FI has a situation

climbingsingle · February 2015

Brad is a fucking dickhead.

huskypuppy14 · February 2015

Brad is being ridiculous.

However, your FI needs to get over the fact that he wasn't asked to be in Brad's wedding. It also doesn't mean he doesn't want to be friends anymore. Like someone said above, wedding parties aren't tit for tat. My husband wasn't even invited to his best friend's wedding (though it was very small, only family). He still asked him to be best man and our wedding.

novella1186 · February 2015

huskypuppy14 said:

Brad is being ridiculous.

However, your FI needs to get over the fact that he wasn't asked to be in Brad's wedding. It also doesn't mean he doesn't want to be friends anymore. Like someone said above, wedding parties aren't tit for tat. My husband wasn't even invited to his best friend's wedding (though it was very small, only family). He still asked him to be best man and our wedding.

Honestly, I think he already forgot about it. He talked about it for a few minutes when he initially found out, but it hasn't been brought up since. I just included that part because that was kind of when he re-evaluated where their friendship has gone the past few years and realized it has been on its way out for a long time.

MadHops21 · February 2015

Novella, you're one of the good ones around here. You know what's up and what's good etiquette-wise. So I won't tell you to take yourself out of it, or let your FI handle it or get over Brad's wedding bit. You know all that.

I just came in here to say

ted fuck you thunder - Fuck you brad you can suck my dick

levioosa · February 2015

I'm sorry you both are dealing with this. Pps have said it all. Brad is being a douche canoe.

KatieinBkln · February 2015

Brad is an asshat. Buy the suit or don't, whiner.

FiancB · February 2015

I'm really curious as to what exactly he IS planning on wearing. I am also curious as to what this guy's redeeming qualities are that made them "friends" in the first place.

H sort of pulled this as the bride wanted everyone in solid navy and he had JUST bought a pretty expensive navy suit with pinstripes. Apparently pinstripes weren't okay. He wore the suit anyway.

But this guy doesn't even have a suit. How does a guy not have a suit? And gray is a nice color that is easy to find.

In any case it just plain sounds like he's an asshole and doesn't really want to be there so I wouldn't feel bad for one second for kicking him out.

Dreamergirl8812 · February 2015

This reminds me of right before my wedding when my mom started texting me and leaving messages that my grown cousin couldn't afford a hotel room. I looked into different options, contacted out B&B to see if he could crash there and priced other hotels but she kept telling me those options wouldn't work. All that effort was a big mistake on my part: the very first time she asked me about it I should have told her that was a personal problem and that we looked forward to seeing him at the wedding but understood if he couldn't come. It would have saved me a lot of completely unnecessary stress.

I think both you and your FI need to STOP. Brad is a grown man who doesn't need you giving him price quotes or store info. Let him figure it out on his own and if he can't, he's taken himself out of the wedding. If he texts you, tell him to text FI. You're not FI's receptionist and don't need to pass along messages. If he texts FI with stupid questions, he can explain the epic wonder that is google.

As for Brad's wedding? Oh lord that is going to be a shit show. I hope you two attend as guests just so you can tell us about it.

novella1186 · February 2015

Dreamergirl8812 said:

This reminds me of right before my wedding when my mom started texting me and leaving messages that my grown cousin couldn't afford a hotel room. I looked into different options, contacted out B&B to see if he could crash there and priced other hotels but she kept telling me those options wouldn't work. All that effort was a big mistake on my part: the very first time she asked me about it I should have told her that was a personal problem and that we looked forward to seeing him at the wedding but understood if he couldn't come. It would have saved me a lot of completely unnecessary stress.

I think both you and your FI need to STOP. Brad is a grown man who doesn't need you giving him price quotes or store info. Let him figure it out on his own and if he can't, he's taken himself out of the wedding. If he texts you, tell him to text FI. You're not FI's receptionist and don't need to pass along messages. If he texts FI with stupid questions, he can explain the epic wonder that is google.

As for Brad's wedding? Oh lord that is going to be a shit show. I hope you two attend as guests just so you can tell us about it.

Yep, it's 9 months away and crazypants fiance is already spreading the word that we should all bring our own flasks because their cash bar is going to be really expensive. Klassy.

SBmini · February 2015

OMG is your best man my husband's groomsman? I had this same exact problem! He asked all the guys to get a charcoal suit, and this guy bought light gray (the color DH was going to wear) Because he "didn't want an interview suit" and it "didn't seem like a big deal". I came here for advice which DH followed. He called him up and said the suit had to be charcoal because all the other guys were wearing charcoal. He then gave him an out- saying that if this was an issue, he didn't have to be in the wedding. Groomsman apologized and returned the suit for the right color. All the guys looked great, and the crisis was averted.

rcher912 · February 2015

@SBmini - can't be the same dude. Then Brad would have a gray suit! lol

Yeah, your FI may have been disappointed to not be in Brad's BP (and frankly, I would be, too, if I were him. We all know weddings aren't tit for tat, but if you think your relationship is in one place, and the other person thinks something different - that can be disappointing) but you guys lucked out.

Although yes, haha, please keep us informed. Sounds like a doozy!

charlieyankee03 · February 2015

I just dropped by to say kudos to the ladies on the multitude of ways to call Brad a dick.

Jen4948 · March 2015

Jumping on the "Brad is a dick" bandwagon. If he can't be bothered to get a gray suit for the wedding, then he's out. It looks like he wants out anyway.

Forward any more messages you get from Brad to your FI and let him deal with Brad. Don't respond yourself and engage the crazy.

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