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PrettyGirlLost · February 2015

levioosa said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

levioosa said:

OMG, SS on WP is going to make me claw my eyes out. I can't.

Lawl. Are you saying you require back up? Is this a Code 8?

I just googled Code 8. Google told me it was either a restroom break or a beer explosion. I'm not sure how I feel about those being lumped together.

When I Googled "police code for needing back up" code 8 was an option on one of the pages that came up, lol!

Whoops. . .

flantastic · February 2015

levioosa said:

OMG, SS on WP is going to make me claw my eyes out. I can't.

I KNOW.

"Well what if she's being a bitch and I'm not just imagining it? Am I right then? Do your answers change?" YOU DON'T FUCKING KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT THAT. WHY WOULD WE ADVISE YOU ON A HYPOTHETICAL.

ALSO, NO.

PrettyGirlLost · February 2015

Bitch is such a subjective term.

plainjane0415 · February 2015

Jells2dot0 said:

peachy13 said:

I sometimes go on reddit (r/weddingplanning) and it is almost all SS's there. I like going to give advice to brides with legit questions but I mostly like going to see what kind of etiquette nonsense is going on. They all love PPDs, throwing their own bachelorette parties, and kicking bridesmaids out because they're not helping with planning. It's atrocious but also a trainwreck I can't look away from.

Anyway, there's one thread right now about a bride who is having a DW with close family and friends, and also an AHR/full on PPD with everybody else. But, the DW is in Mexico and they don't want to bother with the "difficulty of the marriage license" so they're not even really getting legally married in Mexico - just saying vows and not signing their license. But they're not telling the DW guests that. So the poster thinks it would be a cute idea to have the AHR/PPD actually be a surprise wedding.

There is a post on the DW board about a couple not wanting their ceremony in Mexico to be their legal ceremony because she refuses to get stuck by foreign needles. So, they are having their civil ceremony before they go but their real wedding in Mexico. Um, don't get married in a foreign country????

DO YOUR RESEARCH! I'm so sick of hearing this crap from people doing destination weddings.

PrettyGirlLost · February 2015

plainjane0415 said:

Jells2dot0 said:

peachy13 said:

I sometimes go on reddit (r/weddingplanning) and it is almost all SS's there. I like going to give advice to brides with legit questions but I mostly like going to see what kind of etiquette nonsense is going on. They all love PPDs, throwing their own bachelorette parties, and kicking bridesmaids out because they're not helping with planning. It's atrocious but also a trainwreck I can't look away from.

Anyway, there's one thread right now about a bride who is having a DW with close family and friends, and also an AHR/full on PPD with everybody else. But, the DW is in Mexico and they don't want to bother with the "difficulty of the marriage license" so they're not even really getting legally married in Mexico - just saying vows and not signing their license. But they're not telling the DW guests that. So the poster thinks it would be a cute idea to have the AHR/PPD actually be a surprise wedding.

There is a post on the DW board about a couple not wanting their ceremony in Mexico to be their legal ceremony because she refuses to get stuck by foreign needles. So, they are having their civil ceremony before they go but their real wedding in Mexico. Um, don't get married in a foreign country????

DO YOUR RESEARCH! I'm so sick of hearing this crap from people doing destination weddings.

OMIGERD Guys, it's so HARD though! Blood tests and paperwork- it's exhausting!!!

novella1186 · February 2015

flantastic said:

levioosa said:

OMG, SS on WP is going to make me claw my eyes out. I can't.

I KNOW.
"Well what if she's being a bitch and I'm not just imagining it? Am I right then? Do your answers change?" YOU DON'T FUCKING KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT THAT. WHY WOULD WE ADVISE YOU ON A HYPOTHETICAL.
ALSO, NO.

Holy shit that same crazypants is still going? Every time she's all "Ok. I get it. I hate drama. I get it... but..." she just asks some other totally dumbass nonsense. Like "I get that I shouldn't be mad, so should I punch her in the face next time I see her? Ok I get I shouldn't punch her in the face, but should I be mad? Ok I get that I shouldn't be mad but how can she distress a bride in such a way?" WHAT THE FUCK IS HAPPENING

levioosa · February 2015

novella1186 said:

flantastic said:

levioosa said:

OMG, SS on WP is going to make me claw my eyes out. I can't.

