UGH unnecessary drama with kids meals

[Deleted User] · February 2015

Can't you just go back to the parents and apologize for any confusion, but clarify your original intent?

Tell them you have to pick ONE of the options to serve EVERY child, so you may not be able to accommodate their specific request. Tell them that if a child does have a food allergy you will unfortunately have to remove that as an option, even if is the ONLY thing their child will eat.

It's not your fault that these parents allow their children to eat so narrowly if there's not medical reason for it.

Most parents I know will bring snacks / things their kids enjoy knowing this kind of thing could happen. I wouldn't stress on it too much and I'd go back and just tell the parents what you were trying to accomplish with the original request.

dcbride86 · February 2015

novella1186 said:

dcbride86 said:

STARMOON44 said:

Call the venue and pay extra so they can all have what they want. To me you presented this really confusingly. I can see how they took this as "select your favorite" because that's how menu choices ordinarily work. Or pick whatever you think will be most popular.

Did I? My exact text was: "Hey ___! I received a list of potential child's meals for the wedding. Of course, they're also welcome to eat one of the "adult" dinners. I can only choose one child's meal to serve to all the kids, so I want to check if [CHILD] has any allergies, or if there's a food on the list that he absolutely hates or makes him sick" Then I sent the list of options given to me by the venue
Is that confusing? I'm not trying to be defensive, I'm genuinely asking

To me it seems pretty clear, but sometimes people only hear/read what they want to. They might have read that as "pick your favorite!"

I think it would have been easier if you had simply said, "Hey, does kid have any food allergies, or any particular food issues the caterer should be aware of?"
Then the answer is either yes or no.

But that's ok, you were just trying to be nice. Have you ever read the book "If You Give a Mouse a Cookie"? The author probably had real-life inspiration lol

Yes, I defintiely should have done that. Hindsight, man. It's always 20/20

flutteringinfl · February 2015

I also don't think what you sent was confusing, but I've also learned that when it comes to emailing, minimal information and details will yield the best results. If you're concerned, I'd just send a follow up email where you state the essential facts. "Hey, sorry, let me clarify. I can only select one kids' meal for all the children, so I wanted to see if little Susie has any allergies?"

If you're not that concerned, just pick something on your own and call it a day. I think either way you'll be gravy.

Dreamergirl8812 · February 2015

Does anyone else suddenly feel like doubling up on their birth control?

thisismynickname2 · February 2015

You know, since I was a picky child, at this point my mother would have wrapped some cold pizza in tinfoil and plastic rap, shoved it in her purse, and called it good for the wedding.

Agree with poster who said it's a wedding, not a restaurant. Good luck to you!

STARMOON44 · February 2015

dcbride86 said:

STARMOON44 said:

Call the venue and pay extra so they can all have what they want. To me you presented this really confusingly. I can see how they took this as "select your favorite" because that's how menu choices ordinarily work. Or pick whatever you think will be most popular.

Did I? My exact text was: "Hey ___! I received a list of potential child's meals for the wedding. Of course, they're also welcome to eat one of the "adult" dinners. I can only choose one child's meal to serve to all the kids, so I want to check if [CHILD] has any allergies, or if there's a food on the list that he absolutely hates or makes him sick" Then I sent the list of options given to me by the venue

Is that confusing? I'm not trying to be defensive, I'm genuinely asking

Nope this doesn't sound confusing at all!

theartistformerlyknownas · February 2015

You weren't confusing at all, and if the parents think that email entitled them to a full menu offering for their speshul snowflake babies then they're in the wrong. Choose something that's the least offensive and move on. Maybe see if the venue will do chicken tender sliders with a mac and cheese side.

I did special favors for the kids with fruit snacks (the all natural fruit juice kind so they were SOMEWHAT not evil) and a bag from a mixed pack of mini cookies like Teddy Grahams, Lorna Doons, etc (all certified nut-free, since FG is deathly allergic), so they could snack during cocktail hour. (little bead puzzle mazes and activity books in there too, and blinky LED rings)

[Deleted User] · February 2015

lc07 · February 2015

I don't think what you asked was confusing but you did ask if the kid hates anything. And the parents told you. The kid hates everything but chicken fingers or whatever. So now you're stuck with having the answer to the question but unable to accommodate everyone.

