Do I need to send multiple invites to one home?

runsonveggies · January 2015

Okay, let me just throw in my own experience from today related to this issue, it's a little embarrassing.

I just did my invitations today with the help of my awesome MOH/FSIL. I was only planning on sending one invite per household as well. Mostly this was due to it being more convenient for me and wanting to save time and a few dollars. My MOH is in her early 30's and lives at home. I previously ran the whole "one invite per household" thing past her and she was like "Yeah, that's fine" so I figured I was good. If it didn't bother her and she was one of the people being lumped together with her parents then it must be ok, right? She's also much older than me and is more experienced with weddings so I figured she knew what was what. Well I watched this board over the past few days (in preparation for doing my invites I've been lurking hardcore on this board) and decided it wasn't worth insulting any of my guests so yesterday I printed out a few extra invites (thankfully I ordered a printable file rather than pre-printed invites or it might have been a trickier issue), no big deal it took some extra time to get them ready and ultimately do a few more invites but I figured it wasn't worth insulting anyone just to save a bit of time and some stamps!

Well when my MOH arrived today for our super exciting invitation stuffing get-together (HA!) I told her about how I decided to send adults living with their parents their own invite and explained some of the reactions I'd read about and what I was worried about with regards to guests feeling slighted or even just people not being RSVP'd properly because adult kids and their parents have different schedules and lives. You know what... she was holding out on me! She knew this was the right thing to do! She just gave me an eyebrow raise and this look like "Yeah, that's probably better..." Now again, my MOH is great, she's been amazingly helpful, she's gone above and beyond, and I'm so happy she's going to be my SIL. Neither of us has a sister so it's really awesome! But at the end of the day she just wanted me, the bride, to be happy so she (as some have said) "blew smoke up my ass" so I'd be content with my decisions.

So basically when your family tells you, "Oh it's no big deal, it's fine, no one will be insulted" etc. they might not be telling you the whole truth. If you haven't mailed out the invites yet then you still have time to get more. I think it's worth the trouble.

NYCMercedes · January 2015

Knottie7387131 said:

Okay, let me just throw in my own experience from today related to this issue, it's a little embarrassing.

I just did my invitations today with the help of my awesome MOH/FSIL. I was only planning on sending one invite per household as well. Mostly this was due to it being more convenient for me and wanting to save time and a few dollars. My MOH is in her early 30's and lives at home. I previously ran the whole "one invite per household" thing past her and she was like "Yeah, that's fine" so I figured I was good. If it didn't bother her and she was one of the people being lumped together with her parents then it must be ok, right? She's also much older than me and is more experienced with weddings so I figured she knew what was what. Well I watched this board over the past few days (in preparation for doing my invites I've been lurking hardcore on this board) and decided it wasn't worth insulting any of my guests so yesterday I printed out a few extra invites (thankfully I ordered a printable file rather than pre-printed invites or it might have been a trickier issue), no big deal it took some extra time to get them ready and ultimately do a few more invites but I figured it wasn't worth insulting anyone just to save a bit of time and some stamps!

Well when my MOH arrived today for our super exciting invitation stuffing get-together (HA!) I told her about how I decided to send adults living with their parents their own invite and explained some of the reactions I'd read about and what I was worried about with regards to guests feeling slighted or even just people not being RSVP'd properly because adult kids and their parents have different schedules and lives. You know what... she was holding out on me! She knew this was the right thing to do! She just gave me an eyebrow raise and this look like "Yeah, that's probably better..." Now again, my MOH is great, she's been amazingly helpful, she's gone above and beyond, and I'm so happy she's going to be my SIL. Neither of us has a sister so it's really awesome! But at the end of the day she just wanted me, the bride, to be happy so she (as some have said) "blew smoke up my ass" so I'd be content with my decisions.

So basically when your family tells you, "Oh it's no big deal, it's fine, no one will be insulted" etc. they might not be telling you the whole truth. If you haven't mailed out the invites yet then you still have time to get more. I think it's worth the trouble.

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