Getting married on our 10 year anniversary

DanielleS2015 · February 2015

We are getting married on our 10 year anniversary of dating. I am looking for ideas on how to display and celebrate that at our wedding. Any ideas??

JennyColada · February 2015

So at your wedding, which is already an AW about your relationship, you want to AW more?

I guess you could print something about it on your programs, but that seems super AW to me. Maybe you could do one of those Pinterest-y signs that say "first hello [date], first date [date], I do [date]". Other than that, I think your wedding itself is more than enough celebration of your relationship.

JoanE2012 · February 2015

DanielleS2015 said:

We are getting married on our 10 year anniversary of dating. I am looking for ideas on how to display and celebrate that at our wedding. Any ideas??

I wouldn't bother. You're celebrating your wedding. I think trying to highlight it's your 10 year dating anniversary is going to have people thinking more along the lines of "bout time!" than being something cute.

AddieCake · February 2015

I agree with PPs. I don't think there is any reason to celebrate our highlight your dating anniversary at your wedding. For me, it borders on cheesy. I'm not a fan of choosing the dating anniversary or consecutive or all-same number dates (ie 12/13/14 or 11/11/11) for weddings. It just seems very giggly/cutesy to me, and I roll my eyes rather than going, "Awwww, how sweet!"

Jen4948 · February 2015

I agree too. The important thing is that you're getting married now, not how long you have been together or what has happened in the past.

manateehugger · February 2015

I agree. You're getting married, and people are coming to celebrate! That's wonderful all by itself.

A note in the program and a DJ announcement are the only things I would go for, personally.

flantastic · February 2015

Honestly, no one will really care that it's your 10-year dating anniversary. No one really cares about dating anniversaries besides the couple. What your guests care about and why they came is to see you get married, which would be just as much reason to celebrate if it happened on any other day.

If you want to continue celebrating that date as your wedding anniversary, great, but I don't think this is something you should worry about making sure your guests know.

jacques27 · February 2015

Agree with PPs - this is something you will care about way more anyone else. Most people I know don't attach that much significance to their dating anniversary once they are out of high school when the months seemed like years. If this was "celebrated" at a wedding my first thoughts would be...
1) So?
2) Really? They kept track of that?
3) Oh my goodness, did they actually plan their wedding specifically around this date?
4) Do they realize they actually got married today? Why are they making such a big deal over the first time they went to Starbucks and had awkward small talk?

climbingsingle · February 2015

I agree with the rest of the posters. I personally wouldn't even mention it.

PrettyGirlLost · February 2015

If you have been dating 10 years and are just finally getting married.. . your guests already know how long you have been dating and won't need a reminder on the day of your wedding.

I'm saying this as a person who dated her DH for 11 years before getting engaged, and then had a 2 year engagement prior to getting married. EVERYBODY knew we had been together forever at that point ;-)

jacques27 said:

Agree with PPs - this is something you will care about way more anyone else. Most people I know don't attach that much significance to their dating anniversary once they are out of high school when the months seemed like years. If this was "celebrated" at a wedding my first thoughts would be...
1) So?
2) Really? They kept track of that?
3) Oh my goodness, did they actually plan their wedding specifically around this date?
4) Do they realize they actually got married today? Why are they making such a big deal over the first time they went to Starbucks and had awkward small talk?

I disagree. Sure, I'd never personally plan my wedding date around a dating anniversary date, nor do I condone doing that. But how is this any different than a couple tracking how long they have been married? People track and celebrate wedding anniversaries, right?

I keep track of the fact that I've been with my DH for 13 years. . . why wouldn't I? We've been together longer than any of our siblings or friends have known their spouses, let alone have been married to them! I don't see why I should stop tracking the total amount of time we have been together just because we got married last year.

For us, the amount of time we have been married is insignificant when compared to how much time we have actually been together. It's not like this year on October 18th we're going to go, "Aw, we've been married for a year! Woot!" That will be great and all, but what's even greater is that we will have been together for 14 years in 2015.

jacques27 · February 2015

I'm not saying the total amount of time is inconsequential. I'm just saying that placing so much importance on that exact first date after a certain amount of time is meh. But then I just don't ascribe that much importance to exact dates for much of anything - I'm good with ballparking things within a few weeks and don't find any special magical significance to a specific date on a calendar (and most of my friends are this way as well).