Agree that the ship has sailed on the question asked. But at this point I'd try to accommodate each kid if possible since you asked if they "hate" the options - or I love Lynda's suggestion of putting a bunch of things on one plate.

dcbride86 · February 2015

Thanks everyone!! It looks like I did find an option that all the kids can agree on!! Thank god!

What actually really annoyed me about this is that I've seen the kids eat things the parents say they hate. But I guess it's kids, and they'll all of a sudden hate a food they used to love.

[Deleted User] · February 2015

ashley8918 · February 2015

pinkrevenge said:

I'm glad I'm not a parent, because I don't know how I would react to a kid who will only eat one thing. Probably yell things like "You little Darwin Award, why do you want scurvy?!"

I've nevvvverrrr said anything like this to my kids. Nope. Not me. Never.

Maggie0829 · February 2015

thisismynickname said:

You know, since I was a picky child, at this point my mother would have wrapped some cold pizza in tinfoil and plastic rap, shoved it in her purse, and called it good for the wedding.

Agree with poster who said it's a wedding, not a restaurant. Good luck to you!

Seriously. If a parent knows their kid is picky as shit that all they will eat is chicken nuggets, then they will most likely come prepared with a 10 piece from McDs.

dcbride86 · February 2015

pinkrevenge said:

I'm glad I'm not a parent, because I don't know how I would react to a kid who will only eat one thing. Probably yell things like "You little Darwin Award, why do you want scurvy?!"

My first year of law school, I always drank Blue Moon at the bars because I was worried my diet of granola bars and Diet Coke would give me scurvy if it weren't for the orange that came with Blue Moon

novella1186 · February 2015

Maggie0829 said:

thisismynickname said:

You know, since I was a picky child, at this point my mother would have wrapped some cold pizza in tinfoil and plastic rap, shoved it in her purse, and called it good for the wedding.

Agree with poster who said it's a wedding, not a restaurant. Good luck to you!

Seriously. If a parent knows their kid is picky as shit that all they will eat is chicken nuggets, then they will most likely come prepared with a 10 piece from McDs.

I don't get the extreme pickyness in kids? I feel like it's something maybe inadvertently impressed upon them by their parents (but I don't have kids so I could be 100% wrong on that).

When I was a kid I loved to eat raw oysters, octopus, squid (any seafood, really), any kind of vegetable (when I was maybe 6 I asked a waitress if I could have a side of broccoli instead of french fries) and I feel like it's because my parents are really open-minded eaters so they told me to just try things. So I did. And I liked it all. Maybe my taste buds were just different or maybe I was a really weird kid lol. But picky eaters drive me nuts!

(Especially the adults who claim to be allergic to everything just because they don't want to try it. Like "I hate sushi. I'm so allergic to raw fish." "Oh, have you ever had it?" "No, I can't try it. I know I'm allergic cuz I don't like the way it looks." Um ok jackass.)

Maggie0829 · February 2015

novella1186 said:

Maggie0829 said:

thisismynickname said:

You know, since I was a picky child, at this point my mother would have wrapped some cold pizza in tinfoil and plastic rap, shoved it in her purse, and called it good for the wedding.

Agree with poster who said it's a wedding, not a restaurant. Good luck to you!

Seriously. If a parent knows their kid is picky as shit that all they will eat is chicken nuggets, then they will most likely come prepared with a 10 piece from McDs.

I don't get the extreme pickyness in kids? I feel like it's something maybe inadvertently impressed upon them by their parents (but I don't have kids so I could be 100% wrong on that).

When I was a kid I loved to eat raw oysters, octopus, squid (any seafood, really), any kind of vegetable (when I was maybe 6 I asked a waitress if I could have a side of broccoli instead of french fries) and I feel like it's because my parents are really open-minded eaters so they told me to just try things. So I did. And I liked it all. Maybe my taste buds were just different or maybe I was a really weird kid lol. But picky eaters drive me nuts!

