Dear me,

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• themuffinman16 member

  

  February 2015 edited February 2015

  -For the love of God, when you drink, every other drink should alternate with a glass of water.

  
  

  -Hangovers are never worth it, stop yourself when you have reached buzzed.

  
  

  -Stop being a doormat.

  
  

  -Stand up to your mother.

  
  

  -Honor your parents, until they don't deserve it.

  
  

  -Let yourself off the hook about your younger sister being a drug addict.  There is probably nothing you could have done differently. You are not her mother. It wasn't you who failed her.

  
  

  -You are beautiful

  
  

  -Hips are sexy. Own them.

  
  

  -Get rid of that boyfriend, GIRLLLLL. He is entirely too selfish and will take everything from you.  But be thankful for him.

  
  

  -There are no bad boyfriends... they are just lessons we learn about ourselves that bring us closer to who we really want to spend the rest of our lives with

  
  

  -Let yourself off the hook about your Grandma's death.  She loved you more than she could ever express. You are not the reason she took her life. It is not your fault.

  
  

  -Do not feel guilty about how close you are to your twin sister. The people who are jealous of your relationship do not want what you have. They want you to not have it.    

  
  

  -Don't kick yourself in the ass for saying stupid things.  Everybody does it, stop beating yourself up, forgive yourself and move on.

  
  

  -Like Novella said:  Stop seeking your father's approval.  You won't get it, and if you do, you wouldn't want it.

  
  

  -Do not spend thousands of dollars at Victoria's Secret for lingerie you will never wear. Your husband finds you sexy wearing a burlap sack... save your money.

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• mrscomposer member

  

  February 2015 edited February 2015

  These are awesome.

  • let up on your sister.  She's one of your bestest best friends
  • don't get that first credit card.  It'll own you for a long, long time
  • don't stop taking ballet
  • don't stop taking French
  • write every day
  • you can date him, because you learned a lot - but don't jump the gun on marrying him.  Five months before your wedding date is a tough time to call it off.
  • and trust your gut on why you think things aren't going well.  You deserve to be the only one.  Just because he's your first doesn't mean he has to be your last
  • DO NOT buy a house with her!  She will not be a good business partner.  Hell, she won't even be your friend next year
  • training is going to put you through hell.  It'll be worth it.
  • this career is horrible, terrifying, political, rewarding, exhausting, lonely - but DON'T QUIT.  You'll get married because of this career
  • your body is bangin', so don't compare it to your size 0 sister
  • your future husband completely goes above and beyond everything you ever thought you'd ever want - just hold on to your socks, baby

  **The OMH formerly known as jsangel1018**

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• kmbay84 member

  

  February 2015 edited February 2015

  @DaniBites: *hugs* Like other PPs have said, you do not control other people's actions and I am sorry you went through that.
  
  Love these!
  
  Dear younger self:
  
  You will appreciate your small breasts when you are older
  
  You are worth more than you think
  
  Stay away from the manipulative jerk.  He will only cause you pain.  You deserve so much more in love and you will eventually find it.
  
  Though it may seem like you are losing 'the one' now and your heart is breaking, you will become stronger for this.  You will also soon find the love of your life who treats you better than you ever thought you could be treated.
  
  Don't be afraid to send that online message.  It will lead to finding your soul mate.
  
  Your parents are very wise and love you to pieces.  Take their advice. 
  
  Relationships are not one sided.  That is not fair to you.
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  

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• CLoGreenEyes member

  

  February 2015

  I love this thread!

  Dear younger CLo,

  -Yes, you're the weird one in elementary school. Don't let it get to you! Things get SO much better when your family moves and you have to change schools. You make some amazing friends and become part of some fun stuff during middle and high school, when a lot of people are feeling the sting of bullying and rejection. It all gets better!

  -You know how you love music, theater, and writing? Those interests never go away, so you might as well give in to them and get really, really good at them. Don't wrap those passions up and put them away because you're shy about them or because you feel like they're not useful. These things will energize you and lift you up throughout your life, so make them a part of it!

  -Your family...none of that is your fault. Things get horrifically bad for a while and then improve, but overall your parents and siblings will always be the same people. It's OK to step back and look out for yourself when you need to. It is not your job to fix everyone and take care of them.

  -Just say no to getting back together with the same guy three times! Listen to that voice in your head that's going, "Really?! THIS is what we're settling for?!" Trust me, even being with yourself is ten times better than wasting over five years on the wrong person.

  -That friend of yours when you were 14 that you had a crush on but thought he didn't like you back? There's a good chance he did. So freaking just say something to him so you know once and for all. It might not go anywhere, but that's OK; at least you won't still be wondering at age 25.

  -Respectful disagreements don't end strong friendships. If they do, reconsider what kind of friend you had to begin with.

  -Learn to love cooking, because fast food doesn't look good on your waistline or your credit card while you're getting through nursing school.

  -There are worse things than working in jobs that you love and feel fulfilled in, even if it's not the "right" career move according to certain professors. Don't feel like you have to try hospital nursing; go in the direction you feel pulled to go in, especially when there is an opportunity sitting right in front of you.

  -When you travel to England, Scotland, and Ireland, don't bring a camera. You take too many damn pictures and forget to even experience where you are. Pay attention and actually be there while you're there. You don't get to travel again for a looooooooooong time.

  -For the love of God, take your Spanish classes seriously. It's embarrassing to take seven years of a language and only understand half of what your Spanish-speaking patients say to you.

  -Don't do shit you don't want to do. Don't put time and effort into people who don't care about you and aren't good for you. Don't let anyone take advantage of your kindness and compassion; it doesn't make you less of a good person to refuse to play the martyr. Don't invest effort in jobs and majors that you feel obligated to do because someone else thinks it's a good idea. You're the only one who has to live with your choices. Make ones you are proud of and know you can follow through.

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• novella1186 member

  

  February 2015

  I love everyone's "Dear Me,"s.  I feel like this was a really good therapy session lol
  

  

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• MissKittyDanger member

  

  February 2015

  Oh gosh I love this thread ....!

  
  

  Dear Me

  
  

  - S not wanting to be public is a sign. don't continue to makeout with him, your heart will get broken.

  - and for the love of gawd do not sleep with him 7yrs later!

  - you know how you thought M was so different? really pay attention .... he's not and he's manipulative. every time you need him, he won't be there. he will drop you faster than you realize. he is also using you because he knows how in love with him you are

  - don't sleep with those other guys out of hurt.

  - don't go back to M!

  - CL isn't different. he also has his own demons. he will also use M to get back at you

  
  

  your heart will get shattered. T is sicker than you realize. go see her more.

  your dad won't be there for things he wanted to be. maybe pre-think another plan?

  
  

  listen to your dad about his mental health. ask questions. it'll come in handy when you get diagnosed with the same thing later.

  
  

  stay in French. i cannot stress this enough!

  
  

  do your homework and put more effort into school. it sucks, but trust me it's worth it.

  
  

  look at doing your license earlier when you have people who could drive you.

  
  

  you won't find 'the one' until later when you have decided to take time for yourself. you didn't find him, he found you. and damn he is a lot better than you expected!

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