This is bugging me so I thought I'd vent (I don't know if vent is even the right word cuz it's not like I'm raging) to you ladies.
This past weekend we went out of town to visit FI's best friend for his birthday. One of that guy's close friends was there too (let's call him Tom). I see Tom maybe a couple times a year since he lives in a different city and is the friend of a friend. He's a really nice guy (normally) and is really outgoing and fun to chat with.
As soon as we went to dinner Tom got drunk. Like ordered 3 beers at a time. Which is not really out of the ordinary for him; every time I see him he ends up getting pretty drunk so whatever. Oh, and this is probably a good time to mention that he's married, but his wife wasn't out with us.
At dinner it comes up that I had taken classes in MMA fighting, and apparently Tom was on his high school wrestling team. But he made the comment that I wouldn't want to fight him. He said I wouldn't like it because he would "put his hands all over" me. Um.. ok? Weird. And FI was sitting right there when he said it.
After stopping by another bar we go back to the birthday guy's apartment where of course Tom keeps drinking. FI stepped out on the balcony to have a cigarette and the second he was out of sight Tom comes over to me and tries to have this very odd drunken heart-to-heart chat about what a "great girl" I am. Then he hugged me... and like wouldn't let go. I'm usually not weird about being hugged but it was a very creepy hug. And he kept trying to hug me over and over and over. I finally said "Ok, Tom, I think we've had enough hugs." So then -- I'm pretty sure-- he tried to kiss me. Like, was an inch away from my mouth but I side-stepped him really quick and then just tried to stay on the opposite side of the room as him. I felt like the way he was behaving would be deemed unacceptable by his wife because he was being so handsy, and regardless of a wife, it was making me really uncomfortable. He wasn't doing it to any of the other girls in the group. And even if he was, still wouldn't make it ok.
When we were getting ready to leave (we were staying the night at a nearby hotel) Tom ambushed me out of nowhere and gave me a hug again. Not as creepy as before but at that point I didn't even want to be touched by him. FI was distracted saying goodbye to a friend and I was trying to make my way to the door and Tom blocked me and hugged me AGAIN.
I was so creeped out and so bothered by it that I told FI when we got to our hotel. He said Tom always tends to get too handsy when he drinks a lot (which I had never personally noticed before) but also FI was pretty pissed off and understandably so. Apparently Tom had gone out on the balcony at one point (while FI was out there having a cigarette) and went on and on about how FI is so lucky and Tom wishes he had a girl like me in his life. Um... you have a wife, dude.
Later when we were kind of re-hashing the overall night (because other than the creepyness it was really fun) I said something about how annoying it was that Tom got so drunk and got so grabby. FI then says "He had an intense interest in you the entire night. I noticed before he was even drunk that he kept staring at you." Even creepier. And I wasn't even looking cute. I had a big ugly sweater on cuz the weather was so nasty. I definitely was not trying to get-- or wanting-- extra attention.
This just bothers me. I mean I'm sure in a day or two I'll forget about it, but for right now it's a bit too fresh in my mind. Tom is on our guest list and FI jokingly said "Great, he's gonna be the drunk asshole who tries to make out with the bride or grabs your butt or something." I said "He knows I took MMA classes. He has been warned. He grabs my butt, I'll knock that dude on his ass." FI insisted (jokingly and oh-so-chivalrously) "I want to be the one who knocks him out!" Nope. Me! We kind of laughed about it and moved on. But... *shudder.