I also don't bother to remember the dates of first dates because at that point I don't even know if this is going to grow into something bigger or fizzle out after a few more dates - I'm more concerned with the present and what is. I also think our dating culture these days tend to be less "I'm asking you random person on a date because I like you" (Tindr and dating apps excepted) and more friends pairing off in group situations or relationships developing out of friend or work situations where you may not have a specific date. Do you go from the date you first met but didn't have any idea something would develop? The first group date? The first time you randomly hooked up and then he puked on you at a frat party but you decided to make a go of it afterward because he's a good kisser and lo and behold 7 years later you're married?

Maggie0829 · February 2015

PrettyGirlLost said:

If you have been dating 10 years and are just finally getting married.. . your guests already know how long you have been dating and won't need a reminder on the day of your wedding.

I'm saying this as a person who dated her DH for 11 years before getting engaged, and then had a 2 year engagement prior to getting married. EVERYBODY knew we had been together forever at that point ;-)

jacques27 said:

Agree with PPs - this is something you will care about way more anyone else. Most people I know don't attach that much significance to their dating anniversary once they are out of high school when the months seemed like years. If this was "celebrated" at a wedding my first thoughts would be...
1) So?
2) Really? They kept track of that?
3) Oh my goodness, did they actually plan their wedding specifically around this date?
4) Do they realize they actually got married today? Why are they making such a big deal over the first time they went to Starbucks and had awkward small talk?

I disagree. Sure, I'd never personally plan my wedding date around a dating anniversary date, nor do I condone doing that. But how is this any different than a couple tracking how long they have been married? People track and celebrate wedding anniversaries, right?

I keep track of the fact that I've been with my DH for 13 years. . . why wouldn't I? We've been together longer than any of our siblings or friends have known their spouses, let alone have been married to them! I don't see why I should stop tracking the total amount of time we have been together just because we got married last year.

For us, the amount of time we have been married is insignificant when compared to how much time we have actually been together. It's not like this year on October 18th we're going to go, "Aw, we've been married for a year! Woot!" That will be great and all, but what's even greater is that we will have been together for 14 years in 2015.

All of this.

Your guests most likely already know how long you and your FI have been together so there really is no reason to promote it at your wedding.

And just like PGL H and I were together 9 years before getting married. We still keep track of how long we have been together (13 years this May) because we think that is just as significant as how long we have been married, if not more. And H and I became an official couple at the end of May. I mean I don't remember our first random date date but I do remember when we decided to become exclusive.

And some people are date people. Some people remember when they had their first kiss with their now H or when their H and them first met. But I do think planning a wedding around a specific date is kind of silly. I mean, your wedding anniversary will be special no matter what date it falls on. It doesn't get extra special just because it lands on your dating anniversary.

lyndausvi · February 2015

I went to a wedding where they couple had been together for 14 years before getting married.

Every toast, even comment was about how long they had been together and how it was about time they got married. Honestly I found it kind-of annoying.

Then again, I don't find a couple who took 14 years to get married any more special then a couple who got married within a year of meeting.

PrettyGirlLost · February 2015

jacques27 said:

I'm not saying the total amount of time is inconsequential. I'm just saying that placing so much importance on that exact first date after a certain amount of time is meh. OOOH it was he exact 1st date anniversary?! I apologize, I missed that. I'm with you there. . . and I have no idea when or what my 1st date was. But don't tell DH because I think he actually remembers our 1st date >< But then I just don't ascribe that much importance to exact dates for much of anything - I'm good with ballparking things within a few weeks and don't find any special magical significance to a specific date on a calendar (and most of my friends are this way as well). Thank God for FB- it tells me when people's birthdays are! And then I put them in Google Calendar because I suck with Bdays anymore ><

I also don't bother to remember the dates of first dates because at that point I don't even know if this is going to grow into something bigger or fizzle out after a few more dates - I'm more concerned with the present and what is. I also think our dating culture these days tend to be less "I'm asking you random person on a date because I like you" (Tindr and dating apps excepted) and more friends pairing off in group situations or relationships developing out of friend or work situations where you may not have a specific date. Do you go from the date you first met but didn't have any idea something would develop? The first group date? The first time you randomly hooked up and then he puked on you at a frat party but you decided to make a go of it afterward because he's a good kisser and lo and behold 7 years later you're married? Hahahaha, this is hilarious!

climbingsingle · February 2015

lyndausvi said:

I went to a wedding where they couple had been together for 14 years before getting married.

