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mrscaty · December 2014

I think this has been asked before, but -

Do you go to the bathroom with the door open in front of your SO?

mrscaty · December 2014

We had friends over last night. We prop our downstairs bathroom door open because it's honestly just easier to have it open because of it's location in the house. When the friends wanted to use the bathroom, they had to move the door prop. DH said it was there (the prop) because we hardly use the bathroom (kind of true). But really, it's because we just leave the door open when we go. DH didn't want to say that because he thought they would think we were weird. Are we? I'm looking forward to others responses!!

porkchops926 · December 2014

Ok TMI just warning everyone...

I leave it open almost always except for first poop of the morning (because it's often the most difficult haha) Usually that's the only one of the day but if I need to again it's usually quick, I am a quick and efficient pooper.

FI leaves it open for #1. #2 is totally lethal and takes him forever (is this a man thing?) and also has this thing where he likes to get completely naked to poop "because it makes him feel like a wild animal" his words exactly. But yeah even though it doesn't matter if he's naked and it obviously isn't anything I haven't seen, his poops would clear out a football stadium so the door remains closed even afterwards with the fan on for about a half hour.

Chipmunk415 · December 2014

@porkchops, we're the same way, though if I know something nasty is about to come out, I'll shut the door as a courtesy. DH always has nasty #2s- the man's butt, in my opinion, could at times qualify as a WMD. He always shuts the door. The one exception is when we're getting in the shower together, and he realizes last second that he needstogorightnow. I just lather in extra shampoo- my stuff smells good and blocks any bad odors from his butt.

lovegood90 · December 2014

Nope, bathroom activities are separate. Except showers. We haven't been living together for that long so there's still a lot of "mystery" kept in those types of activities, haha. We don't even fart in front of each other!

theartistformerlyknownas · December 2014

Nope. Sometimes if H is just peeing before bed he'll shut the door so it's just resting closed on the jamb rather than latched, but it's always closed.

doeydo · December 2014

I don't want anyone in the bathroom with me or being able to see or hear me when I am using the toilet. I am big on privacy, so those are just the "rules" around here. When SO was living with his parents, he told me that he and his parents just left the door open unless it was number 2 or company was over. That weirded me out completely, just close the mofoing door, is it that hard? Now that SO has been living with me for about a year and a half, he is weirded out when he visits his parents and looks over and his dad is peeing with the door open. No one wants to see that.

beethery · December 2014

FI shits nightmares. So, no, we close the doors.

lyndausvi · December 2014

Our bathrooms are one the third floor. Except for sleeping we are not up there often together. Both of us tend to leave the door open for #1 if we are alone or the other is not on this floor. If it's in the middle of the night neither will not shut the door. If it's in the morning we both tend to mostly close the door (but not always completely shut.)

#2 if the other is home door is always closed. If DH is gone then I do not, not sure what he does when I'm not there.

AddieCake · December 2014

I leave the door open if I am using the bathroom in our bedroom b/c it is tucked away. If I use the hall bathroom, I close it. My husband always closes the door, no matter which he is using.

porkchops926 · December 2014

@Chipmunk415 I'm glad to hear there's someone else in the "weird corner" and yeah, WMDs all the way with my guy too.

I think all the mystery and privacy went out the window when I had a horrible UTI, but I don't have a primary care and am soooo frugal so I asked FI to check it out. He pretty much gave me a full on gyno exam before prescribing the antibiotics. So yeah, I used to be really private like most of the PPs but once it gets to the point of "inspect my private area for infection" there's kind of no going back.

LadyMillil · December 2014

Closed. If kitty is playing the following game we will leave the door open enough for kitty to get it, but you can't see inside the bathroom. We only have one bathroom in the apartment so occasionally there is an emergency situation when one of us is in the shower. If you are the one in the shower the rules are no looking and no getting out of the shower until you get the ok from the other person.

chibiyui · December 2014

Depends on the estimated time, and severity of the action.

I have asked H to leave the bathroom before whilst pooping, even though I left the door open.

I reserve the right to be illogically and confusing at any given time.

FiancB · December 2014

If he's in the other room I might leave the door open. But otherwise I always close it. He leaves it open when he's peeing but I'm never in the bathroom with him, unless I'm in the shower and it's an emergency. Pooping, door closed, always.

lovedryn · December 2014

Bathroom time is definitely alone time. Well when I can keep the dogs out anyway. FI is super strict about no using the bathroom with each other in the room.

