How to word the registry card...?

tbs23 · January 2015

Hello!

I am going to be putting a registry card in the invitation. I don't want it to seem like we are begging for a gift so I'd like some ideas of how to word it to make it sound nice. I was thinking something on the lines of "We do not wish to receive any special gift from you. The gift of you coming to celebrate is enough for us. If you wish to give us a gift we are registered at....." Any suggestions would be wonderful! Thanks!

manateehugger · January 2015

tbs23 said:

Hello!
I am going to be putting a registry card in the invitation. I don't want it to seem like we are begging for a gift so I'd like some ideas of how to word it to make it sound nice. I was thinking something on the lines of "We do not wish to receive any special gift from you. The gift of you coming to celebrate is enough for us. If you wish to give us a gift we are registered at....." Any suggestions would be wonderful! Thanks!

The bolded is EXACTLY what you will seem like. Registry information never ever belongs on an invitation (showers are the only exemption), because you are giving your guests the presumption of a gift. I would just anything like you worded so hard - it's false modesty about wanting gifts.

Guests will know to ask for your registry information if they need it, or they'll be like me and google your name as soon as I get a wedding invitation to see where you are registered. So just make sure your registries are searchable and leave it at that. Gift conversations should always be initiated by guests, never by the couple.

Trust me - people know how to find a registry.

mikenberger · January 2015

tbs23 said:

Hello!
I am going to be putting a registry card in the invitation. I don't want it to seem like we are begging for a gift so I'd like some ideas of how to word it to make it sound nice. I was thinking something on the lines of "We do not wish to receive any special gift from you. The gift of you coming to celebrate is enough for us. If you wish to give us a gift we are registered at....." Any suggestions would be wonderful! Thanks!

Super simple way to remedy this:

Registry cards are poor etiquette in your invitation. Don't include those. This information belongs on a wedding website or verbally passed. I would inform my bridal party and my parents and any other person that may be asked. But this info does NOT get included on an invitation to the wedding. Shower, yes. Wedding, no. And please don't include the "We don't want a gift from you..." (however you want to flower it up) That gives the impression that you were expecting gifts to begin but you're telling people, "Please, don't worry yourself with them."

Now how simple was that?!

tbs23 · January 2015

Wonderful! Thank you so much! I think it is so tacky to have it printed right on the invitation and wanted to avoid that! I really appreciate your advice!

tbs23 · January 2015

Okay! That's good to know! The last few weddings I have been invited to had those cards in there and I thought they were silly, but I just thought that everyone did it, so I had to do it too. Thank goodness that I decided to post this! Thank you!!

mikenberger · January 2015

tbs23 said:

Okay! That's good to know! The last few weddings I have been invited to had those cards in there and I thought they were silly, but I just thought that everyone did it, so I had to do it too. Thank goodness that I decided to post this! Thank you!!

Yeah, people get those cards from where they register from and believe they need to include them in their invites as instructed by the people that help them create the registries. These people care about making money, not etiquette. Which, I can't really blame them

That's their job. But yes, it's terrible etiquette to include these.

Jen4948 · January 2015

No, you are not only not required to include registry information, but it's inappropriate to mention gifts at all.

southernbelle0915 · January 2015

Good on you for deciding not to do this.

Registry info anywhere on/in an invite is an etiquette no-no. In this day and age, if someone wants to know where you're registered they google your name + the word "registry" and BOOM. Or they'll just ask if they don't know how to do that.

mlg78 · January 2015

Out of curiosity, tbs23, have you not spent time lurking on here? It shows you've been on TK for FOUR FREAKING YEARS now...but you've never bothered to pick up this little tid bit of invitation etiquette in all that time?

OP - my apologies, I didn't see your response.

MairePoppy · January 2015

mlg78, she joined 4 years ago, but this is her first post. Plus, she thanked everyone for the info. I think that was nice.

manateehugger · January 2015

Yeah, I joined long before I started posting to play with the inspiration boards and other things. I know lots of women also join when they are bridesmaids for another bride.

southernbelle0915 · January 2015

mlg78 said:

Out of curiosity, tbs23, have you not spent time lurking on here? It shows you've been on TK for FOUR FREAKING YEARS now...but you've never bothered to pick up this little tid bit of invitation etiquette in all that time?

This seems harsh. She's allowed to ask questions. Same as you when you first started posting about your wedding. I'm sure you could have just history searched everything and become an expert but you didn't. Neither is she. So chill.

floridabride44 · January 2015

mlg78 said:

Out of curiosity, tbs23, have you not spent time lurking on here? It shows you've been on TK for FOUR FREAKING YEARS now...but you've never bothered to pick up this little tid bit of invitation etiquette in all that time?

mlg78 · January 2015

Geez, guys...I didn't see her response! Many of you have been snarky...apparently others aren't allowed to, I guess. OP - my apologies.

MairePoppy · January 2015

mlg78 - Thank you for apologizing.

tbs23 · January 2015

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