Every toast, even comment was about how long they had been together and how it was about time they got married. Honestly I found it kind-of annoying.

Then again, I don't find a couple who took 14 years to get married any more special then a couple who got married within a year of meeting.

Truth. Totally agree with you. I went to a wedding too that was like that. "OMG THEY ARE FINALLY GETTING MARRIED AFTER ALL THESE YEARS!" I found it irritating too.

PrettyGirlLost · February 2015

lyndausvi said:

I went to a wedding where they couple had been together for 14 years before getting married.

Every toast, even comment was about how long they had been together and how it was about time they got married. Honestly I found it kind-of annoying.

Then again, I don't find a couple who took 14 years to get married any more special then a couple who got married within a year of meeting.

Yeah, luckily there was very little of that at our wedding- I think our priest made a single joke and then later during a toast it was kinda brought up in jest.

Everyone has their own timelines for their relationships and life in general, and it's whatever works best for them.

Maggie0829 · February 2015

PrettyGirlLost said:

lyndausvi said:

I went to a wedding where they couple had been together for 14 years before getting married.

Every toast, even comment was about how long they had been together and how it was about time they got married. Honestly I found it kind-of annoying.

Then again, I don't find a couple who took 14 years to get married any more special then a couple who got married within a year of meeting.

Yeah, luckily there was very little of that at our wedding- I think our priest made a single joke and then later during a toast it was kinda brought up in jest.

Everyone has their own timelines for their relationships and life in general, and it's whatever works best for them.

Yup, our friend who officiated made one small joke during the ceremony but that was it. Thank god I don't have to deal with that "you are FINALLY getting married?!" or "it's about time!" bullshit anymore.

Butterflyz419 · February 2015

DanielleS2015 said:

We are getting married on our 10 year anniversary of dating. I am looking for ideas on how to display and celebrate that at our wedding. Any ideas??

This thread perfectly epitomizes the unnecessary cattiness of this place. Only one poster even bothered to answer your question and instead everyone feels a need to soliloquize on their opinions of people who might actually know and care about their dating anniversary, all with noses pointed firmly in the air with sticks wedged far up their asses even though it doesn't affect their lives or even the lives of your guests in the slightest. Pathetic.

My FI and I and I are getting married on our 6th anniversary. We did indeed choose that date for that reason, and we have wished each other a "Happy 7th" every month since we started dating. I'm a historian by profession and dates have always been significant to me so I understand wanting to choose a date that is already significant to you. We have highlighted this fact on our wedding website and it's mentioned in our programs. I also considered one of those signs that you see on Pinterest but don't have the room in our budget for it at this point but I still think they're really cute. Perhaps you could incorporate a similar concept into whatever you're using for your guestbook. Also, this wouldn't visible to your guests of course, but you could see about getting your wedding rings engraved so that one of you has your first anniversary date engraved and the other the wedding date.

flantastic · February 2015

Butterflyz419 said:

DanielleS2015 said:

We are getting married on our 10 year anniversary of dating. I am looking for ideas on how to display and celebrate that at our wedding. Any ideas??

This thread perfectly epitomizes the unnecessary cattiness of this place. Only one poster even bothered to answer your question and instead everyone feels a need to soliloquize on their opinions of people who might actually know and care about their dating anniversary, all with noses pointed firmly in the air with sticks wedged far up their asses even though it doesn't affect their lives or even the lives of your guests in the slightest. Pathetic.

My FI and I and I are getting married on our 6th anniversary. We did indeed choose that date for that reason, and we have wished each other a "Happy 7th" every month since we started dating. I'm a historian by profession and dates have always been significant to me so I understand wanting to choose a date that is already significant to you. We have highlighted this fact on our wedding website and it's mentioned in our programs. I also considered one of those signs that you see on Pinterest but don't have the room in our budget for it at this point but I still think they're really cute. Perhaps you could incorporate a similar concept into whatever you're using for your guestbook. Also, this wouldn't visible to your guests of course, but you could see about getting your wedding rings engraved so that one of you has your first anniversary date engraved and the other the wedding date.

It's not cattiness to say "No one will care about this in our experience, so save yourself the trouble." She could decide to post it on a sign next to each of the table numbers - "6/7/15 - 10 years of dating, 1 day of marriage" but it's not bad advice or mean to say that guests will not really notice or might roll their eyes. We're just trying to tell OP to save herself the work.