(Especially the adults who claim to be allergic to everything just because they don't want to try it. Like "I hate sushi. I'm so allergic to raw fish." "Oh, have you ever had it?" "No, I can't try it. I know I'm allergic cuz I don't like the way it looks." Um ok jackass.)

I think it varies from child to child. My Mom loves all food and always had veggies of all sorts at our dinner table. My Dad, not so much. My sister took after my Mom where she would eat everything. I however went through stages of liking and not liking things. I am still kind of picky (not remotely close to when I was a child) and am willing to try new foods. I still hate green beans and broccoli. Whenever they are served I give them a whirl, but each time ew.

My niece is pretty picky. My sister tries to get her to give new foods a chance but one can only deal with so many screaming fits before you just give in and give her some mac and cheese. So my sister just waits patiently for an opening when my niece is in a more adventurous mood to get her to eat some brussel sprouts or sweet potatoes or what not.

[Deleted User] · February 2015

charcoalandblush · February 2015

Honestly, I think some kids it's their parents coddling them, but others, it's just personal. I'm adventurous in the sense that I'll try just about any food a couple of times, but I'm still SUCH a picky eater. There are so many foods that I just don't like. I'm not afraid to re-try stuff now that I didn't like as a kid, but probably 4/5 times I still don't like it.

kvruns · February 2015

out of 3 kids, my oldest brother would eat any and everything, my middle one is one of the pickiest adults you will ever find, and I was picky as a kid but am better as an adult. Why 2 of us ended up picking and the 3rd didn't, who knows.

My middle bro drives my FI crazy because my mom definitely coddles to his pickiness when it comes to family get togethers (making sure the menu will appease by mid 30s brother bc he is so picky) even though the rest of the attendees would eat the normal food. I find it mildly annoying but FI and I have seriously had fights about it bc he gets so riled up about it

[Deleted User] · February 2015

KatieinBkln · February 2015

pinkrevenge said:

kvruns said:

out of 3 kids, my oldest brother would eat any and everything, my middle one is one of the pickiest adults you will ever find, and I was picky as a kid but am better as an adult. Why 2 of us ended up picking and the 3rd didn't, who knows.

My middle bro drives my FI crazy because my mom definitely coddles to his pickiness when it comes to family get togethers (making sure the menu will appease by mid 30s brother bc he is so picky) even though the rest of the attendees would eat the normal food. I find it mildly annoying but FI and I have seriously had fights about it bc he gets so riled up about it

I would be your FI. I know every year my mom makes a beautiful meal for my SF's entire family, but one aunt just seems to hate flavor. She complains about everything and eats nothing.

And I frankly think she can just go starve. I've spent every Christmas eating a huge amount of leftovers from the day before on the way to her house so that I can choke down as little of her burnt pre-made rolls and canned ham and still be gracious and her bitchy ass can do the same. Everyone else likes mashed potatoes and turkey and veggies and stuffing and pie and even the kids have a little salad because it's good for them. Shut up.

I do have a very very picky friend, but she recently found out that her level of picky eating is an untreated eating disorder, and she's been very good about trying new food in comfortable, familiar recipes in an attempt to correct it as much as she can. I will cater to her, but I won't cater to a grown adult who just wants everyone to bend to them, and I won't cater to a child who decides they only eat one thing every twenty minutes.

My sister's ex was a pain in the ass like that. Would not eat green things (except iceberg lettuce!). Would spend dinners at our family home picking the world's tiniest onions out of things. My mom actually stopped putting onions in recipes (or making a smaller bowl of "onion-free" stuff for him). He had no health issues (except, presumably, scurvy and high cholesterol) and I thought he was unspeakably rude. If you know there are onions in something and you can't stomach it, politely decline it. Eat the other parts of the meal. But a grown-ass man with a little pile of onions left on his plate after a meal with his in-laws is just the tackiest.

lyndausvi · February 2015

KatieinBkln said:

pinkrevenge said:

kvruns said:

out of 3 kids, my oldest brother would eat any and everything, my middle one is one of the pickiest adults you will ever find, and I was picky as a kid but am better as an adult. Why 2 of us ended up picking and the 3rd didn't, who knows.

