Thanks everyone! I KNOW I have to let things like this roll off my shoulders, but damn, it still stings a little!
I met an older lady who was a friend of my mom's for the first time and the first thing she said to me was "have you gained weight or is that just the way you're standing?" Older folks really have no filter, but honestly I don't make exceptions because of that. Unless you're my grandma, and then I kind of have to, but yeah girl just let it roll off. A'int no thing!
When I was 12 or 13 I had just started experimenting with makeup. One day my friends came over so I got all dolled up with eyeliner, hot pink blush, and dark brown lip gloss. I'm sure I looked like a total mess but I was still learning! I was strolling through the dining room-- where my grandma was sitting and chatting with my mom and one of their friends-- leading my friends out to the backyard. My grandma stopped me suddenly and turned me towards her. She took my face in her hands, looked at me for a minute very seriously, and then said, "You look like a whore." K thanks.
First of all, that guy is a total dick. Fuck him. Hearing your story made me ragey, OP. I'm really sorry you had to encounter such an asshole.
Secondly, @novella1186, my BFF and I did this one day when we were going out. We were 11 or 12 and we thought we looked like hott stuff (spoiler alert: we didn't). Right before we walked out the front door our moms asked if we would stop to take a picture. We were like hell yes, so we took the picture and then headed out the door. We were so excited about how good we looked.
Fifteen years later we still have the picture, and it is horrifyingly hilarious. There's bright blue eyeshadow up to the eyebrows, shockingly pink lipstick, and overly dominant blush involved. I'm pretty sure our moms let us leave the house looking like that because they knew it would be much better birth control than anything else we could do or take. haha.
Ugh, I am so sorry this happened to you! I agree with everyone else, what an asshole! That is so beyond rude and makes me so mad! Argh! What makes people think that is ok?
I also hate it when people are jerks and justify it by saying that they just are being honest. Actually, you are a prick. Seriously, is it so hard to have compassion for people? Is it so hard to NOT say mean things like that? Why is that so hard for some people?! I. Do. Not. Get. It.
On a similar note, I do not understand when people are snarky as a way of putting others down. Why? Or being passive-aggressive on social media when they know that will hurt someone, but they are too chicken just actually TALK to the other person. Is it really so hard NOT to talk negatively like that behind other people's backs? Especially when you KNOW that this will hurt them?! Is it really that hard? Argggh! Ok, sorry, I will stop now. I just get very passionate about that!
You know, it's not even so much that he made an asshole comment, it was the way he set you up for it. He complimented your sweater and then made small talk about the holidays. It's like, what kind of asshole compliments someone and then knocks them down? What a piece of shit.
Back in the day, I weighed around 300 pounds, and I was having the worst time finding black cotton pants for a restaurant job. I had gone to literally every store in town that carried plus sizes, and I was dead tired. They either had the right pants but not the right size, or the right size but not the right pants. I was walking into Wal-Mart, the absolute last place on the list, and I all I could think about was getting something to drink and eat and maybe rest my feet for a while.
I walked by this old guy sitting in his car, and he yelled out, "Lose some weight!"
Before I could even think about it, I yelled back, "Eat a dick!" The look on his face was priceless. I think he expected me to bow my head and start crying or something. Not gonna happen, asshole. You picked on the wrong fucking fatty.
If this ever happens again, just tell them to eat a dick.
Who put preparation H in his wheaties?! I seriously think the damn near dead feel like they only have so many words left to say in their life, so they want to shock people as much as possible before they die.
My aunt (she is 70 years old), said to my twin sister she was surprised I would let my big fat sister be my maid of honor, and I probably should pick someone else to be MOH. (My sister was pregnant, but still how is her weight anyone's business?) My aunt said this in the living room full of people for my bridal shower. We all sat there with our jaws on the ground, no one said a word. My sister ran upstairs to cry. Older people just bank on the younger generation to respect their elders, this does not give the elderly the right to be cruel.
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Secondly, @novella1186, my BFF and I did this one day when we were going out. We were 11 or 12 and we thought we looked like hott stuff (spoiler alert: we didn't). Right before we walked out the front door our moms asked if we would stop to take a picture. We were like hell yes, so we took the picture and then headed out the door. We were so excited about how good we looked.
Fifteen years later we still have the picture, and it is horrifyingly hilarious. There's bright blue eyeshadow up to the eyebrows, shockingly pink lipstick, and overly dominant blush involved. I'm pretty sure our moms let us leave the house looking like that because they knew it would be much better birth control than anything else we could do or take. haha.
I also hate it when people are jerks and justify it by saying that they just are being honest. Actually, you are a prick. Seriously, is it so hard to have compassion for people? Is it so hard to NOT say mean things like that? Why is that so hard for some people?! I. Do. Not. Get. It.
On a similar note, I do not understand when people are snarky as a way of putting others down. Why? Or being passive-aggressive on social media when they know that will hurt someone, but they are too chicken just actually TALK to the other person. Is it really so hard NOT to talk negatively like that behind other people's backs? Especially when you KNOW that this will hurt them?! Is it really that hard? Argggh! Ok, sorry, I will stop now. I just get very passionate about that!
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