It's great if the date means something to her. Several people said something to that effect. Let them celebrate that privately each year however they wish. But we also said that the wedding guests are here for the wedding, and the date will mean very little to them, and a sign about the dating anniversary will not make it mean more to them.

If there were an idea which would make displaying the date worthwhile or would make it more meaningful to the guests, I would have offered it. But there isn't.

ETA I'm actually proud of how calmly I responded given the pointless nature of the bolded portion. Yes, we're the catty ones making unnecessary and insulting statements.

Butterflyz419 · February 2015

flantastic said:

Butterflyz419 said:

DanielleS2015 said:

We are getting married on our 10 year anniversary of dating. I am looking for ideas on how to display and celebrate that at our wedding. Any ideas??

This thread perfectly epitomizes the unnecessary cattiness of this place. Only one poster even bothered to answer your question and instead everyone feels a need to soliloquize on their opinions of people who might actually know and care about their dating anniversary, all with noses pointed firmly in the air with sticks wedged far up their asses even though it doesn't affect their lives or even the lives of your guests in the slightest. Pathetic.

My FI and I and I are getting married on our 6th anniversary. We did indeed choose that date for that reason, and we have wished each other a "Happy 7th" every month since we started dating. I'm a historian by profession and dates have always been significant to me so I understand wanting to choose a date that is already significant to you. We have highlighted this fact on our wedding website and it's mentioned in our programs. I also considered one of those signs that you see on Pinterest but don't have the room in our budget for it at this point but I still think they're really cute. Perhaps you could incorporate a similar concept into whatever you're using for your guestbook. Also, this wouldn't visible to your guests of course, but you could see about getting your wedding rings engraved so that one of you has your first anniversary date engraved and the other the wedding date.

It's not cattiness to say "No one will care about this in our experience, so save yourself the trouble." She could decide to post it on a sign next to each of the table numbers - "6/7/15 - 10 years of dating, 1 day of marriage" but it's not bad advice or mean to say that guests will not really notice or might roll their eyes. We're just trying to tell OP to save herself the work.
It's great if the date means something to her. Several people said something to that effect. Let them celebrate that privately each year however they wish. But we also said that the wedding guests are here for the wedding, and the date will mean very little to them, and a sign about the dating anniversary will not make it mean more to them.
If there were an idea which would make displaying the date worthwhile or would make it more meaningful to the guests, I would have offered it. But there isn't.
ETA I'm actually proud of how calmly I responded given the pointless nature of the bolded portion. Yes, we're the catty ones making unnecessary and insulting statements.

Yeah, and your guests don't give a damn about whether you use peonies vs. roses or what type of glue you should use to make your DIY invitations or where you find vases in bulk, but there are threads on these topics every single day and if the response to everyone of those queries was, your guests don't care about your vases, or I hate flowers, or matting invitations is stupid because who cares what they look like as long as they have all the info and ugh who cares about the look of their invitations anyway, it's just paper, then there would be absolutely NO POINT to this site.

If you don't have a suggestion for this poster than don't waste people's time with your non-answer. I don't answer posts that have to do with what type of wine or beer to serve because I don't like wine or beer. It serves no one for me to post railing about how much I hate wine and beer because my feelings on wine and beer are irrelevant to the question. Other people do like wine and beer. Good for them. Wanting to share the significance of the wedding date chosen with one's guests is not a big deal and doesn't deserve the scorn and derision it has received from the posters here and it's threads like this that just highlight what a nasty, narrow-minded place this is.

flantastic · February 2015

Butterflyz419 said:

flantastic said:

Butterflyz419 said:

DanielleS2015 said:

We are getting married on our 10 year anniversary of dating. I am looking for ideas on how to display and celebrate that at our wedding. Any ideas??

This thread perfectly epitomizes the unnecessary cattiness of this place. Only one poster even bothered to answer your question and instead everyone feels a need to soliloquize on their opinions of people who might actually know and care about their dating anniversary, all with noses pointed firmly in the air with sticks wedged far up their asses even though it doesn't affect their lives or even the lives of your guests in the slightest. Pathetic.

My FI and I and I are getting married on our 6th anniversary. We did indeed choose that date for that reason, and we have wished each other a "Happy 7th" every month since we started dating. I'm a historian by profession and dates have always been significant to me so I understand wanting to choose a date that is already significant to you. We have highlighted this fact on our wedding website and it's mentioned in our programs. I also considered one of those signs that you see on Pinterest but don't have the room in our budget for it at this point but I still think they're really cute. Perhaps you could incorporate a similar concept into whatever you're using for your guestbook. Also, this wouldn't visible to your guests of course, but you could see about getting your wedding rings engraved so that one of you has your first anniversary date engraved and the other the wedding date.

