Ok, so I have full physical custody of my two children, ages 14 and 12, but share legal custody 50/50 with ex-husband. Let's just say that it was not friendly and still is not. I do try to make sure that when I do communicate with my ex that it is solely about the care of the kids. The kids go out to their dads every 1st, 3rd and 5th weekend. We meet at a neutral location for both exchanges, now my drive is less because they moved out of the county, due to whatever their choices were. He's not remarried, but his current girlfriend likes to be the one that I co-parent with, meaning she's the one responding to the emails and such. I also am not opposed to going back to court to revise visitation as kids do not want to be out there as much. But I really have to make sure I have all my ducks in a row first.
Here's the issue I currently have. They drive a small truck, Ford Ranger that has flip seats for the kids to sit on. Kids are afraid to say anything as this women never gives kids a chance to have one on one time with their dad. They also have other vehicle that they can drive, but for some reason they continue to drive this truck. They have an explorer, an expedition, and some BMW as well. My concerns are regarding if they were to be in a accident what the chances of the kids getting hurt or surviving an accident in this little ranger. There is no crumble zone no matter which angle they would be hit from.
How would you address this making sure that you are clear that you are considered about the safety of the children?