photographer disaster- update- pics gone forever

sophhabobopha · February 2015

wrigleyville said:

This is fucking bullshit. Who the fuck doesn't back shit up to a goddamn flash drive? When I did my thesis, I had it on three separate flash drives and emailed it to both of my email accounts.

I am so pissed for you right now. Beyond pissed. My friendship with her would be OVER. It's bad enough she lost the pics, but to LIE about it for two months?

OVER. Over and done.

I really hope some of your guests took pics with their phones and cameras.

Yeah, I do that with regular papers.

The fuck.

kaitlynmichelle · February 2015

Agreed with backing everything up. Ridiculous. I hope she also pays you back every single cent that you gave her.

levioosa · February 2015

Oh man, I am so sorry. How badly is it toasted? I know you said earlier you would help pay to get them recovered. Is that a valid option at all at this point?

Viczaesar · February 2015

I'm so sorry, Jenna.

jenna8984 · February 2015

Yea, we only had 19 guests and half of them were senior citizens who don't own cameras or phones. The best man's wife was nice enough to take my camera that day so I have about 10-15 on there but of course they aren't from the best angles and not the best quality but at least it's something.

The backing shit up is what my husband doesn't understand. He is all calm and just keeps saying it was an accident and she didn't do it on purpose. No, she didn't do it on purpose but she could have done about 10 fucking things to ensure it didn't happen, and she didn't. She could have put them on a disc immediately, she could have put them on a web gallery, she could have left them on the memory card, there are a number of things a true professional would have fucking done.

And the lying is the worst. You don't think it would have been a good time to tell me that night in December when I called you bawling my face off because I heard Angela's were lost? Instead you made me go through the emotions again 2 months later?!?! She was really banking on them being recovered and me never finding out at that point. But I honestly don't know when she would have even told me if I hadn't messaged her. She did offer all my money back, which I clearly don't care about at this point, I'll take it but it doesn't make anything better. She claims she's gone to 5 different repair companies and all of them cannot recover. My cousin is a computer genius who works at MIT so I might call him and see if she can fedex him the hard drive.

@viczaesar I've probably seen your siggy for months but just staring at it this whole ten minutes that I've been typing, it made me laugh and smile.

artbyallie · February 2015

With cloud storage now cheap or free, there is no fucking excuse to not have a backup. The kind of restoration necessary is maybe possible but super expensive. But hey, if you can get her to give you the hard drive, you can use your refunded money to pay for it.

theartistformerlyknownas · February 2015

I just don't understand how she can claim she DID back them up to a hard drive, but the computer hard drive and the backup hard drive are BOTH irreparably fried. (Didn't I read that somewhere?) How does that happen? Does she live inside a microwave?

I have this feeling she forgot to put her memory card in that day and doesn't want to admit it.

kvruns · February 2015

ugh that sucks

climbingsingle · February 2015

Oh my god, Jenna. I'm fucking heartbroken for you. I wish there was something I could do.

cupcait927 · February 2015

I am so, so sorry and my heart is breaking for you. I would most certainly count that friendship over and get every cent back from her that you graciously spent to have her be there. The lying is the second worst part of this whole story. Big giant hugs to you.

maeday2 · February 2015

Oh honey, I was hoping for a positive outcome for you! I'm so so sorry.

I don't know if this will help you, but for me, I like to write all of my memories down that are tied to a special occasion. It captures my feelings and little details I won't remember later on. Maybe you and your H can sit down together and think back to your wedding day and write it all down. You'll have how special that day felt documented in some way.

I know that's not a comparison to having the photographs. I'm sorry you're dealing with this.

arrippa · February 2015

Oh Jenna, I am so sorry. I am just so sad for you right now.<hugs>

firebabe6519 · February 2015

I'm so sorry! That is just disgusting that a friend would lie about not losing the pictures of your wedding. She should have owned up to it sooner so you didn't have to ride this emotional roller coaster.

[Deleted User] · February 2015

:-( *hugs* I would be so sad too. Pics are some of the few things that are left after the day... I'd be pretty heartbroken. Agree with @lolo883; she's probably never had this happen before and therfore got careless with backing things up.

thisismynickname2 · February 2015

My heart is just broken for you. I'm so, so sorry. I think Maeday has a great suggestion- write everything down, every detail from your day.

emmaaa · February 2015

That's awful, Jenna! I'm furious for you! I don't even know what to say to try an make this better...

NowIAmSyp · February 2015

I'm so sorry- was following this thread and hoping for a much different outcome. Sending hugs your way...

dcbride86 · February 2015

I'm so so so sorry. I'm tearing up for you. How could she not have a dropbox? An icloud? Anything? Ugh. I'm so sorry. I just can't imagine how heartbroken you are. I'm so sorry!

theartistformerlyknownas · February 2015

I think once you've had some time to grieve the original pictures you should try to plan something amazing to get some different ones. Big fun photoshoot for your first anniversary, or take them to England/Iceland and get amazing pictures there.