It's not cattiness to say "No one will care about this in our experience, so save yourself the trouble." She could decide to post it on a sign next to each of the table numbers - "6/7/15 - 10 years of dating, 1 day of marriage" but it's not bad advice or mean to say that guests will not really notice or might roll their eyes. We're just trying to tell OP to save herself the work.
It's great if the date means something to her. Several people said something to that effect. Let them celebrate that privately each year however they wish. But we also said that the wedding guests are here for the wedding, and the date will mean very little to them, and a sign about the dating anniversary will not make it mean more to them.
If there were an idea which would make displaying the date worthwhile or would make it more meaningful to the guests, I would have offered it. But there isn't.
ETA I'm actually proud of how calmly I responded given the pointless nature of the bolded portion. Yes, we're the catty ones making unnecessary and insulting statements.

Yeah, and your guests don't give a damn about whether you use peonies vs. roses or what type of glue you should use to make your DIY invitations or where you find vases in bulk, but there are threads on these topics every single day and if the response to everyone of those queries was, your guests don't care about your vases, or I hate flowers, or matting invitations is stupid because who cares what they look like as long as they have all the info and ugh who cares about the look of their invitations anyway, it's just paper, then there would be absolutely NO POINT to this site.

If you don't have a suggestion for this poster than don't waste people's time with your non-answer. I don't answer posts that have to do with what type of wine or beer to serve because I don't like wine or beer. It serves no one for me to post railing about how much I hate wine and beer because my feelings on wine and beer are irrelevant to the question. Other people do like wine and beer. Good for them. Wanting to share the significance of the wedding date chosen with one's guests is not a big deal and doesn't deserve the scorn and derision it has received from the posters here and it's threads like this that just highlight what a nasty, narrow-minded place this is.

The difference between your example and this is that OP and FI will still know that it's their dating anniversary even if they don't DIY a proclamation of it, whereas you don't get to enjoy peonies unless you actually order peonies.

We're not saying she can't proclaim it. But "save yourself the work" is a valid suggestion, and deserves as much consideration as "try putting it in a slideshow of photos about the 10 years of your relationship."

There was no scorn and derision - you are reading that into posts, and are the only person actually writing nasty things.

ETA on the wine and beer example - Your post on that subject might actually be a useful data point if the OP had never considered that a person might like neither and they should consider offering something else alcoholic to drink, even though they don't have to follow through. If someone said "I'm planning to serve only ginger ale and water at the wedding," that's not technically bad hosting, but a lot of responses letting OP know that not much ginger ale would be consumed might incline them to try something more effective.

Butterflyz419 · February 2015

flantastic said:

Butterflyz419 said:

flantastic said:

Butterflyz419 said:

DanielleS2015 said:

We are getting married on our 10 year anniversary of dating. I am looking for ideas on how to display and celebrate that at our wedding. Any ideas??

This thread perfectly epitomizes the unnecessary cattiness of this place. Only one poster even bothered to answer your question and instead everyone feels a need to soliloquize on their opinions of people who might actually know and care about their dating anniversary, all with noses pointed firmly in the air with sticks wedged far up their asses even though it doesn't affect their lives or even the lives of your guests in the slightest. Pathetic.

My FI and I and I are getting married on our 6th anniversary. We did indeed choose that date for that reason, and we have wished each other a "Happy 7th" every month since we started dating. I'm a historian by profession and dates have always been significant to me so I understand wanting to choose a date that is already significant to you. We have highlighted this fact on our wedding website and it's mentioned in our programs. I also considered one of those signs that you see on Pinterest but don't have the room in our budget for it at this point but I still think they're really cute. Perhaps you could incorporate a similar concept into whatever you're using for your guestbook. Also, this wouldn't visible to your guests of course, but you could see about getting your wedding rings engraved so that one of you has your first anniversary date engraved and the other the wedding date.