My middle bro drives my FI crazy because my mom definitely coddles to his pickiness when it comes to family get togethers (making sure the menu will appease by mid 30s brother bc he is so picky) even though the rest of the attendees would eat the normal food. I find it mildly annoying but FI and I have seriously had fights about it bc he gets so riled up about it

I would be your FI. I know every year my mom makes a beautiful meal for my SF's entire family, but one aunt just seems to hate flavor. She complains about everything and eats nothing.

And I frankly think she can just go starve. I've spent every Christmas eating a huge amount of leftovers from the day before on the way to her house so that I can choke down as little of her burnt pre-made rolls and canned ham and still be gracious and her bitchy ass can do the same. Everyone else likes mashed potatoes and turkey and veggies and stuffing and pie and even the kids have a little salad because it's good for them. Shut up.

I do have a very very picky friend, but she recently found out that her level of picky eating is an untreated eating disorder, and she's been very good about trying new food in comfortable, familiar recipes in an attempt to correct it as much as she can. I will cater to her, but I won't cater to a grown adult who just wants everyone to bend to them, and I won't cater to a child who decides they only eat one thing every twenty minutes.

My sister's ex was a pain in the ass like that. Would not eat green things (except iceberg lettuce!). Would spend dinners at our family home picking the world's tiniest onions out of things. My mom actually stopped putting onions in recipes (or making a smaller bowl of "onion-free" stuff for him). He had no health issues (except, presumably, scurvy and high cholesterol) and I thought he was unspeakably rude. If you know there are onions in something and you can't stomach it, politely decline it. Eat the other parts of the meal. But a grown-ass man with a little pile of onions left on his plate after a meal with his in-laws is just the tackiest.

See I don't see it like that.

I HATE onions. I can't stand the texture of an onion. Especially a raw one. GROSS. The flavor of onion doesn't both me though (i.e onion power) Just because I do not like onions I do not like the rest of the dish. I just eat around the onions. NDB

IDK, I fail to see how declining an entire dish is better then just eating around 1 part you do not like? I'm not making the person make me a special dish for me. I've never asked for a onion-free meal. I just simply eat around the onions. Sometimes there is someone around who asks for them. I'm like "sure - have all you want".

KatieinBkln · February 2015

lyndausvi said:

KatieinBkln said:

pinkrevenge said:

kvruns said:

out of 3 kids, my oldest brother would eat any and everything, my middle one is one of the pickiest adults you will ever find, and I was picky as a kid but am better as an adult. Why 2 of us ended up picking and the 3rd didn't, who knows.

My middle bro drives my FI crazy because my mom definitely coddles to his pickiness when it comes to family get togethers (making sure the menu will appease by mid 30s brother bc he is so picky) even though the rest of the attendees would eat the normal food. I find it mildly annoying but FI and I have seriously had fights about it bc he gets so riled up about it

I would be your FI. I know every year my mom makes a beautiful meal for my SF's entire family, but one aunt just seems to hate flavor. She complains about everything and eats nothing.

And I frankly think she can just go starve. I've spent every Christmas eating a huge amount of leftovers from the day before on the way to her house so that I can choke down as little of her burnt pre-made rolls and canned ham and still be gracious and her bitchy ass can do the same. Everyone else likes mashed potatoes and turkey and veggies and stuffing and pie and even the kids have a little salad because it's good for them. Shut up.

I do have a very very picky friend, but she recently found out that her level of picky eating is an untreated eating disorder, and she's been very good about trying new food in comfortable, familiar recipes in an attempt to correct it as much as she can. I will cater to her, but I won't cater to a grown adult who just wants everyone to bend to them, and I won't cater to a child who decides they only eat one thing every twenty minutes.

My sister's ex was a pain in the ass like that. Would not eat green things (except iceberg lettuce!). Would spend dinners at our family home picking the world's tiniest onions out of things. My mom actually stopped putting onions in recipes (or making a smaller bowl of "onion-free" stuff for him). He had no health issues (except, presumably, scurvy and high cholesterol) and I thought he was unspeakably rude. If you know there are onions in something and you can't stomach it, politely decline it. Eat the other parts of the meal. But a grown-ass man with a little pile of onions left on his plate after a meal with his in-laws is just the tackiest.