We have a one bathroom house, and he has driven to the Walmart nearby to pee before because he won't go with me in there. (He is also weird about pooping. He refuses to poop except in his home bathroom. Makes for some fun trips. He once didn't poop for a week because we were out of town visiting family. He will hold it until he gets home.)

loveislouder · December 2014

FI has no shame. I was enjoying a lovely bubble bath and started smelling kitty fart so I open the curtain and FI is pooping. Like, wtf lol I close it every time.

JoanE2012 · December 2014

Closed door. You don't have to share everything with you SO.

lyndausvi · December 2014

lovedryn said:

Bathroom time is definitely alone time. Well when I can keep the dogs out anyway. FI is super strict about no using the bathroom with each other in the room. We have a one bathroom house, and he has driven to the Walmart nearby to pee before because he won't go with me in there. (He is also weird about pooping. He refuses to poop except in his home bathroom. Makes for some fun trips. He once didn't poop for a week because we were out of town visiting family. He will hold it until he gets home.)

so he literally full of shit?

I can go to the bathroom anywhere any time. It amazes DH I'm able to do that.

It's really rare if either goes to the bathroom when the other is in there. Very rare. It happened a few weeks ago when we had guests and someone was in the other bathroom and I was in the shower. DH really had to pee, so he did. Not ideal, but sometimes it happens.

I think we are weird because we rarely even get ready together. Meaning it's pretty rare for one to be in the shower and the other is brushing their teeth or putting on makeup.

For the most part we give each other space when getting ready. DH actually gets a little annoyed if I'm around when he is getting out of the shower trying to get ready for work.

jenna8984 · December 2014

We are gross. We don't care. Doors always open, farts in bed, tell each other if we have to shit and then how big our shit was. It's part of life.

lauraukoctober2014 · December 2014

Our wash basket sometimes gets in way of door so it's propped open hopefully covering everything occasionally the dog wonders in and opens the door so there's been some visions ewww. I wouldn't choose to go but if I was desperate for a wee I probably would also I have irritable bowl syndrome so if I was in pain.. sorry lovely!
But no I wouldn't nor would hubby voluntarily go in front of each other

mrscaty · December 2014

lyndausvi said:

lovedryn said:

Bathroom time is definitely alone time. Well when I can keep the dogs out anyway. FI is super strict about no using the bathroom with each other in the room. We have a one bathroom house, and he has driven to the Walmart nearby to pee before because he won't go with me in there. (He is also weird about pooping. He refuses to poop except in his home bathroom. Makes for some fun trips. He once didn't poop for a week because we were out of town visiting family. He will hold it until he gets home.)

so he literally full of shit?

I can go to the bathroom anywhere any time. It amazes DH I'm able to do that.

It's really rare if either goes to the bathroom when the other is in there. Very rare. It happened a few weeks ago when we had guests and someone was in the other bathroom and I was in the shower. DH really had to pee, so he did. Not ideal, but sometimes it happens.

I think we are weird because we rarely even get ready together. Meaning it's pretty rare for one to be in the shower and the other is brushing their teeth or putting on makeup.

For the most part we give each other space when getting ready. DH actually gets a little annoyed if I'm around when he is getting out of the shower trying to get ready for work.

My mom can't poop unless she is at home or a very close relative's house (so mine, my sisters, or her parents). We have left places because she has to go. I can go anywhere, though.

amelisha · December 2014

FI rarely closes the door to pee but I ask him to while he's pooping (I don't need to smell that.) I close the door either way but he's been known to come in anyway, although he's gotten much better and just stands at the door, going "What are you doing?" "Pooping, what do you think?" We do tell each other about particularly weird poops though, lol.

lauraukoctober2014 · December 2014

I don't get the embarrassment people feel with pooh at work etc there are girls who sit there in agony all day because they have to go. Jesus Christ just go to the toilet we all do it! ! It's Not a unique trick u do poohing promise. Surely it's bad for your health waiting for hours and hours? ?

lyndausvi · December 2014

amelisha said:

FI rarely closes the door to pee but I ask him to while he's pooping (I don't need to smell that.) I close the door either way but he's been known to come in anyway, although he's gotten much better and just stands at the door, going "What are you doing?" "Pooping, what do you think?" We do tell each other about particularly weird poops though, lol.

I will go upstairs and DH will yell up "Lyn, Lyn, what are you doing up there?"

me "dude, I'm fucking going to the bathroom. Geez" I just do not feel the need to tell him every time.