It's not cattiness to say "No one will care about this in our experience, so save yourself the trouble." She could decide to post it on a sign next to each of the table numbers - "6/7/15 - 10 years of dating, 1 day of marriage" but it's not bad advice or mean to say that guests will not really notice or might roll their eyes. We're just trying to tell OP to save herself the work.
It's great if the date means something to her. Several people said something to that effect. Let them celebrate that privately each year however they wish. But we also said that the wedding guests are here for the wedding, and the date will mean very little to them, and a sign about the dating anniversary will not make it mean more to them.
If there were an idea which would make displaying the date worthwhile or would make it more meaningful to the guests, I would have offered it. But there isn't.
ETA I'm actually proud of how calmly I responded given the pointless nature of the bolded portion. Yes, we're the catty ones making unnecessary and insulting statements.

Yeah, and your guests don't give a damn about whether you use peonies vs. roses or what type of glue you should use to make your DIY invitations or where you find vases in bulk, but there are threads on these topics every single day and if the response to everyone of those queries was, your guests don't care about your vases, or I hate flowers, or matting invitations is stupid because who cares what they look like as long as they have all the info and ugh who cares about the look of their invitations anyway, it's just paper, then there would be absolutely NO POINT to this site.

If you don't have a suggestion for this poster than don't waste people's time with your non-answer. I don't answer posts that have to do with what type of wine or beer to serve because I don't like wine or beer. It serves no one for me to post railing about how much I hate wine and beer because my feelings on wine and beer are irrelevant to the question. Other people do like wine and beer. Good for them. Wanting to share the significance of the wedding date chosen with one's guests is not a big deal and doesn't deserve the scorn and derision it has received from the posters here and it's threads like this that just highlight what a nasty, narrow-minded place this is.

The difference between your example and this is that OP and FI will still know that it's their dating anniversary even if they don't DIY a proclamation of it, whereas you don't get to enjoy peonies unless you actually order peonies.
We're not saying she can't proclaim it. But "save yourself the work" is a valid suggestion, and deserves as much consideration as "try putting it in a slideshow of photos about the 10 years of your relationship."
There was no scorn and derision - you are reading that into posts, and are the only person actually writing nasty things.

Right because proclaiming it "Attention-Whorish" and questioning "Really? they kept track of that?" are meant as compliments. Uh huh.

flantastic · February 2015

Butterflyz419 said:

flantastic said:

Butterflyz419 said:

flantastic said:

Butterflyz419 said:

DanielleS2015 said:

We are getting married on our 10 year anniversary of dating. I am looking for ideas on how to display and celebrate that at our wedding. Any ideas??

This thread perfectly epitomizes the unnecessary cattiness of this place. Only one poster even bothered to answer your question and instead everyone feels a need to soliloquize on their opinions of people who might actually know and care about their dating anniversary, all with noses pointed firmly in the air with sticks wedged far up their asses even though it doesn't affect their lives or even the lives of your guests in the slightest. Pathetic.

My FI and I and I are getting married on our 6th anniversary. We did indeed choose that date for that reason, and we have wished each other a "Happy 7th" every month since we started dating. I'm a historian by profession and dates have always been significant to me so I understand wanting to choose a date that is already significant to you. We have highlighted this fact on our wedding website and it's mentioned in our programs. I also considered one of those signs that you see on Pinterest but don't have the room in our budget for it at this point but I still think they're really cute. Perhaps you could incorporate a similar concept into whatever you're using for your guestbook. Also, this wouldn't visible to your guests of course, but you could see about getting your wedding rings engraved so that one of you has your first anniversary date engraved and the other the wedding date.

It's not cattiness to say "No one will care about this in our experience, so save yourself the trouble." She could decide to post it on a sign next to each of the table numbers - "6/7/15 - 10 years of dating, 1 day of marriage" but it's not bad advice or mean to say that guests will not really notice or might roll their eyes. We're just trying to tell OP to save herself the work.
It's great if the date means something to her. Several people said something to that effect. Let them celebrate that privately each year however they wish. But we also said that the wedding guests are here for the wedding, and the date will mean very little to them, and a sign about the dating anniversary will not make it mean more to them.
If there were an idea which would make displaying the date worthwhile or would make it more meaningful to the guests, I would have offered it. But there isn't.
ETA I'm actually proud of how calmly I responded given the pointless nature of the bolded portion. Yes, we're the catty ones making unnecessary and insulting statements.

Yeah, and your guests don't give a damn about whether you use peonies vs. roses or what type of glue you should use to make your DIY invitations or where you find vases in bulk, but there are threads on these topics every single day and if the response to everyone of those queries was, your guests don't care about your vases, or I hate flowers, or matting invitations is stupid because who cares what they look like as long as they have all the info and ugh who cares about the look of their invitations anyway, it's just paper, then there would be absolutely NO POINT to this site.