See I don't see it like that.

I HATE onions. I can't stand the texture of an onion. Especially a raw one. GROSS. The flavor of onion doesn't both me though (i.e onion power) Just because I do not like onions I do not like the rest of the dish. I just eat around the onions. NDB

IDK, I fail to see how declining an entire dish is better then just eating around 1 part you do not like? I'm not making the person make me a special dish for me. I've never asked for a onion-free meal. I just simply eat around the onions. Sometimes there is someone around who asks for them. I'm like "sure - have all you want".

I guess it's more the WAY he did it. Like, if you can be discreet and not draw attention to yourself while you pick every miniscule bit of onion out of your taco meat, I guess I wouldn't care. Removing "the onion" from your burger? No biggie! But it was SO OBVIOUS what he was doing and it was gross.

I don't know. I have such little tolerance for pickiness that I'm probably being a jerk. But it seems to me a person should be able to put that damn shit in their mouth and chew just like they sometimes have to suck it up and smile at the boss or bean dip their aunt or whatever. We do things we don't love all the time.

theartistformerlyknownas · February 2015

I'm definitely with Lynda on the onion pickiness. It's not that I just don't like the taste of them, crunching into an unexpected onion makes me physically gag. I don't think THAT is polite at the dinner table either, so I'd much rather discretely eat around them. And I very rarely turn down something I'm offered. Sometimes if I know there could still be onions lurking, I will literally just choke them down by swallowing the bite whole. I can't just chew and eat as if there's nothing wrong though.

lyndausvi · February 2015

KatieinBkln said:

lyndausvi said:

KatieinBkln said:

pinkrevenge said:

kvruns said:

out of 3 kids, my oldest brother would eat any and everything, my middle one is one of the pickiest adults you will ever find, and I was picky as a kid but am better as an adult. Why 2 of us ended up picking and the 3rd didn't, who knows.

My middle bro drives my FI crazy because my mom definitely coddles to his pickiness when it comes to family get togethers (making sure the menu will appease by mid 30s brother bc he is so picky) even though the rest of the attendees would eat the normal food. I find it mildly annoying but FI and I have seriously had fights about it bc he gets so riled up about it

I would be your FI. I know every year my mom makes a beautiful meal for my SF's entire family, but one aunt just seems to hate flavor. She complains about everything and eats nothing.

And I frankly think she can just go starve. I've spent every Christmas eating a huge amount of leftovers from the day before on the way to her house so that I can choke down as little of her burnt pre-made rolls and canned ham and still be gracious and her bitchy ass can do the same. Everyone else likes mashed potatoes and turkey and veggies and stuffing and pie and even the kids have a little salad because it's good for them. Shut up.

I do have a very very picky friend, but she recently found out that her level of picky eating is an untreated eating disorder, and she's been very good about trying new food in comfortable, familiar recipes in an attempt to correct it as much as she can. I will cater to her, but I won't cater to a grown adult who just wants everyone to bend to them, and I won't cater to a child who decides they only eat one thing every twenty minutes.

My sister's ex was a pain in the ass like that. Would not eat green things (except iceberg lettuce!). Would spend dinners at our family home picking the world's tiniest onions out of things. My mom actually stopped putting onions in recipes (or making a smaller bowl of "onion-free" stuff for him). He had no health issues (except, presumably, scurvy and high cholesterol) and I thought he was unspeakably rude. If you know there are onions in something and you can't stomach it, politely decline it. Eat the other parts of the meal. But a grown-ass man with a little pile of onions left on his plate after a meal with his in-laws is just the tackiest.

See I don't see it like that.

