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climbingsingle · December 2014

My husband and my uncle hung out back in the day and dated twins at the same time. Yeah, that was weird.

My grandfather remarried and had my uncle when he was older, so he's only like 10 years older than me. But still, it was kind of creepy.

yogapants · December 2014

8 years. We're in good company.

My best friend's fiance is 8 1/2 years older than her.

His brother is 10 years older than his fiancee.

His best friend is around 8 years older than his wife.

abbyj700 · December 2014

lyndausvi said:

DH is 2 years younger than me.

Before DH, I always dated guys 10+ years older than me

I'm in this boat. I always dated guys 5,7,10, even 15 years older than me. Then I met DH. He's only about a year younger than me but I always said to him "I get what you're trying to do here, hanging around the house helping me with stuff, buying me drinks - but it's never going to happen, I don't date men younger than me." He would just smile and laugh and say "you're just going to have to get over that." Three years later we got married. He enjoys pointing out that I'm older than him...and that he was right!

abbyj700 · December 2014

lovedryn said:

We are 9 months apart. Although my family tends to remarry way way younger. My grandpa on my mom's side was 36 years older than my grandma. And my grandpa on my dad's side remarried a 19 year old when he was 68. Personally I find the latter vile. She is seriously younger than me, his granddaughter. And the youngest grandkids is only 4 years younger than her. Smh

Think it's vile all you want to, it's not your relationship.

One of the happiest couples I know has a 28 year age gap. On her 30th birthday she was dancing with her now husbands's son - who was 30 as well. And the son could have been picky, and turned his nose up and never had a relationship with his dad's second wife. But he didn't judge the age gap - he got to know the woman. And it's wonderful that he did - as he and his wife are super close with his dad and his second wife.

If you don't like the second wife because she's a terrible person, that's just fine. But not liking her merely because she's younger than you really only hurts you and your relationship with your grandfather.

lacqueredlover · December 2014

My FI is 9 years older than me (I'm 29, he's 28.) He's divorced with 2 kids so the having a kid thing isn't really an issue for him and I"m very much on the fence if I want to or not anyway. There is something super awesome about the fact that I got to miss all the crying and diapers and have a wonderful relationship with my soon to be step kids!

My favorite game to play though is "I was ___ old." For example, last night he kept telling stories about concerts he went to in 1995. I was like "Yep, I was 10, in Fifth grade" haha.

yogapants · December 2014

abbyj700 said:

lovedryn said:

We are 9 months apart. Although my family tends to remarry way way younger. My grandpa on my mom's side was 36 years older than my grandma. And my grandpa on my dad's side remarried a 19 year old when he was 68. Personally I find the latter vile. She is seriously younger than me, his granddaughter. And the youngest grandkids is only 4 years younger than her. Smh

Think it's vile all you want to, it's not your relationship.

One of the happiest couples I know has a 28 year age gap. On her 30th birthday she was dancing with her now husbands's son - who was 30 as well. And the son could have been picky, and turned his nose up and never had a relationship with his dad's second wife. But he didn't judge the age gap - he got to know the woman. And it's wonderful that he did - as he and his wife are super close with his dad and his second wife.

If you don't like the second wife because she's a terrible person, that's just fine. But not liking her merely because she's younger than you really only hurts you and your relationship with your grandfather.

My guess is that she thinks her grandpa is being a creepy perv for marrying a barely-legal girl when he's of retirement age, rather than hating the second wife. I think it's a pretty commonly held opinion when it comes to these sorts of relationships.

@lacqueredlover, that's my favorite game too.

l9i · December 2014

abbyj700 said:

lovedryn said:

We are 9 months apart. Although my family tends to remarry way way younger. My grandpa on my mom's side was 36 years older than my grandma. And my grandpa on my dad's side remarried a 19 year old when he was 68. Personally I find the latter vile. She is seriously younger than me, his granddaughter. And the youngest grandkids is only 4 years younger than her. Smh

Think it's vile all you want to, it's not your relationship.

One of the happiest couples I know has a 28 year age gap. On her 30th birthday she was dancing with her now husbands's son - who was 30 as well. And the son could have been picky, and turned his nose up and never had a relationship with his dad's second wife. But he didn't judge the age gap - he got to know the woman. And it's wonderful that he did - as he and his wife are super close with his dad and his second wife.

If you don't like the second wife because she's a terrible person, that's just fine. But not liking her merely because she's younger than you really only hurts you and your relationship with your grandfather.