If you don't have a suggestion for this poster than don't waste people's time with your non-answer. I don't answer posts that have to do with what type of wine or beer to serve because I don't like wine or beer. It serves no one for me to post railing about how much I hate wine and beer because my feelings on wine and beer are irrelevant to the question. Other people do like wine and beer. Good for them. Wanting to share the significance of the wedding date chosen with one's guests is not a big deal and doesn't deserve the scorn and derision it has received from the posters here and it's threads like this that just highlight what a nasty, narrow-minded place this is.

The difference between your example and this is that OP and FI will still know that it's their dating anniversary even if they don't DIY a proclamation of it, whereas you don't get to enjoy peonies unless you actually order peonies.
We're not saying she can't proclaim it. But "save yourself the work" is a valid suggestion, and deserves as much consideration as "try putting it in a slideshow of photos about the 10 years of your relationship."
There was no scorn and derision - you are reading that into posts, and are the only person actually writing nasty things.

Right because proclaiming it "Attention-Whorish" and questioning "Really? they kept track of that?" are meant as compliments. Uh huh.

It's not a bad thing for people to see what their guests might think of the idea. This is not "nastiness." I repeat, you are the only one whose indignation has been actually unnecessary.

Junebug2015 · February 2015

You could ask your officiant to tie it in to the ceremony. I think that is probably the most appropriate place to do it, since that is the part of the day that really is all about you and your FI.

The other suggestions (putting it in the program, tying it into table numbers/decor, or having the DJ announce it) are fine but I think they kind of downplay the sentimentality of the fact that you're getting married on your ten-year anniversary of dating. It seems less sweet.

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PrettyGirlLost · February 2015

Butterflyz419 said:

DanielleS2015 said:

We are getting married on our 10 year anniversary of dating. I am looking for ideas on how to display and celebrate that at our wedding. Any ideas??

This thread perfectly epitomizes the unnecessary cattiness of this place. Only one poster even bothered to answer your question and instead everyone feels a need to soliloquize on their opinions of people who might actually know and care about their dating anniversary, all with noses pointed firmly in the air with sticks wedged far up their asses even though it doesn't affect their lives or even the lives of your guests in the slightest. Pathetic. I answered her question. Stating that after 10 years all of her guests will pretty much know how long they have been together and so therefore calling attention to that fact is unnecessary, is an answer.

Also, I didn't realize that giving an opinion is now equated with having a stick up one's ass now. Thank God you came in here to post this diatribe so that we all know better now! Phew!

My FI and I and I are getting married on our 6th anniversary. We did indeed choose that date for that reason, and we have wished each other a "Happy 7th" every month since we started dating. I'm a historian by profession and dates have always been significant to me so I understand wanting to choose a date that is already significant to you. We have highlighted this fact on our wedding website and it's mentioned in our programs. I also considered one of those signs that you see on Pinterest but don't have the room in our budget for it at this point but I still think they're really cute. Perhaps you could incorporate a similar concept into whatever you're using for your guestbook. Also, this wouldn't visible to your guests of course, but you could see about getting your wedding rings engraved so that one of you has your first anniversary date engraved and the other the wedding date.

wrigleyville · February 2015

Butterflyz419 said:

If you don't have a suggestion for this poster than don't waste people's time with your non-answer. I don't answer posts that have to do with what type of wine or beer to serve because I don't like wine or beer. It serves no one for me to post railing about how much I hate wine and beer because my feelings on wine and beer are irrelevant to the question. Other people do like wine and beer. Good for them. Wanting to share the significance of the wedding date chosen with one's guests is not a big deal and doesn't deserve the scorn and derision it has received from the posters here and it's threads like this that just highlight what a nasty, narrow-minded place this is.

Why are you even here if you hate it so much?

You only pop up to remind us of how catty/bitchy we are, knowing full well what the response to that will be, so why even stick around?

Are you seriously that thirsty for attention?

ashley8918 · February 2015

wrigleyville said:

Butterflyz419 said:

If you don't have a suggestion for this poster than don't waste people's time with your non-answer. I don't answer posts that have to do with what type of wine or beer to serve because I don't like wine or beer. It serves no one for me to post railing about how much I hate wine and beer because my feelings on wine and beer are irrelevant to the question. Other people do like wine and beer. Good for them. Wanting to share the significance of the wedding date chosen with one's guests is not a big deal and doesn't deserve the scorn and derision it has received from the posters here and it's threads like this that just highlight what a nasty, narrow-minded place this is.