I KNOW.
"Well what if she's being a bitch and I'm not just imagining it? Am I right then? Do your answers change?" YOU DON'T FUCKING KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT THAT. WHY WOULD WE ADVISE YOU ON A HYPOTHETICAL.
ALSO, NO.

Holy shit that same crazypants is still going? Every time she's all "Ok. I get it. I hate drama. I get it... but..." she just asks some other totally dumbass nonsense. Like "I get that I shouldn't be mad, so should I punch her in the face next time I see her? Ok I get I shouldn't punch her in the face, but should I be mad? Ok I get that I shouldn't be mad but how can she distress a bride in such a way?" WHAT THE FUCK IS HAPPENING

Act like the bigger person?! But we think she's a two faced bitch! We're so mad! We hate drama, but we're going to start a rumble!

novella1186 · February 2015

levioosa said:

novella1186 said:

flantastic said:

levioosa said:

OMG, SS on WP is going to make me claw my eyes out. I can't.

I KNOW.
"Well what if she's being a bitch and I'm not just imagining it? Am I right then? Do your answers change?" YOU DON'T FUCKING KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT THAT. WHY WOULD WE ADVISE YOU ON A HYPOTHETICAL.
ALSO, NO.

Holy shit that same crazypants is still going? Every time she's all "Ok. I get it. I hate drama. I get it... but..." she just asks some other totally dumbass nonsense. Like "I get that I shouldn't be mad, so should I punch her in the face next time I see her? Ok I get I shouldn't punch her in the face, but should I be mad? Ok I get that I shouldn't be mad but how can she distress a bride in such a way?" WHAT THE FUCK IS HAPPENING

Act like the bigger person?! But we think she's a two faced bitch! We're so mad! We hate drama, but we're going to start a rumble!

SIB

"If you guys don't 100% agree with me, that's just beyond disgusting." Yeah, K, and you're not the instigator of this mess at all. I wish her FI's family the best of luck cuz they're gonna need it.

drunkenwitch · February 2015

novella1186 said:

flantastic said:

levioosa said:

OMG, SS on WP is going to make me claw my eyes out. I can't.

I KNOW.
"Well what if she's being a bitch and I'm not just imagining it? Am I right then? Do your answers change?" YOU DON'T FUCKING KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT THAT. WHY WOULD WE ADVISE YOU ON A HYPOTHETICAL.
ALSO, NO.

Holy shit that same crazypants is still going? Every time she's all "Ok. I get it. I hate drama. I get it... but..." she just asks some other totally dumbass nonsense. Like "I get that I shouldn't be mad, so should I punch her in the face next time I see her? Ok I get I shouldn't punch her in the face, but should I be mad? Ok I get that I shouldn't be mad but how can she distress a bride in such a way?" WHAT THE FUCK IS HAPPENING

I just put my entire response in GIF form because I knew any words I wanted to say would get me banned.

PrettyGirlLost · February 2015

I feel sorry for her FI.

levioosa · February 2015

PrettyGirlLost said:

I feel sorry for her FI.

I actually don't. It sounds like he is right there with her on the crazy train.

novella1186 · February 2015

levioosa said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

I feel sorry for her FI.

I actually don't. It sounds like he is right there with her on the crazy train.

I don't believe her, I think she's claiming he's mad too just to give more validity to her bullshit. If he's actually mad, it's probably because of the mess she has made.

ETA: Or two crazy people really found each other and can hold hands and skip happily to the fucking nuthouse

levioosa · February 2015

novella1186 said:

levioosa said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

I feel sorry for her FI.

I actually don't. It sounds like he is right there with her on the crazy train.

I don't believe her, I think she's claiming he's mad too just to give more validity to her bullshit. If he's actually mad, it's probably because of the mess she has made.

