips for me, you bitched half time. And now all of a sudden you want tattoos of them?" And he looked me in the eye and said "It's not about the places- it's about you. Places I've been and good memories I've had traveling with you." I thought that was really sweet!!
I also agree with other's. If he passed away and a new lover was jealous or uncomfortable of that, they have fucking issues. I would never be jealous if someone had their late spouse on them.
Just wanted to add a quick humorous story. I once was dating slept with a guy and when it was over, he got up and I saw a huge tattoo of the named "Paige" with some tribal (I guess)stuff across his back. My exact thoughts were, "Well, this isn't going to work."
That being said, even though I mentioned in the other tattoo thread that I'd considered getting FI's name on me somewhere really small, I don't know how I'd feel about dating someone who had someone else's name tattooed on them. Which is completely hypocritical, I understand.
I'm the fuck out.