Why are you even here if you hate it so much?

You only pop up to remind us of how catty/bitchy we are, knowing full well what the response to that will be, so why even stick around?

Are you seriously that thirsty for attention?

Butterflyz419 · February 2015

wrigleyville said:

Butterflyz419 said:

If you don't have a suggestion for this poster than don't waste people's time with your non-answer. I don't answer posts that have to do with what type of wine or beer to serve because I don't like wine or beer. It serves no one for me to post railing about how much I hate wine and beer because my feelings on wine and beer are irrelevant to the question. Other people do like wine and beer. Good for them. Wanting to share the significance of the wedding date chosen with one's guests is not a big deal and doesn't deserve the scorn and derision it has received from the posters here and it's threads like this that just highlight what a nasty, narrow-minded place this is.

Why are you even here if you hate it so much?

You only pop up to remind us of how catty/bitchy we are, knowing full well what the response to that will be, so why even stick around?

Are you seriously that thirsty for attention?

I'm here because the brides who post deserve another perspective instead of pages of the TK's party line, which is negative about pretty much everything. And I post on many topics without complaining about the tone here but since most of you have decided to ignore my comments you just don't notice. That's not my problem. I have a right to post here whatever I please, just like the rest of you. You can continue to ignore me if you don't like it, but I have a perspective which could benefit people who post here and I'll continue to contribute it when and how I see fit.

PrettyGirlLost · February 2015

Butterflyz419 said:

wrigleyville said:

Butterflyz419 said:

If you don't have a suggestion for this poster than don't waste people's time with your non-answer. I don't answer posts that have to do with what type of wine or beer to serve because I don't like wine or beer. It serves no one for me to post railing about how much I hate wine and beer because my feelings on wine and beer are irrelevant to the question. Other people do like wine and beer. Good for them. Wanting to share the significance of the wedding date chosen with one's guests is not a big deal and doesn't deserve the scorn and derision it has received from the posters here and it's threads like this that just highlight what a nasty, narrow-minded place this is.

Why are you even here if you hate it so much?

You only pop up to remind us of how catty/bitchy we are, knowing full well what the response to that will be, so why even stick around?

Are you seriously that thirsty for attention?

I'm here because the brides who post deserve another perspective instead of pages of the TK's party line, which is negative about pretty much everything. And I post on many topics without complaining about the tone here but since most of you have decided to ignore my comments you just don't notice. That's not my problem. I have a right to post here whatever I please, just like the rest of you. You can continue to ignore me if you don't like it, but I have a perspective which could benefit people who post here and I'll continue to contribute it when and how I see fit.

If so many random people who don't know each other all have pretty much the same opinion on something. . . yes, must be nothing more than a "party line".

ashley8918 · February 2015

PrettyGirlLost said:

Butterflyz419 said:

wrigleyville said:

Butterflyz419 said:

If you don't have a suggestion for this poster than don't waste people's time with your non-answer. I don't answer posts that have to do with what type of wine or beer to serve because I don't like wine or beer. It serves no one for me to post railing about how much I hate wine and beer because my feelings on wine and beer are irrelevant to the question. Other people do like wine and beer. Good for them. Wanting to share the significance of the wedding date chosen with one's guests is not a big deal and doesn't deserve the scorn and derision it has received from the posters here and it's threads like this that just highlight what a nasty, narrow-minded place this is.

Why are you even here if you hate it so much?

You only pop up to remind us of how catty/bitchy we are, knowing full well what the response to that will be, so why even stick around?

Are you seriously that thirsty for attention?

I'm here because the brides who post deserve another perspective instead of pages of the TK's party line, which is negative about pretty much everything. And I post on many topics without complaining about the tone here but since most of you have decided to ignore my comments you just don't notice. That's not my problem. I have a right to post here whatever I please, just like the rest of you. You can continue to ignore me if you don't like it, but I have a perspective which could benefit people who post here and I'll continue to contribute it when and how I see fit.

If so many random people who don't know each other all have pretty much the same opinion on something. . . yes, must be nothing more than a "party line".

Obviously, we are just all in cahoots. BITCHEZ UNITE.

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