ETA: Or two crazy people really found each other and can hold hands and skip happily to the fucking nuthouse

Maybe his whole family is crazy. And it's just a bunch of nuts skipping into the sunset together.

AuroraRose41 · February 2015

PrettyGirlLost said:

I feel sorry for her FI.

*Husband according to one of her posts. I'm thinking it's a PPD.

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AuroraRose41 · February 2015

@pinkrevenge I was seriously surprised that no one else did. I can't even with her response to me on it though. You don't type out husband "hypothetically" like that.

ETA: Never mind, she was typing it out as a hypothetical from her FSIL's POV. Still, the way she worded it did not immediately give that away.

drunkenwitch · February 2015

AuroraRose41 said:

@pinkrevenge I was seriously surprised that no one else did. I can't even with her response to me on it though. You don't type out husband "hypothetically" like that.

ETA: Never mind, she was typing it out as a hypothetical from her FSIL's POV. Still, the way she worded it did not immediately give that away.

I still stand behind all my alcohol GIFS.

AuroraRose41 · February 2015

drunkenwitch said:

AuroraRose41 said:

@pinkrevenge I was seriously surprised that no one else did. I can't even with her response to me on it though. You don't type out husband "hypothetically" like that.

ETA: Never mind, she was typing it out as a hypothetical from her FSIL's POV. Still, the way she worded it did not immediately give that away.

I still stand behind all my alcohol GIFS.

Alcohol is always appropriate.

princessgracekelly · February 2015

You know, I'm thinking that girl is like one of those girls who makes a big deal about anything about "I only hang out with guys because there's no drama" and doesn't have the emotional intelligence to realize that she's the common denominator in the drama of every group she's been in. I was that girl in middle school, save for a handful of female friends from elementary school who put up with my crazy (and are now my BMs and MOH, re: put up with my crazy), but then I got over myself.

[Deleted User] · February 2015

amelisha · February 2015

OMG the one who wants to record herself singing to be played at the wedding (and on the wrong board too...) Is this real life?

drunkenwitch · February 2015

I hate that bullshit "women create more drama than men". PEOPLE create drama. PEOPLE of all genders, class, race, orientation... whatever. I have met just as many drama kings as I have drama queens. That stereotype is straight up gaslighting douchebagery.

PrettyGirlLost · February 2015

amelisha said:

OMG the one who wants to record herself singing to be played at the wedding (and on the wrong board too...) Is this real life?

Meh, if she can actually sing and has a professional recording made? I don't see an issue with it at all.

However, if she's like a lot of people and thinks she can sing- karaoke doesn't count- then that gets a big fat NOPE from me.

amelisha · February 2015

I kinda think it's AWish regardless. Like, I have two friends who got married a few years ago who are both professional full-time musicians (film soundtrack composing/recording) and even they did not perform themselves at their wedding or play anything of themselves. They did give out CDs as favours where they sang a couple duets together, but they're professionals, with access to professional equipment and mixing and stuff, and they didn't make anyone sit through it in any event even though they're awesome.

I get paid to sing all the damn time and weddings are my most frequent gig and I still side-eye the crap out of it and would never ever want to do it at my own wedding. It's not a concert and it just seems, like...show-offy to me and not at all the point of the day. But if I'm being honest, I also think choreographed dances are the same thing. It's just anathema to me personally.

I think if she wanted to make the recording and give it to him privately, that would be lovely (I would love to receive a recording of FI performing a song!) but I think playing it at the wedding is just a completely AW thing to do.

PrettyGirlLost · February 2015

amelisha said:

I kinda think it's AWish regardless. Like, I have two friends who got married a few years ago who are both professional full-time musicians (film soundtrack composing/recording) and even they did not perform themselves at their wedding or play anything of themselves. They did give out CDs as favours where they sang a couple duets together, but they're professionals, with access to professional equipment and mixing and stuff, and they didn't make anyone sit through it in any event even though they're awesome.