RebeccaFlower · February 2015

lolo883 said:

I think once you've had some time to grieve the original pictures you should try to plan something amazing to get some different ones. Big fun photoshoot for your first anniversary, or take them to England/Iceland and get amazing pictures there.

I agree. I am so so sad for you, but I would be even more sad for you if you didn't do something to rectify before you look different/pregnant/dye hair etc so you have SOMETHING to hang in your home.

Lurkers: THIS is why you don't want an unplugged wedding!!

jenna8984 · February 2015

My dad always makes me feel better. I called him one time I thought my car was stolen (but it had just been towed) and I was crying and he was like "sweet, you get a new car!"

So I called him on my way to work this morning and he was like "Nobody died. Nobody got in a horrible car accident and lost their leg. How many wedding pictures did mom & I have hanging in the house when you were growing up? None. We break them out and look through them about once every 37 years. Your uncle Bob and Jane got married at the courthouse in 1982 and they have one polaroid picture from it and it doesn't affect their life. They have a happy marriage, and a happy child, just like mom & I have, and you will too. Oh and those 5 pictures you did get- wow those are amazing. That one where you're both turned sideways walking past the flowers is my favorite, I have it on my desk, you should put that one in your house!"

I really feel better. Sure I'll be heartbroken for a while but I think I can find a way to be happy with the ones I have and not a re-do. (ETA- forgot to say NOT a redo)

lovegood90 · February 2015

Aw, your dad sounds like the best! That's great he was able to put things in perspective like that!

SmileDamnit · February 2015

Oh Jenna. I'm am so very sorry to hear this is the outcome. The story is pure bullshit, and it beyond sucks that she drug out the inevitable for so long. Bad karma. Bad, bad karma.

So many hugs for you!

theartistformerlyknownas · February 2015

Awww I love your dad.

arrippa · February 2015

jenna8984 said:

My dad always makes me feel better. I called him one time I thought my car was stolen (but it had just been towed) and I was crying and he was like "sweet, you get a new car!"
So I called him on my way to work this morning and he was like "Nobody died. Nobody got in a horrible car accident and lost their leg. How many wedding pictures did mom & I have hanging in the house when you were growing up? None. We break them out and look through them about once every 37 years. Your uncle Bob and Jane got married at the courthouse in 1982 and they have one polaroid picture from it and it doesn't affect their life. They have a happy marriage, and a happy child, just like mom & I have, and you will too. Oh and those 5 pictures you did get- wow those are amazing. That one where you're both turned sideways walking past the flowers is my favorite, I have it on my desk, you should put that one in your house!"
I really feel better. Sure I'll be heartbroken for a while but I think I can find a way to be happy with the ones I have and a re-do.

Your dad sounds awesome.

emmaaa · February 2015

Dad's really are the best. My Dad always knows what to say!

pinkcow13 · February 2015

lolo883 said, she didn't put in the memory card or some shit. Or accidentally deleted them. How do the pictures just disappear from the source AND the backup source? The fact that she lied about it is fucking pathetic. Did you say that she is no longer photographing weddings? Or was that another poster I'm confusing it with?

Your dad is awesome, though, and totally right. Yes, it sucks that you lost your pics, but he definitely put things in perspective. And I think you guys should totally just take some fun pics in your dress and outfits. Maybe have a small party with whomever can come from your bridal party, have some drinks and pizza and have a fun photo-shoot.

dcbride86 · February 2015

Your dad is awesome!

Also, I have also thought my car was stolen when it had been towed. Most awkward call to the cops ever.

OliveOilsMom · February 2015

I'm so sorry that happened to you Jenna.

blabla89 · February 2015

jenna8984 said:

My dad always makes me feel better. I called him one time I thought my car was stolen (but it had just been towed) and I was crying and he was like "sweet, you get a new car!"
So I called him on my way to work this morning and he was like "Nobody died. Nobody got in a horrible car accident and lost their leg. How many wedding pictures did mom & I have hanging in the house when you were growing up? None. We break them out and look through them about once every 37 years. Your uncle Bob and Jane got married at the courthouse in 1982 and they have one polaroid picture from it and it doesn't affect their life. They have a happy marriage, and a happy child, just like mom & I have, and you will too. Oh and those 5 pictures you did get- wow those are amazing. That one where you're both turned sideways walking past the flowers is my favorite, I have it on my desk, you should put that one in your house!"
I really feel better. Sure I'll be heartbroken for a while but I think I can find a way to be happy with the ones I have and a re-do.

Words of wisdom right there. I'm so sorry you had to go through all of this, but you will always have your beautiful memories of that day (and I love @maeday2's suggestion of writing them down) and several great pictures.

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