Now he on the other hand feel the need to tell me. He actually calls me from work sometimes to tell me he is going to poo. Umm, okay? Like I'm logging in a book or something. It's weird.

mrscaty · December 2014

lyndausvi said:

amelisha said:

FI rarely closes the door to pee but I ask him to while he's pooping (I don't need to smell that.) I close the door either way but he's been known to come in anyway, although he's gotten much better and just stands at the door, going "What are you doing?" "Pooping, what do you think?" We do tell each other about particularly weird poops though, lol.

I will go upstairs and DH will yell up "Lyn, Lyn, what are you doing up there?"

me "dude, I'm fucking going to the bathroom. Geez" I just do not feel the need to tell him every time.

Now he on the other hand feel the need to tell me. He actually calls me from work sometimes to tell me he is going to poo. Umm, okay? Like I'm logging in a book or something. It's weird.

Any time DH sees that I'm pooping/I tell him about a poop he says "Make sure you post that to Buttbook." He made up Buttbook - It's like Facebook, but for all your butt activities.

Typing that out makes be see how weird we are.

climbingsingle · December 2014

We leave the door open. We're pretty open about everything. Poop, pee, farts. Everyone does it.

amelisha · December 2014

mrsgoldfish said:

lyndausvi said:

amelisha said:

FI rarely closes the door to pee but I ask him to while he's pooping (I don't need to smell that.) I close the door either way but he's been known to come in anyway, although he's gotten much better and just stands at the door, going "What are you doing?" "Pooping, what do you think?" We do tell each other about particularly weird poops though, lol.

I will go upstairs and DH will yell up "Lyn, Lyn, what are you doing up there?"

me "dude, I'm fucking going to the bathroom. Geez" I just do not feel the need to tell him every time.

Now he on the other hand feel the need to tell me. He actually calls me from work sometimes to tell me he is going to poo. Umm, okay? Like I'm logging in a book or something. It's weird.

Any time DH sees that I'm pooping/I tell him about a poop he says "Make sure you post that to Buttbook." He made up Buttbook - It's like Facebook, but for all your butt activities.

Typing that out makes be see how weird we are.

I feel like we'd get along IRL. Buttbook.

doeydo · December 2014

lyndausvi said:

amelisha said:

FI rarely closes the door to pee but I ask him to while he's pooping (I don't need to smell that.) I close the door either way but he's been known to come in anyway, although he's gotten much better and just stands at the door, going "What are you doing?" "Pooping, what do you think?" We do tell each other about particularly weird poops though, lol.

I will go upstairs and DH will yell up "Lyn, Lyn, what are you doing up there?"

me "dude, I'm fucking going to the bathroom. Geez" I just do not feel the need to tell him every time.

Now he on the other hand feel the need to tell me. He actually calls me from work sometimes to tell me he is going to poo. Umm, okay? Like I'm logging in a book or something. It's weird.

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wandajune6 · December 2014

We have a teen in the house. Doors are always closed and locked. If you don't lock it, the kid will barge in as he never knocks. We're a one bathroom house so this is particularly frustrating.

phira · December 2014

Okay, so when I was in my late teens, my parents split and my older brother went off to college, so it was just me, my mom, and my sister in the house. We basically stopped closing the bathroom doors, like, ever, and would just shout, "Don't come over here!" if we were in the bathroom while someone else was home.

When my brother was home, we WOULD close the doors. But the upstairs bathroom I shared with my siblings was set up so that you could be at the sink washing your hands and someone could be using the toilet and you could avert your eyes. So my brother would come in while I was washing my hands and he'd #1. All three of us would use the bathroom if someone was in the shower.

However, my husband has moderate OCD, so we always have to have the door closed while one of us is using the toilet (and he doesn't like it when I try to talk to him when one of us is on the toilet). He also won't use the toilet if I'm in the shower, and the only times he's been okay with me using the toilet while HE'S in the shower have been times when he's just started and I absolutely need to go (I have IBD).

kaitlynmichelle · December 2014

Doors open for 1, closed for 2. I have no issue peeing in front of H and vice versa, but I'd like the privacy for #2. I also really don't need to see him doing it.

When I'm alone I used to keep the door open since no one is around but our cat that we recently adopted gets so curious. She always follows me in there and wants to play with all the things. Adorable, but her begging for attention while I'm on the toilet is a bit annoying sometimes.

H's dad never ever closes the door. Many times at their house or cottage I'll walk down the hall only to see him mid-poop reading the newspaper. The first time I just about died from laughter at his startled face and awkward "oh....hello....". Yet he never bothers to close it even after that lovely moment. I've learned to avoid those areas if I'm not sure where he currently is.

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