I HATE onions. I can't stand the texture of an onion. Especially a raw one. GROSS. The flavor of onion doesn't both me though (i.e onion power) Just because I do not like onions I do not like the rest of the dish. I just eat around the onions. NDB

IDK, I fail to see how declining an entire dish is better then just eating around 1 part you do not like? I'm not making the person make me a special dish for me. I've never asked for a onion-free meal. I just simply eat around the onions. Sometimes there is someone around who asks for them. I'm like "sure - have all you want".

I guess it's more the WAY he did it. Like, if you can be discreet and not draw attention to yourself while you pick every miniscule bit of onion out of your taco meat, I guess I wouldn't care. Removing "the onion" from your burger? No biggie! But it was SO OBVIOUS what he was doing and it was gross.

I don't know. I have such little tolerance for pickiness that I'm probably being a jerk. But it seems to me a person should be able to put that damn shit in their mouth and chew just like they sometimes have to suck it up and smile at the boss or bean dip their aunt or whatever. We do things we don't love all the time.

I think people who get offended by stuff like this are overly sensitive. I would be FAR more upset if someone flat out refused something I made over someone picking out less the 5% of the ingredients of a certain dish.

I also have more respect for someone eating around something they do not like, then flat out refusing something because of one ingredient that can be picked out.

I dislike people like my uncle. He use to eat my mom's mashed potatoes. For like, years. Then one Thanksgiving he happen to be in the kitchen when my mom was mashing. He saw her add pepper. That was the end of him EVER eating her mashed potatoes again. WTF? You have been eating this for years now and only when you see how it was prepared there he decided he didn't like eating them. Whatever dude.

Different stokes for different folks, I guess.

I also get a feeling your not your BIL's biggest fan. Which as we know makes little things even bigger. I'm guilty of that with my SIL.

teddygirl9 · February 2015

I dislike picky eaters. For xmas dinner this year, So and I had to make a roast, and bring it to his parents house, because one of the people doesn't eat turkey. So we made a whole roast, pretty much just for him.

His daughter also tells people she is allergic to tomatoes, even though she just dislikes them. She got caught one time though, when she asked for a burger with no tomatoes. They specify 'allergy or preference?' and she said allergy. And then requested ketchup for her fries haha.

levioosa · February 2015

lyndausvi said:

KatieinBkln said:

lyndausvi said:

KatieinBkln said:

pinkrevenge said:

kvruns said:

out of 3 kids, my oldest brother would eat any and everything, my middle one is one of the pickiest adults you will ever find, and I was picky as a kid but am better as an adult. Why 2 of us ended up picking and the 3rd didn't, who knows.

My middle bro drives my FI crazy because my mom definitely coddles to his pickiness when it comes to family get togethers (making sure the menu will appease by mid 30s brother bc he is so picky) even though the rest of the attendees would eat the normal food. I find it mildly annoying but FI and I have seriously had fights about it bc he gets so riled up about it

I would be your FI. I know every year my mom makes a beautiful meal for my SF's entire family, but one aunt just seems to hate flavor. She complains about everything and eats nothing.

And I frankly think she can just go starve. I've spent every Christmas eating a huge amount of leftovers from the day before on the way to her house so that I can choke down as little of her burnt pre-made rolls and canned ham and still be gracious and her bitchy ass can do the same. Everyone else likes mashed potatoes and turkey and veggies and stuffing and pie and even the kids have a little salad because it's good for them. Shut up.

I do have a very very picky friend, but she recently found out that her level of picky eating is an untreated eating disorder, and she's been very good about trying new food in comfortable, familiar recipes in an attempt to correct it as much as she can. I will cater to her, but I won't cater to a grown adult who just wants everyone to bend to them, and I won't cater to a child who decides they only eat one thing every twenty minutes.

My sister's ex was a pain in the ass like that. Would not eat green things (except iceberg lettuce!). Would spend dinners at our family home picking the world's tiniest onions out of things. My mom actually stopped putting onions in recipes (or making a smaller bowl of "onion-free" stuff for him). He had no health issues (except, presumably, scurvy and high cholesterol) and I thought he was unspeakably rude. If you know there are onions in something and you can't stomach it, politely decline it. Eat the other parts of the meal. But a grown-ass man with a little pile of onions left on his plate after a meal with his in-laws is just the tackiest.