This situation doesn't bother me. The only time I find age gaps inappropriate is with 'kids' dating. i.e. an 18 year old dating someone say 14, 16 and 21+, etc. I recently heard locally of a senior dating a 7th grader (my first example). Granted there are laws in place about things like this. During years of development I think age gaps can be a big deal (obviously want to avoid situations like to catch a predator). Now once everyone's a mature adult, I see no problem. Just my take on the only time I could see 'vile' used for age gaps.

decembergrl2014 · December 2014

lacqueredlover said:

My FI is 9 years older than me (I'm 29, he's 28.) He's divorced with 2 kids so the having a kid thing isn't really an issue for him and I"m very much on the fence if I want to or not anyway. There is something super awesome about the fact that I got to miss all the crying and diapers and have a wonderful relationship with my soon to be step kids!

My favorite game to play though is "I was ___ old." For example, last night he kept telling stories about concerts he went to in 1995. I was like "Yep, I was 10, in Fifth grade" haha.

My H has 3 kids from his first marriage, and I love them very much. I agree about skipping the crying and diaper phase also. As for having our own kids, we figure if it happens, great, if to then we have his 3 kids. Win - win!

beachyone15 · December 2014

My H is only 6 months younger than me, but he never lets me forget it. Jerk. LOL

emmaaa · December 2014

I'm three months (to the day) older than FI. We started elementary school together so I don't even count it as a gap. He still likes to joke that he got an older woman.

stefuhknee · December 2014

My SO is 5 months older than me. We went to JHS together.

ShellD13 · December 2014

H is 5 years older than me. I agree with PPs I feel like age gaps become far less of an issue once both people in the relationship are independent adults. My first engagement (nearly 20 yrs ago - we ended up calling off the wedding) I was fresh out of college and my FI at the time was 7 years older than me. At that point in my life, the age gap became a huge issue between us because we were at completely different phases of our personal and career life. With H the age gap is barely noticeable but I still enjoy a good game of "I was ____old" a la @lacqueredlover. :-)

LabLove86 · December 2014

Fi is 3 yrs older than me - I don't think either of us have ever felt any gap at all.

Of course my previous relationship was 18 year difference. I never felt the age gap, but he always did. That played a big part into why we broke up - he couldn't get over it.

flantastic · December 2014

H is 14 months older, but we were in the same grade level - he's on the older side of what was normal for our class, and my homeschooling in grade school put me a year ahead.

He's the oldest of our college friends (by a month or two), and grouches/has knee pain/etc. like a stereotypical old man, so at this point he's got his own jingle: "Old Man River" but with his name is usually sung by someone when he does something elderly.

NowIamMrsKlein · December 2014

FI is almost exactly 2 years older than me. He's 30 and I'm 28. Our birthdays are 2 weeks apart.

There never is really anything noticeable with age difference as the gap isn't that big. I also was a lot more established than he was when we met. He was in the process of starting over after breaking off a previous engagement with a verbally and financially abusive woman. I think that's really the only thing where I feel 'young' next to him. That he had this completely other life before me. And he was my first serious boyfriend (at 25 haha. I was a late bloomer).

Although he says he feels young next to me because I've owned my own home, and I have a decent sized savings account. And within a year and a have of dating I had him completely out of debt because I knew more about financial planning then him.

So i think we even each other out a bit. Although he's desperate for kids because he wants to be a young dad and feels his clock is ticking. And i'm like. Maybe when i'm 30 we can start trying, I'm in no rush.

steph861 · December 2014

H is almost four years older than me.

lauraukoctober2014 · December 2014

5 years older than me. One of the smaller age gaps for me to be honest I seem to have always gone out with (sometimes much!) Older men

princessleia22 · December 2014

DH is 6.5 years older than me (he's 40, I'm 34). But, he looks older than his age (he looks closer to 50) and I look younger than my age (I still get carded regularly). We have had people think he was my dad before and often get weird looks. And my parents first question when they met him was how old he was. But, it doesn't bother us at all.

JaniV123 · December 2014

ShesSoCold said:

H is about a year and a half older than me, but two years in school. We went to high school together.

exatcly this for us too

FiancB · December 2014

2.5 years

VulgarGirl · December 2014

She is 5 months and 4 days older then me. And I enjoy pointing it out from time to time.