I get paid to sing all the damn time and weddings are my most frequent gig and I still side-eye the crap out of it and would never ever want to do it at my own wedding. It's not a concert and it just seems, like...show-offy to me and not at all the point of the day. But if I'm being honest, I also think choreographed dances are the same thing. It's just anathema to me personally.

I think if she wanted to make the recording and give it to him privately, that would be lovely (I would love to receive a recording of FI performing a song!) but I think playing it at the wedding is just a completely AW thing to do.

I'm a hobbyist performer. . . should probably start getting into the wedding ceremony singing business as they are pretty well paid in our diocese. . . so a single event, like a song, wouldn't bother me. I'd enjoy it *IF* the person can actually sing, lol.

I think it's a sweet idea. To me it's the same as a couple writing their own personal vows, and I find those waaay more uncomfortable and awkward to sit through. I think handing out CDs as favors in which there are multiple tracks recorded by the couple is way more AW than one person singing a single song to their new spouse.

I don't like choreographed dances because usually no one in them can actyally dance ;-)

sophhabobopha · February 2015

pinkrevenge said:

princessgracekelly said:

You know, I'm thinking that girl is like one of those girls who makes a big deal about anything about "I only hang out with guys because there's no drama" and doesn't have the emotional intelligence to realize that she's the common denominator in the drama of every group she's been in. I was that girl in middle school, save for a handful of female friends from elementary school who put up with my crazy (and are now my BMs and MOH, re: put up with my crazy), but then I got over myself.

The "I'm one of the guys because girls are cray" is why I had to stop reading Laura K Hamilton's work. You can't make a strong female character by bashing female stereotypes. That makes me furious.

"I'm so different from othe girls" infuriates me.

amelisha · February 2015

PrettyGirlLost said:

amelisha said:

I kinda think it's AWish regardless. Like, I have two friends who got married a few years ago who are both professional full-time musicians (film soundtrack composing/recording) and even they did not perform themselves at their wedding or play anything of themselves. They did give out CDs as favours where they sang a couple duets together, but they're professionals, with access to professional equipment and mixing and stuff, and they didn't make anyone sit through it in any event even though they're awesome.

I get paid to sing all the damn time and weddings are my most frequent gig and I still side-eye the crap out of it and would never ever want to do it at my own wedding. It's not a concert and it just seems, like...show-offy to me and not at all the point of the day. But if I'm being honest, I also think choreographed dances are the same thing. It's just anathema to me personally.

I think if she wanted to make the recording and give it to him privately, that would be lovely (I would love to receive a recording of FI performing a song!) but I think playing it at the wedding is just a completely AW thing to do.

I'm a hobbyist performer. . . should probably start getting into the wedding ceremony singing business as they are pretty well paid in our diocese. . . so a single event, like a song, wouldn't bother me. I'd enjoy it *IF* the person can actually sing, lol.

I think it's a sweet idea. To me it's the same as a couple writing their own personal vows, and I find those waaay more uncomfortable and awkward to sit through. I think handing out CDs as favors in which there are multiple tracks recorded by the couple is way more AW than one person singing a single song to their new spouse.

I don't like choreographed dances because usually no one in them can actyally dance ;-)

I think the difference for me is that you don't have to play the CD. You can not take it, or throw it in your car or in the trash or whatever. But if someone is up there performing or if it's being played as the first dance or whatever, then you're stuck as a captive audience and forced to sit through it, and that's what makes it so weird and awkward for me. Do that ish in private.

I feel the same way about most personal vows too. It seems waaaaaaay too private to be doing in front of everyone. But then, I think maybe I feel that way about weddings in general, thus my 20-person guest list. I'm only willing to do the big declaration in front of my parents and very best friends and even that has been a stretch and I feel like I'm going to pass out thinking about it tbh. So I am obviously the wrong audience for it regardless...

KatieinBkln · February 2015

sophhabobopha said:

pinkrevenge said:

princessgracekelly said:

You know, I'm thinking that girl is like one of those girls who makes a big deal about anything about "I only hang out with guys because there's no drama" and doesn't have the emotional intelligence to realize that she's the common denominator in the drama of every group she's been in. I was that girl in middle school, save for a handful of female friends from elementary school who put up with my crazy (and are now my BMs and MOH, re: put up with my crazy), but then I got over myself.