See I don't see it like that.

I HATE onions. I can't stand the texture of an onion. Especially a raw one. GROSS. The flavor of onion doesn't both me though (i.e onion power) Just because I do not like onions I do not like the rest of the dish. I just eat around the onions. NDB

IDK, I fail to see how declining an entire dish is better then just eating around 1 part you do not like? I'm not making the person make me a special dish for me. I've never asked for a onion-free meal. I just simply eat around the onions. Sometimes there is someone around who asks for them. I'm like "sure - have all you want".

I guess it's more the WAY he did it. Like, if you can be discreet and not draw attention to yourself while you pick every miniscule bit of onion out of your taco meat, I guess I wouldn't care. Removing "the onion" from your burger? No biggie! But it was SO OBVIOUS what he was doing and it was gross.

I don't know. I have such little tolerance for pickiness that I'm probably being a jerk. But it seems to me a person should be able to put that damn shit in their mouth and chew just like they sometimes have to suck it up and smile at the boss or bean dip their aunt or whatever. We do things we don't love all the time.

I think people who get offended by stuff like this are overly sensitive. I would be FAR more upset if someone flat out refused something I made over someone picking out less the 5% of the ingredients of a certain dish.

I also have more respect for someone eating around something they do not like, then flat out refusing something because of one ingredient that can be picked out.

I dislike people like my uncle. He use to eat my mom's mashed potatoes. For like, years. Then one Thanksgiving he happen to be in the kitchen when my mom was mashing. He saw her add pepper. That was the end of him EVER eating her mashed potatoes again. WTF? You have been eating this for years now and only when you see how it was prepared there he decided he didn't like eating them. Whatever dude.

Different stokes for different folks, I guess.

I also get a feeling your not your BIL's biggest fan. Which as we know makes little things even bigger. I'm guilty of that with my SIL.

Ugh, that's my Dad. God forbid he actually see the vegetable go into the dish, or notice that my Mom puts a little sour cream in the mashed potatoes she's making. But he'll eat it for years without saying anything. Then, boom, one day he'll wander into the kitchen, see what actually goes into the dish, and it's on the "DO NOT MAKE" list forever.

jdluvr06 · February 2015

lyndausvi said:

KatieinBkln said:

pinkrevenge said:

kvruns said:

out of 3 kids, my oldest brother would eat any and everything, my middle one is one of the pickiest adults you will ever find, and I was picky as a kid but am better as an adult. Why 2 of us ended up picking and the 3rd didn't, who knows.

My middle bro drives my FI crazy because my mom definitely coddles to his pickiness when it comes to family get togethers (making sure the menu will appease by mid 30s brother bc he is so picky) even though the rest of the attendees would eat the normal food. I find it mildly annoying but FI and I have seriously had fights about it bc he gets so riled up about it

I would be your FI. I know every year my mom makes a beautiful meal for my SF's entire family, but one aunt just seems to hate flavor. She complains about everything and eats nothing.

And I frankly think she can just go starve. I've spent every Christmas eating a huge amount of leftovers from the day before on the way to her house so that I can choke down as little of her burnt pre-made rolls and canned ham and still be gracious and her bitchy ass can do the same. Everyone else likes mashed potatoes and turkey and veggies and stuffing and pie and even the kids have a little salad because it's good for them. Shut up.

I do have a very very picky friend, but she recently found out that her level of picky eating is an untreated eating disorder, and she's been very good about trying new food in comfortable, familiar recipes in an attempt to correct it as much as she can. I will cater to her, but I won't cater to a grown adult who just wants everyone to bend to them, and I won't cater to a child who decides they only eat one thing every twenty minutes.

My sister's ex was a pain in the ass like that. Would not eat green things (except iceberg lettuce!). Would spend dinners at our family home picking the world's tiniest onions out of things. My mom actually stopped putting onions in recipes (or making a smaller bowl of "onion-free" stuff for him). He had no health issues (except, presumably, scurvy and high cholesterol) and I thought he was unspeakably rude. If you know there are onions in something and you can't stomach it, politely decline it. Eat the other parts of the meal. But a grown-ass man with a little pile of onions left on his plate after a meal with his in-laws is just the tackiest.