Of course she'll play the "wisdom" card with me then. She learned a lot in those 5 month and 4 days.

vulpiepop · December 2014

FI is a little more than 4 years older than me. In my family's culture, a 4 year age difference is thought of as the most lucky and stable so my parents were actually pleased that I was finally dating someone older that happened to fall into that belief (they hated that I was dating guys my own age).

smgold6 · December 2014

H is 3 years older than me.

hellosweetie1015 · December 2014

FI is 9 months older than me. I've never counted it before, haha. He was born in November, and I was born the following August.

IF everything plays out right, we will both be 27 at our wedding. I like that plan for some reason. Matchy numbers I guess.

hellosweetie1015 · December 2014

abbyj700 said:

lovedryn said:

We are 9 months apart. Although my family tends to remarry way way younger. My grandpa on my mom's side was 36 years older than my grandma. And my grandpa on my dad's side remarried a 19 year old when he was 68. Personally I find the latter vile. She is seriously younger than me, his granddaughter. And the youngest grandkids is only 4 years younger than her. Smh

Think it's vile all you want to, it's not your relationship.

One of the happiest couples I know has a 28 year age gap. On her 30th birthday she was dancing with her now husbands's son - who was 30 as well. And the son could have been picky, and turned his nose up and never had a relationship with his dad's second wife. But he didn't judge the age gap - he got to know the woman. And it's wonderful that he did - as he and his wife are super close with his dad and his second wife.

If you don't like the second wife because she's a terrible person, that's just fine. But not liking her merely because she's younger than you really only hurts you and your relationship with your grandfather.

I don't think she was saying that she thought the 19 year old getting with the 68 year old was the vile part. I kind of agree with her - not knowing anything about them, of course - but that young of a woman makes me think the 68 year old is a little bit creepy (no offense to your gramps, Lovedryn).

lovedryn · December 2014

hellosweetie1015 said:

abbyj700 said:

lovedryn said:

We are 9 months apart. Although my family tends to remarry way way younger. My grandpa on my mom's side was 36 years older than my grandma. And my grandpa on my dad's side remarried a 19 year old when he was 68.

Personally I find the latter vile. She is seriously younger than me, his granddaughter. And the youngest grandkids is only 4 years younger than her. Smh

Think it's vile all you want to, it's not your relationship.

One of the happiest couples I know has a 28 year age gap. On her 30th birthday she was dancing with her now husbands's son - who was 30 as well. And the son could have been picky, and turned his nose up and never had a relationship with his dad's second wife. But he didn't judge the age gap - he got to know the woman. And it's wonderful that he did - as he and his wife are super close with his dad and his second wife.

If you don't like the second wife because she's a terrible person, that's just fine. But not liking her merely because she's younger than you really only hurts you and your relationship with your grandfather.

I don't think she was saying that she thought the 19 year old getting with the 68 year old was the vile part. I kind of agree with her - not knowing anything about them, of course - but that young of a woman makes me think the 68 year old is a little bit creepy (no offense to your gramps, Lovedryn).

Precisely the point. It is disturbing that he is with some some that is his grandkids age. She worked as their maid at fourteen and was screwing him then too (they got married so she could stay in country and get her greencard). So yes I will continue to find the relationship pedophilic and disgusting.

@hellosweetie1015‌ no offense taken. Gramps is a bit of a creeper.

daria24 · December 2014

H is 8.5 years older. I enjoy asking him what the 70s was like. And reminding him that all the bands he loved in college, I hadn't heard of yet because I was still in elementary school.

My sister was born the year he graduated from high school. It's hilarious when they try to talk to each other about pop culture stuff.

vikinganna87 · December 2014

My FI is 9 years younger: I'm 36 and he's 27.

jennyleigh16 · December 2014

He's 15 years older and I was 19 when we started dating. I like to remind him how old he is. It's become a running joke that he trick or treated at my house and my mom probably answered the door with baby-me in her arms.

My family was not happy with the relationship and as much as they put on a front, I think only my mom has really come around. (It's been 6 years! Get over it!) We definitely meet in the middle as far as maturity goes. The only thing that phases me about the age difference is the fact that he'll get to retire 15 years earlier!

buttercup1958 · December 2014

V is either 7 or 8 years older than me. His birthday is 3 days after mine! Honestly, we never noticed the age difference. His friends thought I was older and my friends thought he was younger ha. But we have the same goals, similar attitudes, and get along very well. We are both in the same phase really. He started school later so he wouldn't be in debt and we met in a class. No one who really knows us has ever had a problem with it. My brother has but he can get over it. I honestly didn't really care about anyone's thoughts about my relationship.

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