The "I'm one of the guys because girls are cray" is why I had to stop reading Laura K Hamilton's work. You can't make a strong female character by bashing female stereotypes. That makes me furious.

"I'm so different from othe girls" infuriates me.

It's sort of like being classy. If you really are different/classy/unpretentious/laid back you really don't say it all the time. The second you do, you are SUSPECT.

Cookie Pusher · February 2015

KatieinBkln said:

sophhabobopha said:

pinkrevenge said:

princessgracekelly said:

You know, I'm thinking that girl is like one of those girls who makes a big deal about anything about "I only hang out with guys because there's no drama" and doesn't have the emotional intelligence to realize that she's the common denominator in the drama of every group she's been in. I was that girl in middle school, save for a handful of female friends from elementary school who put up with my crazy (and are now my BMs and MOH, re: put up with my crazy), but then I got over myself.

The "I'm one of the guys because girls are cray" is why I had to stop reading Laura K Hamilton's work. You can't make a strong female character by bashing female stereotypes. That makes me furious.

"I'm so different from othe girls" infuriates me.

It's sort of like being classy. If you really are different/classy/unpretentious/laid back you really don't say it all the time. The second you do, you are SUSPECT.

But guys...

YOU DON'T KNOW MY LYFE!!!

PrettyGirlLost · February 2015

amelisha said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

amelisha said:

I kinda think it's AWish regardless. Like, I have two friends who got married a few years ago who are both professional full-time musicians (film soundtrack composing/recording) and even they did not perform themselves at their wedding or play anything of themselves. They did give out CDs as favours where they sang a couple duets together, but they're professionals, with access to professional equipment and mixing and stuff, and they didn't make anyone sit through it in any event even though they're awesome.

I get paid to sing all the damn time and weddings are my most frequent gig and I still side-eye the crap out of it and would never ever want to do it at my own wedding. It's not a concert and it just seems, like...show-offy to me and not at all the point of the day. But if I'm being honest, I also think choreographed dances are the same thing. It's just anathema to me personally.

I think if she wanted to make the recording and give it to him privately, that would be lovely (I would love to receive a recording of FI performing a song!) but I think playing it at the wedding is just a completely AW thing to do.

I'm a hobbyist performer. . . should probably start getting into the
wedding ceremony singing business as they are pretty well paid in our
diocese. . . so a single event, like a song, wouldn't bother me. I'd
enjoy it *IF* the person can actually sing, lol.

I think it's a sweet idea. To me it's the same as a couple writing their own personal vows, and I find those waaay more uncomfortable and awkward to sit through. I think handing out CDs as favors in which there are multiple tracks
recorded by the couple is way more AW than one person singing a single
song to their new spouse.

I don't like choreographed dances because usually no one in them can actyally dance ;-)

I think the difference for me is that you don't have to play the CD. You can not take it, or throw it in your car or in the trash or whatever. But if someone is up there performing or if it's being played as the first dance or whatever, then you're stuck as a captive audience and forced to sit through it, and that's what makes it so weird and awkward for me. Do that ish in private.

I feel the same way about most personal vows too. It seems waaaaaaay too private to be doing in front of everyone. But then, I think maybe I feel that way about weddings in general, thus my 20-person guest list. I'm only willing to do the big declaration in front of my parents and very best friends and even that has been a stretch and I feel like I'm going to pass out thinking about it tbh. So I am obviously the wrong audience for it regardless...

To me any of the spotlight stuff at a reception- cake cutting, dances, tosses- are all just as AW as a person singing a song, and guests can walk away at any time. They aren't actually a captive audience, like they are during the ceremony while people do personal vows.

I'll be honest that in most wedding I've been to, I went to the bar or was buying BSing with people during a spotlight event. . .and I was Def MIA if there were tosses involved!

I agree with you on the vows thing though. I have never sat through a set I didn't find awkward. I felt like a voyeur or something!

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