See I don't see it like that.

I HATE onions. I can't stand the texture of an onion. Especially a raw one. GROSS. The flavor of onion doesn't both me though (i.e onion power) Just because I do not like onions I do not like the rest of the dish. I just eat around the onions. NDB

IDK, I fail to see how declining an entire dish is better then just eating around 1 part you do not like? I'm not making the person make me a special dish for me. I've never asked for a onion-free meal. I just simply eat around the onions. Sometimes there is someone around who asks for them. I'm like "sure - have all you want".

I pick around onions and peppers. I don't mind the flavor but they can make me pretty ill and I would rather not risk that.

Maggie0829 · February 2015

jdluvr06 said:

lyndausvi said:

KatieinBkln said:

pinkrevenge said:

kvruns said:

out of 3 kids, my oldest brother would eat any and everything, my middle one is one of the pickiest adults you will ever find, and I was picky as a kid but am better as an adult. Why 2 of us ended up picking and the 3rd didn't, who knows.

My middle bro drives my FI crazy because my mom definitely coddles to his pickiness when it comes to family get togethers (making sure the menu will appease by mid 30s brother bc he is so picky) even though the rest of the attendees would eat the normal food. I find it mildly annoying but FI and I have seriously had fights about it bc he gets so riled up about it

I would be your FI. I know every year my mom makes a beautiful meal for my SF's entire family, but one aunt just seems to hate flavor. She complains about everything and eats nothing.

And I frankly think she can just go starve. I've spent every Christmas eating a huge amount of leftovers from the day before on the way to her house so that I can choke down as little of her burnt pre-made rolls and canned ham and still be gracious and her bitchy ass can do the same. Everyone else likes mashed potatoes and turkey and veggies and stuffing and pie and even the kids have a little salad because it's good for them. Shut up.

I do have a very very picky friend, but she recently found out that her level of picky eating is an untreated eating disorder, and she's been very good about trying new food in comfortable, familiar recipes in an attempt to correct it as much as she can. I will cater to her, but I won't cater to a grown adult who just wants everyone to bend to them, and I won't cater to a child who decides they only eat one thing every twenty minutes.

My sister's ex was a pain in the ass like that. Would not eat green things (except iceberg lettuce!). Would spend dinners at our family home picking the world's tiniest onions out of things. My mom actually stopped putting onions in recipes (or making a smaller bowl of "onion-free" stuff for him). He had no health issues (except, presumably, scurvy and high cholesterol) and I thought he was unspeakably rude. If you know there are onions in something and you can't stomach it, politely decline it. Eat the other parts of the meal. But a grown-ass man with a little pile of onions left on his plate after a meal with his in-laws is just the tackiest.

See I don't see it like that.

I HATE onions. I can't stand the texture of an onion. Especially a raw one. GROSS. The flavor of onion doesn't both me though (i.e onion power) Just because I do not like onions I do not like the rest of the dish. I just eat around the onions. NDB

IDK, I fail to see how declining an entire dish is better then just eating around 1 part you do not like? I'm not making the person make me a special dish for me. I've never asked for a onion-free meal. I just simply eat around the onions. Sometimes there is someone around who asks for them. I'm like "sure - have all you want".

I pick around onions and peppers. I don't mind the flavor but they can make me pretty ill and I would rather not risk that.

I detest green peppers but like the flavor that they give a dish. So I pick around them. Everyone has something that they do not like to eat. Some more then others. To be so irritated by picky eaters is just ridiculous to me. Why is it about someone who is picky that it bothers you (general) so much? Now if someone is sitting there bitching and complaining to you that he has to pick around the onions because he fucking hates them and you should know better, then okay. But if he isn't making a big scene then who the fuck cares?!

I would be considered a picky eater. How does me not liking sushi or fish or baked beans have any impact on you? If you make me chili with beans in it I will eat around them. I am certainly not going to eat something that could potentially make me gag just to not irritate you. Sorry not sorry.

UGH unnecessary drama with kids meals

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