Before I get to the meat of my question, let me preface this by saying that I am not a person who is bothered by porn, per se. I do find some pornography to be demeaning to women, but as long as all participants are there consensually (and, of course of age), I don't really have a problem with it. I also don't have a problem with H looking at porn from time to time. He's always been upfront with me about looking at porn and I've always said it was okay.
However, it has come to my attention that he is looking at a lot more porn than I thought that he was. As in several times a day, he is spending 30 minutes or so looking at it. Most of the time, I am not there when this is happening (already left for work, went to bed, etc.) so it isn't having much impact on the amount of time we spend together, but I can't help but think it has some impact (he stays up later, so he goes into work later, so he gets home later, so we have less time to spend together at night sort of thing). I haven't talked to him about this yet, because I think there is a good chance I am over thinking this and more bothered by it than I should be.
As a side note, because it might be relevant: I have been struggling with depression lately and I am seeing a counselor. Things are getting better, but our sex life has not been very great for the past few months and is only now starting to get back to normal.
So, help me with a reality check here: How much porn are you comfortable with your significant other looking at and when? What crosses the line in terms of porn use for you? At what point would you be concerned that use of pornography might damage your relationship?
Edit to clarify: I don't think his porn use is the cause of the issues we have been having with our sex life, I think it may be - in part - a response to it though. My depression issues killed my motivation to do pretty much anything, including sex, for a while. We are both still coping with that.
